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Ummm....the court order doesn't cover Jessi writing everyone, only you.

The court order doesn't cover letters, only e-mail.

I too don't see what the difference is on a personal level, but the order doesn't cover letters, it talks about e-mails, right?  And it doesn't talk about everyone only you right?

If the order talks about one call on Sunday nights at 7 pm, that's really the only "call" that you can take the EX back to court for.  Yes, it would probably be reasonable to be a bit late on your part.  Dooo Dooo happens and I'm gonna guess (advise) that the judge would say no earlier than 7 pm, but within say the next hour.

See -- those "major activities" are interference with your time.  Check out "www.bigzoo.com" because it's just like a calling card, cheap, and instant documentation of when you tried to call.  You can try say every day in the morning on Saturday and Sunday and if mom doesn't answer the phone, it becomes a "so what".  BUT when it's in addition to the 7 pm try on Sunday evenings per the order, the "so what" documentation turns in showing the Mom won't cooperate with proposed Plan B or C or D....but she can't get into trouble specifically for not allowing Plan B, C, or D....only what's in the order.

I agree with Joni....stick to the order and press forward.

You can only go by what's in your court order.  If it doesn't address written letters and DOES address unlimited e-mail access, IMHO, you aren't gonna get far with regards to the letters.

BUT BM doesn't have e-mail set up for you two to use, so that's the route you go.

That's great!

And you have mail...

Iris

Popping in and out right now....gotta run my daughter to work.

Feel free to e-mail me at [email protected]

Popping in and out right now....gotta run my daughter to work.

Feel free to e-mail me at [email protected]

Cops can't enforce "civil" divorce decrees.  They are there for the ciminal laws.

The main way to enforce what he's entitled to is to file a "Motion to Show Cause" with the family court where jurisdiction is.

I suggest you (or rather he) go down to the county courthouse and see if they have the forms already done up which he needs to file.

The biggest thing is to be able to prove that she denied the time and to have a good record that shows a consistent denial on her part.  

Since the daughter is in these "beauty pagents" work on getting proof that this is what the daughter has been doing to support what you're saying.  (Anyways, dad might like to have the information for his personal purposes to keep track of his daughter).

It's an uphill battle.....but it's well worth it and he has to fight it now before it totally gets out of hand.

They can check it out thoroughly -- down to seeing what IP address you are posting from and what others are posting from.

Profiles are not required, BUT people that have come here to hassle the board or others usually don't fill them out or lie on them anyway.

Skip the sarcasm......O.K.

DH had the truth too -- and his attorney wasn't allowed to enter the police report we had into evidence where it said that BM tried to kill her children.  Yep, you read right.

And the judge wouldn't let DH's attorney enter any recordings from phone calls either....

Then again, DH had a crooked judge.

I do wish you good luck.....just don't get your hopes up too high!

And by all means, come back and share what happened.

Let me be the first....to wish you luck.

Hopefully your attorney can get it all included as evidence as you think.

Well, if it's Iowa, then Kitty should be able to help.

I did it on my own against my EX and basically drew up a "Motion to Show Cause" and then followed the format from the divorce decree.

My EX filed against me and the court clerk had a form he filled out.

So maybe your place has the same?

(BTW -- I had similar evidence and so did DH.  It's not as easy as it sounds or looks to get evidence into the record.  You specifically mention a police report, for example, DH has one too where his EX told the police officer she was gonna hurt the children -- but his attorney couldn't get it accepted by the court.  If I remember correctly, the police officer needed to be present to testify as to the contents of the report.  So it's "stuff" like that that will hold you back.  Stuff that you consider evidence -- but due to the rules of evidence etc, it won't  help you unless you are a skilled attorney who knows how to bring it in.)