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Who knows why, she appears to be a crank who believes that parental alienation is a myth and that SPARC is haven for child abusers. She also appears to think SPARC is a "marketing service". (??)

When we declined to engage and argue with her, this is what she sent us:

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Bonnie Russell wrote:
> Oh not to worry, I never argue with the seriously deluded.  But I do laugh.
> In fact, I've sent copies of your website and responses around, because
> everyone I know enjoys a good laugh.
>
> Tis the season to be jolly
> Fa la la la la la la la la
> Report those perps so kids won't be sorry
> Fa la la la la la la la la
> Gone be now all child abusers
> Fa la la la la la la la la
> Rid the world of these scummy losers
> Fa la la la la la la la LA!
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Feel free to contact her if you like, but don't be surprised if she has a meltdown and attacks you. After all, if you have anything to do with fathers, you MUST be a batterer and a child abuser.

Bonnie Russell
[email protected]

[Supervised Visitation Directory]

For those of you who may need the services of a Supervised Visitation Provider, you can find a list of providers here:

Supervised Visitation Directory (http://svdirectory.com/)  (www.svdirectory.com (http://www.svdirectory.com))

The Supervised Parenting Startup Kit (http://svdirectory.com/cart/sskit.htm)- A practical reference guide for owning and operating a supervised parenting service for agencies and individual providers. Click here (http://svdirectory.com/cart/sskit.htm) for more information.

[a href=http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/child_development.php]Child Development Research to Make Appropriate Custody and Access Decisions for Young Children [/a]

Our thanks to http://www.eventoddlersneedfathers.com  for sending us this.

We've made some changes to the ads displayed on the SPARC site and welcome any comments you may have.

1) All ads with "extreme animation" are being locked out. This includes ads that flash, blink, strobe, or have annoying visual effects.

2) Ads that expand, unroll, or have any element that covers the page are being locked out.

3) Pop-up ads have been locked out for some time, however we've noticed some banner companies will try to sneak them in anyway. These are mostly "survey" -type ads, and we're working to ensure that they never appear on the site.

4) SPARC is testing Google ads, which are mostly text-based. If you prefer text-based ads, please let us know. Google ads generally don't earn any revenue unless they're clicked on, so it's possible that they just may not be a good match for this site. We'll see how it goes.

5) Some ads with what we consider to be "objectionable content" are also being screened out.

6) Ads that play music or voice clips are being locked out.

7) Ads that redirect the "focus" of the page are being screened out, but unfortunately this can only be done on an "ad-by-ad" basis.


Your comments are welcome- please let us know what you think of the changes.

SPARC Admin

Edited to correct the name- Maury D. Beaulier, not Socrateaser.

Two new articles, compliments of Maury:

[a href=http://deltabravo.net/custody/relocation.php]Fighting Relocation with Children[/a]
http://deltabravo.net/custody/relocation.php


[a href=http://deltabravo.net/custody/falseallegations.php]False Allegations Of Domestic Abuse[/a]
http://deltabravo.net/custody/falseallegations.php

[The SPARC - FatherLove Hospitality Exchange ver. 2.0]

Please take a moment and check out the updated Hospitality Exchange ver. 2.0.

[a href=http://www.deltabravo.net/exchange/]Hospitality Exchange ver. 2.0.[/a]

The SPARC - FatherLove Hospitality Exchange ver. 2.0
A collaborative project from SPARC and FatherLove

What Is The Hospitality Exchange?
The Hospitality Exchange is a program where, in exchange for work or service(s), a parent visiting the locale where their child lives is provided a place to stay for a short amount of time. The Hospitality Exchange service allows you to make an offer of hospitality, and/or request one for the area that you'll be traveling to.


Why Is This Needed?
When children live far away from a parent, traveling expenses for the parent to visit their children are often prohibitive. Motel rooms aren't conducive to sharing quality family time! Without the important personal connection of a homelike environment, visiting one's children in an unfamiliar place is often difficult. The opportunity to spend quality time together renews the parent - child bond. Visiting a town without knowing another person is a serious challenge to almost anyone. Too often, this prevents the parent from visiting with their children. The Hospitality Exchange is a potential win for parents, hosts, communities and most importantly, the children of visiting parents.


Exchanging Services
If you are a parent in this situation and would like to be able to stay with your children in a welcoming, homelike environment when you visit, please post your request related to your needs and exchange of your (negotiated) services. (For example, services might include carpentry, cooking, or car repair.)

For those of you who sympathize with the plight of a parent wanting to stay connected to their children, and who would be willing to offer a guest room, hide-away bed, or other accommodation, please post your hospitality offer.


Initiating Contact
It is the responsibility of the individual hosts' and visitors' to initiate contact with each other. SPARC and FatherLove only provide the hospitality offers and requests. We recommend that you work out clear terms of exchange (e.g. a room for a night in exchange for some carpentry work). Please be clear whether you are offering or expecting to receive breakfast, rides, information or other hospitality services.

[a href=http://www.deltabravo.net/exchange/]Hospitality Exchange ver. 2.0.[/a]

[If you really want to foster a good relationship with both parents, tell the guy to keep his dick in his pants and his fists of the woman]

Received in email, 07-24-2005.

Your web site is not the appropriate approach to helping dads fight for visitation and I am offended by what I have read. If you want to help foster the parent – child contact you should avoid words such as -bogus argument, her duty to the child and any other negative connotations. You should emphasize the best interest of the child. I am a breastfeeding mother with no objections to letting a dead beat dad have his day in court but I don't agree with the bogus argument of breastfeeding and did not use it as an excuse. If you really want to foster a good relationship with both parents, tell the guy to keep his dick in his pants and his fists of the woman and for Christ's sake, love and adore the child, not foster the hate relationship.

Regards,

Appalled Mother
[email protected]

Once again, it's all the man's fault, and mothers apparently have no responsibility in the making of a baby. Only "dead beat dads". The depth of this woman's hypocracy is breathtaking.

Feel free to write her and express your opinion. (But don't expect an intelligent response from anyone whose email address is an abbreviation of "go f*ck a monkey".)

[Thank you!]

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You have mail.  :)

[Maury Beaulier]

SPARC is both proud, and honored to present Maury Beaulier as the Moderator for the Custody Issues message board. Maury is a family law attorney and the author of numerous articles on divorce and custody issues,

Maury D. Beaulier has also been recognized by the International Who's Who of Professionals (1996), Minnesota Law & Politics Magazine (February, 1999) and more recently featured in Lawyers Weekly USA (March, 2000).

A Qualified Mediator, Maury formed "Action Mediation" in 1996 to help clients resolve disputes through mediation. Maury describes the law firm approach as "client oriented" and "dedicated to personal attention and service for each individual and organization."

Maury will be posting here as "Lawmoe".

Welcome to SPARC Maury!  

New [a href=http://www.deltabravo.net/dc/dcboard.php?az=show_topics&forum=108]"Moms Without Custody" message board[/a]

As part of SPARC's ongoing committment to serving all non-custodial parents, we're proud to announce our new [a href=http://www.deltabravo.net/dc/dcboard.php?az=show_topics&forum=108]Moms Without Custody[/a] message board message board, intended specifically to help address the needs of non-custodial mothers.

This message board will be moderated by Jennifer Isham, MA, NCC, LCPC, CS, who was the National Director of Mothers Without Custody for 10 years, working with noncustodial mothers from across the country.

"Going through a divorce and becoming a noncustodial mom led me to a career in counseling. I'm a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (LCPC), National Certified Counselor (NCC), and Intuitive coach. I'm also a Reiki Master, crystal and energy therapist. Over the past 20 years, I've worked with individuals, couples, and families in various stages of disenchantment, challenge, curiosity, awareness, fear, interest excitement, and desire for change. Areas of interest include personal development across the lifespan, life transitions, including midlife transition, divorce and custody, grief and loss and end-of-life preparation, legacy building, sexuality, intuition and spirituality. I am a passionate advocate for helping clients realize their unique and personal voices.

A writer, speaker and popular class and workshop leader, I try to bring my love for creativity and innovation into all that I do. I have an interactive, co-creative, supportive teaching and coaching/counseling style."

Welcome to our new message board, moderator, and visitors!

[Happy Independence Day from SPARC!]

[font size=+1]Happy Independence Day from SPARC![/font]
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[Carol A Lawson]

Please welcome Florida attorney Carol A. Lawson to the SPARC Professional Directory!

[TABLE WIDTH=90%" BGCOLOR="#FFFFED" BORDER="1" CELLPADDING="10][TR][TD]Carol A Lawson (Dunedin, FL).
2194  Main St.
Suite J
Dunedin, FL 34697
Telephone: 727 733-0267
Email: [email protected]
Web site: [a href=http://www.carollawsonpa.com" target="new]www.carollawsonpa.com[/a]

Comment:In addition to divorce and custody issues, we also handle Bankruptcy, Divorce, Wills & Trusts, Collections, and Foreclosures.

Years In Practice: Over 5
Experience in: [EM]Child Custody, Child Support[/EM].[/TD][/TR][/TABLE]

''The List'' by Tom is now permanently archived at this location:

http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/thelist.htm

Our thanks to 'Tom' for compiling such a great article and for allowing its use here at SPARC.

More Weirdness From Cindy Ross:

http://www.ignorecindyross.com/cindyspeaks.htm

This website exposes Cindy Ross in her own words:

http://www.ignorecindyross.com/


Fascinating. :)

[groups masquerading as fathers' rights organizations, ALL cover up for child molesters, pedophiles and other deviant men]

Cindy Ross Tries To Link SPARC With Pedophiles

Some of you may not know who Cindy Ross is. She is the Director of nafcj.org, a vitrolic gender-feminist group that attempts to demean and discredit fathers, as well as anyone who tries to assist fathers in their efforts to be involved in their children's lives. (Some time ago we wrote [a href=http://mensnewsdaily.com/archive/newswire/nw02/newswire070902a.htm" target="mnd]Open Letter to Radical Feminist Cindy Ross - Men's News Daily[/a]. Mz Ross never replied, which spoke volumes to us about her credibility.)

According to Mz Ross, "groups masquerading as fathers' rights organizations, ALL cover up for child molesters, pedophiles and other deviant men". In other words, if you help fathers, you're either a pedophile or you're helping pedophiles.

That's right- Mz Ross is so bent on smearing SPARC's name and discrediting the work we do that she has now gone so far as to openly accuse SPARC of supporting pedophiles. We consider this to be proof positive of how completely out of touch with reality she is.

Reproduced below is an email received from Mz Ross this morning, March 16, 2004. In this email Mz Ross references an article that is on the SPARC site that was written by Ralph Underwager and Hollida Wakefield. The article is titled [a href=http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/falseacc1.htm" target='sfa]Suggestions When Falsely Accused[/a].

Apparently Mz Ross feels that just by carrying this article and making the information in it available, SPARC is "covering up for child molestors".

We can't speak for Ralph Underwager and Hollida Wakefield, but we do know that the article they authored has pratical, useful information in it that is of value to all parents, not just fathers. Nonetheless, Mz Ross plays "connect the dots", fabricating conspiracies and accusing SPARC of being involved in supporting or promoting pedophelia because the article is on our site. Needless to say, SPARC does not support any such thing, and it takes a very dull or very vindictive mind to suggest that we do.

To paranoid gender-feminists like Mz Ross, all we can say is that it comes as no real surprise that you're so threatened by fathers that you feel the need to make false allegations like this against SPARC and its users.


-SPARC Admin




Mz Ross' email, received this morning:


Click here: [a href=http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/falseacc1.htm" target='sfa]Suggestions When Falsely Accused[/a]
How very interesting that SPARC would feature recommendations by someone connected to IPT! IPT is Ralph Underwager and Hollida Wakefield's group, i.e., the same pro-pedodphilia CRC affiliates blabbering in Paidika Magazine:

Click here: PAIDIKA INTERVIEW: HOLLIDA WAKEFIELD AND RALPH UNDERWAGER

We've got the proof not only that you lie through your teeth, but that the groups masquerading as fathers' rights organizations, ALL cover up for child molesters, pedophiles and other deviant men, in affiliation with sexologists and sexual perverts.

Click here: [a href=http://mensnewsdaily.com/archive/newswire/nw02/newswire070902a.htm" target="mnd]Open Letter to Radical Feminist Cindy Ross - Men's News Daily[/a]

Cindy Ross ([email protected])
CA Director
National Alliance for Family Court Justice
Fairfax, CA
nafcj.org

[Your voice counts!]

Thank you all for contacting Tillys to make your feelings known. The following is an email just received from Sam Mendelsohn, the Senior Vice President at Tillys.

Dear (SPARC),

Please allow me to express my sincere apology regarding the merchandise in question, which you found to be offensive and inappropriate.  This letter is in response to your email.

At Tilly's, we invest considerable effort into improving our customer service, therefore we appreciate all input we may receive from our customers. I would like to personally apologize for the inconvenience this unfortunate incident might have caused you and your family.  As the person in charge of all aspects of company operations, I take full responsibility for all that happens in our stores.

As part of our everlasting efforts to improve the service we provide our customers, as well as to ensure this unfortunate incident will not reoccur, specific guidelines and instructions were given to the people who are directly responsible for buying, purchasing, visual presentation as well as store operations.  I believe that by using this input we will be able to better serve our customers.

You should be pleased to know that at Tilly's we listen to our customers, and as a result, I immediately instructed the removal of merchandise in question (throw rocks) from all locations.  All items should be removed from our store sales floor by the time you read this email. I hope that you will find our quick response satisfactory, and wish you would give our stores a second chance.

On a side note, i would like to share with you the fact that Tilly's is committed to the education and future of our youth.  At Tilly's, we see ourselves as inseparable part of the community. For that reason, we have dedicated significant resources to help and support various charity organization, as well as create incentive programs which increase the literacy of our youth.  Under no circumstance will Tilly's ever promote or encourage violence, as a matter of fact, most of us are parents and the idea of promoting violence among our youth is appalling to us as well.  

As stated before, I hope that you will find this to be an isolated error, which we have immediately acted to remedy.

If I can be of any help, please feel free to contact me directly at 949.609.xxxx.

Sincerely,

Sam Mendelsohn
Senior Vice President
Tilly's

Remember, Your voice counts! Many corporation will indeed do the right thing when their customers make their feelings known. This wouldn't have happened without YOU adding your voice and support. I'm glad to see that Tillys management is both sensitive and responsive to issues like this, and I commend Sam Mendelsohn for his understanding and action in this matter. Thanks, Sam!

-SPARC Admin

January 5, 2004

Dr. Stephen Baskerville Becomes ACFC President

Washington, DC (Jan. 5, 2004) – The American Coalition for Fathers and Children (ACFC) is pleased to announce that Dr. Stephen Baskerville, professor of political science at Howard University, will become President effective January 5, 2004.  Dr. Baskerville is internationally known for groundbreaking commentary in both academic and news publications on the dismal state of family courts in America and the national tragedy of court manufactured fatherless children.  

His incisive commentary, ACFC believes, is setting the stage for a new national critique of prevailing government and social policies on divorced fathers and their children.

"It's an honor to have been selected to serve as ACFC President," notes Dr. Baskerville.  "World-wide we are witnessing growing recognition of the importance of fathers in the lives of their children.   We will intensify pressure on government to recognize what most Americans already understand:  that children need both parents who are actively engaged with them, emotionally, physically, intellectually and financially, regardless of the parent's present marital status."

A noted author and commentator, Dr. Baskerville's articles have appeared in such  publications as The Washington Post, Washington Times, Insight Magazine, Human Events, Crisis Magazine and National Review.  Additionally he has appeared on television shows like Fox New's "O'Reilly Factor" and "Hardball" with Chris Matthews.

"Dr. Baskerville's joining ACFC as President represents a significant step forward for both the Fathers and Shared Parenting movements.  Working with our affiliate organizations we will see a rebuttable presumption of 50/50 time become the cornerstone of parenting plans in the future," adds Michael McCormick, Executive Director of the organization.  

Also joining the Coalition is John Maguire serving as Director of Communications, Media and Public Relations.  Mr. Maguire's previous experience includes media relations positions at Jackson Memorial Hospital, Miami, and Tufts Medical School.  He also directed the science journalism program at Boston University, and has worked as a reporter at several daily newspapers, including the father-friendly Massachusetts News.

Outgoing ACFC President David Roberts will become Chairman of the Board of ACFC, with responsibility for overall guidance and to assure compliance with our 501(c)3 status.  He will continue to serve as the rock of stability for the organization, as he has for the last seven years as President.  "I am extremely pleased with these additions," he said, stating that "ACFC is now more ready than ever to take on the misguided forces of family destruction in our courts and government agencies."  Ileana Basil will continue her outstanding work as ACFC List Serve Manager.
 
The American Coalition for Fathers and Children is the largest member supported shared parenting organization in the nation.  With offices in California and Washington, DC, and  affiliated organizations active in over twenty states the Coalition provides support services to divorcing families.  The organization produces the "Shared Parenting Tool Kit" a practical resource for those going through divorce.

As an IRS recognized 501(c)3 organization, contributions to ACFC are tax deductible.  For more information about ACFC visit our website at //www.acfc.org or call 800 978-3237.

[Leon Strauss Foundation]

We'd like to express our heartfelt gratitude to the Leon Strauss Foundation, who sent SPARC a substantial donation to help support and continue the work that we do.

[font size=+5" color="#1111ff]Thank You!![/font]

We don't know who gave the Leon Strauss Foundation SPARC's  name, but whoever you are, thank you very, very much. Your actions have made it possible for SPARC to continue helping children and parents in the coming years.


-SPARC Admin

[Happy Holiday from all of us at SPARC!]

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This is something we thought you all could have some fun with.

It's a calendar maker that uses photos you pick (like family photos, kids, pets, etc). This will only be up for a few days, so have fun and make some calendars with your kids pictures in them.  :)

http://www.deltabravo.net/photocal/

Enjoy!

New article added to the archive:

Age-by-Age Guide to What Children Understand About Divorce:
http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/understand.htm

New article added:  

"Devastation of Divorce Studied", by Steve Jordahl
http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/devastation.htm

If for some reason you want to look at or copy any of the posts from the old State Message boards, you can do that here:

http://www.deltabravo.net/board/oldstatelist.htm

[- Back-Years for OPTIMAL Now Available -]

Forwarded from the folks at www.parentingtime.net:

- Back-Years for OPTIMAL Now Available -
Due to numerous requests, the OPTIMAL development team has enabled the ability to 'back-load' previous years into OPTIMAL accounts.

You can now have an OPTIMAL account that begins as far back as 1995. We realize many of you have records that go back several years, and this new capability will allow you to load that data into OPTIMAL. You can also import data from the SPARC Parenting Time Tracker for previous years from 1995 to the present if you need to.

For more information or to arrange for an account with additional years, please contact the OPTIMAL team at [email protected].

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Win Custody - Change Custody - Reduce Child Support

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"Don't Go To Court Without Us!"


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Please welcome Illinois Family Law specialist Dean Taradash, who will be answering questons related to Illinois family law on the Illinois message board (http://www.deltabravo.net/dc/dcboard.php?az=show_topics&forum=178).

Dean is with a law firm that has practiced family law exclusively in Chicago for more than 15 years, and he has generously offerd to give us the benefit of his expertise. He may also jump in from time to time on the other boards, answering questions and offering advice.

Welcome to SPARC, Dean!

[WHAT:]

WHAT: A new Chat Room registration procedure is now in effect; users will need to register with a valid email address in order to create a Chat Room account.

WHY:  The new registration procedure will radically reduce the number of 'trolls' who find their way into the chat room, and it will also reduce 'throwaway' accounts generated from casual users who create an account, look around, and then never come back.

For example, all user accounts were cleared recently, and within 10 days there were close to 1,000 new accounts created. The vast majority of these were 'one-time' accounts. This "free-for-all" registration loads the system needlessly and was becoming an administrative nightmare.

We realize that this will be a minor inconvenience to our regular users, but the enhanced security and stability is worth the few minutes it will take to re-register.

If you have any trouble registering, please contact us at [email protected]

-SPARC Admin


Note: We've found that Hotmail, Yahoo, and MSN may filter out legitimate email from SPARC. If you've registered and haven't received an email from us within an hour or so (usually much sooner than that), try an email address other than Hotmail, Yahoo, or MSN.

[Using AOL.]

Some of you may get error messages that mention "REFERER LOGGING" when you try to post. This is a setting that can usually be traced back to one of several things:

1) Using AOL. The AOL browser does not have Referrer Logging turned on by default. Unfortunately since we don't have a sample AOL browser available to us, we can't tell you where that setting is in the AOL browser. Contact AOL and ask them where this setting is. Please let us know where it is also, so we can make a post on how to do it.

2) Norton Security software. The Norton software has Referrer Logging turned off by default, so you'll need to turn it on. In Norton, open the Advanced Options, Web tab, click Add site, add: //www.deltabravo.net. Then select deltabravo in that column, and on the Privacy tab, set it to accept referrers.

3) Using the Opera browser. Opera users need to go to File -> Preferences -> Security -> Privacy -> and put a check in "Enable referrer logging".

[not]

Board Tip: Topic Ordering

Here's a tip:

If ou click on the Messages Sorted By" links and pick "Message ID", the posts will stay in the kind of order we're used to seeing, i.e. chronological.

Otherwise, if someone replies to a post, that post will "jump" to the top of the forum....which is not what we're used to seeing (the way it was on the old message boards).

Another tip:

HTML can be used, but instead of angle-brackets: < and >, surround the HTML in square brackets: [ and ].