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[You Don't Have To Prove PAS]

You Don't Have To Prove PAS
Full Article: http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/provepas.php


You Don't Have To Prove PAS
The best answer we have come up with is "Don't try to prove PAS." Currently, PAS is extremely controversial, and you're more likely to get caught up in a battle over the diagnosis than over your own situation. Also keep in mind that unless you are a qualified mental health professional, you cannot diagnose PAS. PAS is an illness, not a set of circumstances.

Although you cannot diagnose PAS, you can state that you believe there "is alienation occurring", and you can document the emotional and psychological abuse associated with PAS, as well as its effect on the child, without labeling it PAS.

Full Article: http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/provepas.php

[Maury Beaulier]

SPARC is both proud, and honored to present Maury Beaulier as the Moderator for the Custody Issues message board. Maury is a family law attorney and the author of numerous articles on divorce and custody issues,

Maury D. Beaulier has also been recognized by the International Who's Who of Professionals (1996), Minnesota Law & Politics Magazine (February, 1999) and more recently featured in Lawyers Weekly USA (March, 2000).

A Qualified Mediator, Maury formed "Action Mediation" in 1996 to help clients resolve disputes through mediation. Maury describes the law firm approach as "client oriented" and "dedicated to personal attention and service for each individual and organization."

Maury will be posting here as "Lawmoe".

Welcome to SPARC Maury!  

>Are you sure the second is a knockoff?

"Knockoff" was the wrong word for me to use, but regardless, it's not the one you want. The "Source Book" is the one you want.


>They are both by Charlotte Hardwick.  They are both $79.  The
>first is ISBN 09640227-1-0 (January 2000) and the other is
>09640227-0-2 (April 1994).  Just wanted to double check before
>I ordered the first one.

The "Source Book" has actually been updated after 2000, it's updated every year. There was so much added to the "Source Book" this year that they had to reduce the size of the font and print it on thinner paper to get all the additions in there (really). They also 'perfect bound' it and set most of it in a 2-column format. It's the book you want, trust me.

Pale Horse Publishing has been a long-time supporter of SPARC. If you get a book from Pale Horse through a link on the SPARC site, SPARC gets a tiny commission. But we'd recommend their book whether or not we did; it's that good.

The "Win Your Child Custody War: Child Custody Help Source Book, 10th Edition" is the real one, the others are knockoffs. Read the review here:

http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/review03.htm

Please welcome Illinois Family Law specialist Dean Taradash, who will be answering questons related to Illinois family law on the Illinois message board (http://www.deltabravo.net/dc/dcboard.php?az=show_topics&forum=178).

Dean is with a law firm that has practiced family law exclusively in Chicago for more than 15 years, and he has generously offerd to give us the benefit of his expertise. He may also jump in from time to time on the other boards, answering questions and offering advice.

Welcome to SPARC, Dean!

Welcome to the new SPARC message boards. If you have questions on how to use the message boards, please click the FAQ link at the top left of the main page, or use this link:

http://www.deltabravo.net/dc/dcboard.php?az=faq


-SPARC Admin

>Would it be possible to create a debate forum?

Yes. We'll create the forum shortly, later today or this evening.

[lie]

>While you're attacking me and telling me to cut it out, why is
>it OK for your moderators to post crap like this?

This may be hard to believe, but the Moderators here are human and have feelings and opinions just like you. This isn't Divinity School and they're under no obligation to turn the other cheek. And frankly, how do you know what I have or haven't told them? You have no idea, so please don't assume facts not in evidence or pretend to know everything goes on here. There are a lot of things here that you aren't privy to.



>Is it any wonder I get defensive when you and your
>moderators do nothing but spend your time attacking me?

It's an offensive and provocative lie for you to claim that they "do nothing but spend their time attacking you". Most of the time they're busy helping people, but if you want to argue with them, don't get your panties in a bunch if they argue back. You may not be used to people who disagree with you, but that's not their problem. As unfair as it sounds, they're as free to speak their mind as you are.

>Are you ever going to get tired of posting nothing but
>personal attacks?

I'll tell you what I'm getting tired of- I'm getting tired of people emailing me and sending me PM's requesting that you be booted or told to give it a rest. I normally have a strong tolerance for this kind of thing, but I'll be honest- if enough people express those sort of feelings it's hard for me to ignore them.


>And are you ever going to learn to listen to the opinions of
>others - even if they differ from your radical 'do it my way
>or you're wrong' mentality?

Funny you should mention that...tell me, is it okay if I "listen to the opinions of others" who are sick and tired of your constant crap-fest and argumentative nonsense? Is it okay if I listen to them, instead of just you?

Please let me know, because I've had a half-dozen emails and PM's just today, all from different people, all complaining about you turning this board in the "All-Mistoffolees, All-The-Time Show".  Maybe you need a vacation or a few days off.

>My position is quite consistent.

Consistently myopic, misguided, and lacking merit.