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My DH's divorce settlement stated he had to carry life insurance to cover the balance owed on the property settlement and the remaining child support until the child was 19 1/2.

Unless it's specified in some sort of court agreement, it's whoever the beneficiary is.

...when you reply to your motion, ask the judge to award you attorney's fees based on her history of frivalous motions.  In your reply, list all the bogus times she's taken you to court.  In the outside chance the judge awards you reimbursement of your attorney fees, that'll make her think twice about harrassing you.  It worked for us.

We have the same problem with my 6 y.o. SD.  She has been telling us that our son, her half-brother, is not her real brother because they don't have the same mommy.  She also says that the BM's parents (SD lives at their house with BM) and her mom are her parents, not her dad.

I'm at a loss on this too.  It cuts like a knife.

Scary story though...replace Florida with Illinois and Ireland with Michigan and it sounds exactly like my husband's scenario....

You're going to love this one and I want everyone to never believe what anyone tells you, always ask to see the proof and follow up on every last detail, using every last breath that you have.

Case in point, in October, the Great State of Michigan grabbed our federal income tax refund for an arrearage.  Problem was, there was no arrearage, it had been paid in full 3 months earlier but of course, they never report the good news to the government.  They weren't current with their records for arrearage balances.

So I expected our child support coupons in November or December to show a decreased amount for the overpayment because of the income tax refund taken.  Nothing showed.  So I wrote them a letter saying WTF????

We got a form letter from the Great State Of Michigan:

December 10, 2003

Dear Sir or Madam,

Our office has received Federal Tax money from the IRS (YEAH...ALMOST THREE MONTHS AGO!).  Our records indicated your acount has support arrearages (REALLY ZERO NOW), service ($21) and processing fees ($43) that remain due.

With your permission (WHY DO YOU NEED MY PERMISSION????  YOU ALREADY SUCKED MY $1200 TAX REFUND!!!), we would like to pay off these debts and return the portion, if any, to you (REFUND ME $1146???).  Please respond by signing the bottom of the form and returning this letter to us by January 2, 2004.

Sincerely,

Oakland County Friend of the Court

THE FOLLOWING HAD TO BE SIGNED Permission:  I authorize Oakland County Friend of the Court to apply my tax money to the above identified account for any and all arrearages, service and processing fees due.

______________________


WHAT WOULD HAVE HAPPENED if I hadn't written that letter asking them why they hadn't paid out that money?  And what would have happened if I didn't respond by Jan 2nd?  Would the money just evaporate???

Never mind the huge problem this caused with our estimated tax payments for the year 2003.  This was NOT fun money for the refund.  We're self employed and it was to be applied towards the payment of our 2003 taxes.  So now I'm incurring huge underpayment and late penalties for being $1200 underpaid.

I think most normal people would assume that this would have been paid and not followed up on anything.  Don't assume nothin' because all it does is make an ASS out of U and ME.

BM's in NY, we're in IL, jurisdiction is MI.  We can't force her to move here.  Just want to re-establish our parental rights, which now, we have none.  Just babysteps towards getting sole physical.

"My mistakes do happen on a grand scale and very public level. They're humiliating, embarrassing. But if nothing bad happens to you, you'll just continue to act ridiculous." --Christian Slater, USA Today, December 14, 1997


Mar 14, 1998, The bad-boy actor slinked out of his suburban L.A. jail cell early Saturday morning, released after serving only 59 days of his three-month sentence for drug and battery charges.   Slater wound up back in the lockup on January 14, sentenced to serve time after melting down at a friend's party. The intoxicated Slater punched his girlfriend in the face, bit the host in the gut and wrestled cops until one grabbed him in a chokehold.  Slater pleaded no contest to the resulting battery and drug charges in December. (He also faces a lawsuit brought by one of the arresting officers who claims he was seriously hurt trying to subdue the actor at the party.)

:-X

"She was my only child. My only grandkids. I don't have any more," Danison said, her voice breaking. "And I'll never have them."

--Aren't women giving birth in prison from conjugal visits all of the time?  Her daughter can always have more, let gramma have custody since she'll be in prison waiting for her death penalty and have the state pay them welfare.

Hamm's court-appointed attorney, Steve Skelton, said he may ask to move the trial from Clinton, a central Illinois town of about 7,500. "The massive amount of media coverage makes a fair and impartial trial in the current venue unlikely," he said.

--I live in IL, I hope that move this case to my jurisdiction.  I'd volunteer for jury duty.

"Amanda's a very depressed person, low self-esteem, very insecure. But she'd laugh with the kids. She always had a great Christmas for them. ... She'd plan for their birthdays," Danison said.

--Yep, she gave her kids a great Christmas this year.

Hello All,

We're in the midst of challenging custody/move away.  Long story.

ANYWAY

Can anyone please give me some issues to incorporate into our motion to change custody from sole legal (BM of course) to joint legal?  We're not challenging physical custody....at this time....just trying to legally re-establish our parental rights.  Taking baby steps.

Typical story seen on this board a million time, PBFH BM at divorce settlement falsely accuses DH of domestic violence (no proof, no incidents during the 3 year separation).  BM claims she needs sole legal custody because she fears for her life and she cannot co-parent with BF because they never agree on anything in regards to the child (funny, this was never a problem when they were married).  Of course, there was restricted access to child during separation by BM.

There are no major notables with child in regards to school or health.  It's difficult to come up with points for the motion that don't also address physical custody.

Would be eternally grateful for any ideas or thoughts.

THANKS!