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Excuss me was this post intended for me?? I sure as he** am not blowing smoke up anyones a** if it was!!

I have 2 children with my ex and he pays a WHOLE $90.00 per MONTH and is over $11,000 behind.

And now to ask where would me and my 2 almost teen daughters be if I thought that ex should pay for my house payment................Our girls and I would be on the streets because how far does $90.00 go in the world today???

Please dont forget to send everything certified with return reciept!! That way they cant say they never recieved anything!

Good Luck to you and dont give up!! Keep trying!

Hi!

This is the first idea that popped into my head when I read your post above. Have you tried to send a letter to the Hawaii agency?? If not try sending a letter certified with return reciept. Along with the letter I would send a copy of your payment record for the AZ case and a copy of the order in AZ. Tell Hawaii that you expect for them to correct the mistake and make sure to mention the hardship that this mistake has been causing you and your family.


Keep a copy of the letter for your records and be sure and send it certified with return reciept so that you can prove that they recieved the letter.

Keep on them and don't give up!

One question I got for you is .........Did the mother ever recieve state assistance in Hawaii?? Could she be collecting in more than one state?? I have seen that happen and the states dont even know it. Do some checking on all of this and see what you can find out.

We have the standard eow with SS. We too have our own clothes for him. Then BM cant say we ruined his clothes, or didnt send them back. I wash the clothes that he comes in and he goes home in them! Easier that way and plus them SS feels like this is his home too!

The only thing that can be done is have the grandma petition to the court or ask the c/s agency to redirect the c/s payments. Is there an agency involved in the collection of the support payments? If there is ask them to help, if not you or grandma would have to take it to court.

Oh let me tell you there is no way in he$$ he will pay this unless there is no other way around it!!!! I have drafted a letter to the cs agency and also put a call into his attorney, but am still awaiting a call. Our problem isnt even that he would owe this money! Our problem is that BM should be just as responsiable as what my DH is! Here is the letter tell me what you think and give me any suggestions as well! (that goes for anyone) Please feel free to edit or comment on something that should come out or be put in this letter!

To whom it may concern:                        August 5, 2004

   I DH  requested via telephone for The Child Support Recovery Unit to review and correct the issue concerning the two child support cases that I am involved in.

   I understand I have an obligation to support my son.I also understand that his mother  has an obligation to support him as well.

   In order for this situation to be corrected Chid Support Recovery needs to correct their mistake in past due support.

   There is a Medical Only order naming a caretaker,  This order (#) was entered on 11-12-98 and was effective until
6-1-03.

   There is also another order that names the custodial parent.This order (#) was entered 11-1998 through 11-2014. There is a past due amount owed on this case of 11,626.19. This order includes the time frame that g-ma was the caretaker of child.

   Obviously there has been a mistake with this. There cant be two people taking care of the same child at the same time. I know that child resided with his grandma  from at least 11-1998 to 6-2003. Therefore,if there is any support that is due, which there is not an order for, then mother should be just as responsible to pay the support as what I am. There is no past order for motherto pay support and is no money due to grandma so therefore it must have been requested that g-mal did not want support in order to free her daughter from any support obligation. That in it self should free me from the past due support that was obviously entered as a mistake.

   If I do owe any money during the years when g-ma was the caretaker of child then mom should owe that money as well as I do. But since there was no order then I don't see how either of us would owe money to grandma.

   At this time I am researching my options with this matter incase you do not wish to correct this situation in a timely manner. I do feel as if this situation could lead to a fraud case that could involve you and the other parties to this as well. It is obvious to me that someone is out to collect money in a fraudulent manner. If you are willing to correct this issue then please contact me as soon as possible because I will be contacting my attorney in reference to this in the next few days.

   I wish to have this corrected in a timely manner as it is affecting me and my family, as well as my credit history. This situation has caused undo hardship on my family and it needs to be corrected as quickly as possible.



                                       Thank you,
                     DH

DH address
Dh phone #

Sent Certified with return receipt




Please let me know what you all think!! (I took out all the names and the order #'s ect )

We are going through a custody case right now so we will prob just have the attorney handle this as well. Waiting for a call from them now. (the attorney)

The Child support agency contacted DH today at work. They told DH that he is right in his thinking that if g-ma was caretaker for 5+ yrs then he should not owe the past support since g-ma only wanted medical support. But the lady on the phone told DH that they will NOT correct it and he would have to take it to court and spend his money to correct the situation!

Now I just dont understand how or why they can do this!! DH even told the lady that he doesnt mind paying the past due support but BM should have to pay too since she was not the one careing for the child!!

Now the question is how do we go about correcting this or what can we do?

There was no cs ever ordered for BM to pay so we still sit and wonder what the deal is. I know if dh has to pay for when g-ma had ss then BM should too. But we will see what happens and i will let you know when we know. Thanks for the input!