PARENTING AGREEMENT:
Decision Making:
Each party has a right to confer with the other pertaining to all major decisions affecting the welfare of their child(ren) (unless otherwise prohibited by Court order, example: Domestic Violence Restraining Order). Both parents shall confer so that major decisions affecting the welfare of the child(ren) will be determined jointly. Such major decisions may include, but are not limited to, the education, medical and dental care, religious training, and discipline of the minor child(ren). The (PRP) has a duty to discuss with the (SRP) the advantages and disadvantages of all major decisions regarding the children and to work with the (SRP) in an effort to reach a joint decision. For example, this duty would include an obligation to discuss a decision to remove a child(ren) from public school in order to enroll a child(ren) in private school, it may include allowing a child to participate in a school related activity e.g., field trip. It would not include a decision to have a child's hair cut. In the event the parties are unable to agree on a decision affecting the welfare of the minor child(ren) and time does not permit a hearing before the Court, then the (PRP) has the right to make the decision and the (SRP) may file petition within a reasonable time to review the decision.
FACT:
BM refuses to discuss anything with me. She feels my requests for information on our daughter are an act of being controlling instead of caring. She send DD to a therapist without my knowledge, signed her up for classes at her school without talking to me, allowed her an out of town field trip without discussing it with me and I am sure a zillion other things that I obviously don't know about. She has made it clear that because she is doing a "fine job" with our daughter, that I don't deserve this information. She is very proud to say that infront of anyone and everyone.
Evidence:
Several still unopened FedEx packages that I sent her regading visitation arrangements, trips we are taking while DD is with me and one about guitar lessons.
An unopened certified letter also stating a trip the I intended on taking DD on and other issues.
She blocked my email addys
A letter from her stating that she refuses to discuss anything with me unless it is regarding visitation or an emergency and all discussion must be made thru untrackable mail or by phone.
A voicemail from her that states that she has the right not to communicate with me if she doesn't want to.
Another letter refering to a letter I sent asking about being notifed when DD is ill and when she goes out of town as minutia and stating that she will not respond to it (she did not specifically say anything about the trips or illness but basically stated that it was BS that I was asking for the information in the letter she just received from me).
Trip Itinerary:
Each parent has the right to know the whereabouts of the child(ren) when parenting time will be exercised in a different locale other than the home. Should either parent have the child(ren) away from their normal residence for a period of more than 24 hours (e.g. for a trip or vacation) then such parent shall provide the other with an itinerary of where the child(ren) will be staying providing addresses, telephone numbers of each location, the length of the stay, the name of all persons who may provide care for the child(ren) during the stay, the departure date, and the date of return/arrival. In case of an emergency involving the child(ren) and in the best interest of the child(ren), each parent is encouraged to communicate with the other(unless prohibited by Court order) when he or she will be traveling away from home for less than 24 hours. The parties should provide the other parent with telephone number(s), pager, voice mail, or a third party so that the parent may contact the other parent if there is an emergency involving the child(ren).
FACT:
She has never notified me about any overnight stays my daughter has done including an out of town field trip that lasted a week.
PARENTING AGREEMENT:
Medical Condition: Each parent has the right to know of any significant illness of a child or significant injury sustained by such child(ren). "Significant" is hereby defined as any such condition which would require a child to miss school or to be taken to a health care provider. Each party shall notify the other promptly of any significant illness or injury affecting the minor child(ren).
FACT:
My daughter missed 16 days of school last year. I had not gotten a notice about 1 of those absenses.
PARENTING AGREEMENT:
When airline transportation is used and the child(ren) is/are below the age to fly unaccompanied, the parent having the child transported by air for parenting time must make arrangements with the airline(s) to have the child accompanied by airline personnel. The additional cost of which shall be divided equally between the parents; unless otherwise provided by Court order or agreement between the parties.
FACT: Our daughter has flown many times to my home. My exwife's half of the unaccompanied minor fees comes to $375 now. She will not pay it. One of the problems is, after we settled the last Parenting agreement, she sued me for an increase in CS. The court ordered that we try to work it out ourselves. Initially I drafted a proposal for part of the unaccompanied minor fees that she was to pay be deducted from the child support. She called and yelled and screamed and had me take it out because DD will not be using the services until she is 18 and she felt it artificially lowered the CS. I agreed, verbally, and we negotiated further and settled on a number higher than the one I initally proposed (she was very insistant that I pay more).
Evidence:
A letter from my exwife refusing to pay for the fees. First she refused because she was offsetting it against several things she siad I owe her, which I am NOT responsible for (cost of the paperwork she paid for to file for the CS increase, the filing costs for the increase, a medical bill that she incurred because she did not use my insurance on my daughter). Later she argued that it was taken out of CS, per my inital proposal.
A letter refusing to pay for her half of the fees at the airport.
COURT ORDER:
She did not show for a deposition in which I incurred legal fees for and ourt reported fees. The court ordered she reimbursement in the amount of $270.
FACT:
She states that she no longer owes me anything. She states that she told my lawyer that she wasn't coming because she had class and that it is my tough luck. She also argues that she has it deducted from purchases she made for our daughter (field trip money, etc).
Evidence:
I have her claimes in a letter she wrote me.
Questions
1. Is my case strong enough, in you opinion, to argue that she is shutting me out of the decision making?
2. Would a proper request to the court be that BM must email me once a week with brief items such as school issues and health issues?
3. Would the evidence that I have be strong enough to show that she is not willing to discuss DD's illnesses with me?
4. Would the evidence that I have be strong enough to support the fact that she never sends me an itinerary?
5. Do you feel that the letters that I wrote in negotiation of CS will bite me in the a$$ regading the unaccompanied minor fees even though the number increased $100 a month from that proposal?
I guess that is it. I have more, but I think those are the things I can prove the most.
Thanks
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Decision Making:
Each party has a right to confer with the other pertaining to all major decisions affecting the welfare of their child(ren) (unless otherwise prohibited by Court order, example: Domestic Violence Restraining Order). Both parents shall confer so that major decisions affecting the welfare of the child(ren) will be determined jointly. Such major decisions may include, but are not limited to, the education, medical and dental care, religious training, and discipline of the minor child(ren). The (PRP) has a duty to discuss with the (SRP) the advantages and disadvantages of all major decisions regarding the children and to work with the (SRP) in an effort to reach a joint decision. For example, this duty would include an obligation to discuss a decision to remove a child(ren) from public school in order to enroll a child(ren) in private school, it may include allowing a child to participate in a school related activity e.g., field trip. It would not include a decision to have a child's hair cut. In the event the parties are unable to agree on a decision affecting the welfare of the minor child(ren) and time does not permit a hearing before the Court, then the (PRP) has the right to make the decision and the (SRP) may file petition within a reasonable time to review the decision.
FACT:
BM refuses to discuss anything with me. She feels my requests for information on our daughter are an act of being controlling instead of caring. She send DD to a therapist without my knowledge, signed her up for classes at her school without talking to me, allowed her an out of town field trip without discussing it with me and I am sure a zillion other things that I obviously don't know about. She has made it clear that because she is doing a "fine job" with our daughter, that I don't deserve this information. She is very proud to say that infront of anyone and everyone.
Evidence:
Several still unopened FedEx packages that I sent her regading visitation arrangements, trips we are taking while DD is with me and one about guitar lessons.
An unopened certified letter also stating a trip the I intended on taking DD on and other issues.
She blocked my email addys
A letter from her stating that she refuses to discuss anything with me unless it is regarding visitation or an emergency and all discussion must be made thru untrackable mail or by phone.
A voicemail from her that states that she has the right not to communicate with me if she doesn't want to.
Another letter refering to a letter I sent asking about being notifed when DD is ill and when she goes out of town as minutia and stating that she will not respond to it (she did not specifically say anything about the trips or illness but basically stated that it was BS that I was asking for the information in the letter she just received from me).
Trip Itinerary:
Each parent has the right to know the whereabouts of the child(ren) when parenting time will be exercised in a different locale other than the home. Should either parent have the child(ren) away from their normal residence for a period of more than 24 hours (e.g. for a trip or vacation) then such parent shall provide the other with an itinerary of where the child(ren) will be staying providing addresses, telephone numbers of each location, the length of the stay, the name of all persons who may provide care for the child(ren) during the stay, the departure date, and the date of return/arrival. In case of an emergency involving the child(ren) and in the best interest of the child(ren), each parent is encouraged to communicate with the other(unless prohibited by Court order) when he or she will be traveling away from home for less than 24 hours. The parties should provide the other parent with telephone number(s), pager, voice mail, or a third party so that the parent may contact the other parent if there is an emergency involving the child(ren).
FACT:
She has never notified me about any overnight stays my daughter has done including an out of town field trip that lasted a week.
PARENTING AGREEMENT:
Medical Condition: Each parent has the right to know of any significant illness of a child or significant injury sustained by such child(ren). "Significant" is hereby defined as any such condition which would require a child to miss school or to be taken to a health care provider. Each party shall notify the other promptly of any significant illness or injury affecting the minor child(ren).
FACT:
My daughter missed 16 days of school last year. I had not gotten a notice about 1 of those absenses.
PARENTING AGREEMENT:
When airline transportation is used and the child(ren) is/are below the age to fly unaccompanied, the parent having the child transported by air for parenting time must make arrangements with the airline(s) to have the child accompanied by airline personnel. The additional cost of which shall be divided equally between the parents; unless otherwise provided by Court order or agreement between the parties.
FACT: Our daughter has flown many times to my home. My exwife's half of the unaccompanied minor fees comes to $375 now. She will not pay it. One of the problems is, after we settled the last Parenting agreement, she sued me for an increase in CS. The court ordered that we try to work it out ourselves. Initially I drafted a proposal for part of the unaccompanied minor fees that she was to pay be deducted from the child support. She called and yelled and screamed and had me take it out because DD will not be using the services until she is 18 and she felt it artificially lowered the CS. I agreed, verbally, and we negotiated further and settled on a number higher than the one I initally proposed (she was very insistant that I pay more).
Evidence:
A letter from my exwife refusing to pay for the fees. First she refused because she was offsetting it against several things she siad I owe her, which I am NOT responsible for (cost of the paperwork she paid for to file for the CS increase, the filing costs for the increase, a medical bill that she incurred because she did not use my insurance on my daughter). Later she argued that it was taken out of CS, per my inital proposal.
A letter refusing to pay for her half of the fees at the airport.
COURT ORDER:
She did not show for a deposition in which I incurred legal fees for and ourt reported fees. The court ordered she reimbursement in the amount of $270.
FACT:
She states that she no longer owes me anything. She states that she told my lawyer that she wasn't coming because she had class and that it is my tough luck. She also argues that she has it deducted from purchases she made for our daughter (field trip money, etc).
Evidence:
I have her claimes in a letter she wrote me.
Questions
1. Is my case strong enough, in you opinion, to argue that she is shutting me out of the decision making?
2. Would a proper request to the court be that BM must email me once a week with brief items such as school issues and health issues?
3. Would the evidence that I have be strong enough to show that she is not willing to discuss DD's illnesses with me?
4. Would the evidence that I have be strong enough to support the fact that she never sends me an itinerary?
5. Do you feel that the letters that I wrote in negotiation of CS will bite me in the a$$ regading the unaccompanied minor fees even though the number increased $100 a month from that proposal?
I guess that is it. I have more, but I think those are the things I can prove the most.
Thanks
Ref