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LOL!

OMG, I wish I could say that all this craziness on her part surprises me...but I can't. Her letter to us had all the hallmarks of the professional nutcase.  

She's been arrested twice for violating a restraining order and interfering with court business, and served time in jail, surprise, surprise. She also had a negative psychological evaluation that diagnosed her as suffering from borderline personality disorder, susceptible to "impulsivity" and "lack of control."

Thanks, FatherTime, this was an eye-opener.

Who knows why, she appears to be a crank who believes that parental alienation is a myth and that SPARC is haven for child abusers. She also appears to think SPARC is a "marketing service". (??)

When we declined to engage and argue with her, this is what she sent us:

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Bonnie Russell wrote:
> Oh not to worry, I never argue with the seriously deluded.  But I do laugh.
> In fact, I've sent copies of your website and responses around, because
> everyone I know enjoys a good laugh.
>
> Tis the season to be jolly
> Fa la la la la la la la la
> Report those perps so kids won't be sorry
> Fa la la la la la la la la
> Gone be now all child abusers
> Fa la la la la la la la la
> Rid the world of these scummy losers
> Fa la la la la la la la LA!
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Feel free to contact her if you like, but don't be surprised if she has a meltdown and attacks you. After all, if you have anything to do with fathers, you MUST be a batterer and a child abuser.

Bonnie Russell
[email protected]

[a href=http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/moving2.php]Preventing International Move-Aways[/a]
http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/moving2.php

[Supervised Visitation Directory]

For those of you who may need the services of a Supervised Visitation Provider, you can find a list of providers here:

Supervised Visitation Directory (http://svdirectory.com/)  (www.svdirectory.com (http://www.svdirectory.com))

The Supervised Parenting Startup Kit (http://svdirectory.com/cart/sskit.htm)- A practical reference guide for owning and operating a supervised parenting service for agencies and individual providers. Click here (http://svdirectory.com/cart/sskit.htm) for more information.

[a href=http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/child_development.php]Child Development Research to Make Appropriate Custody and Access Decisions for Young Children [/a]

Our thanks to http://www.eventoddlersneedfathers.com  for sending us this.

We've made some changes to the ads displayed on the SPARC site and welcome any comments you may have.

1) All ads with "extreme animation" are being locked out. This includes ads that flash, blink, strobe, or have annoying visual effects.

2) Ads that expand, unroll, or have any element that covers the page are being locked out.

3) Pop-up ads have been locked out for some time, however we've noticed some banner companies will try to sneak them in anyway. These are mostly "survey" -type ads, and we're working to ensure that they never appear on the site.

4) SPARC is testing Google ads, which are mostly text-based. If you prefer text-based ads, please let us know. Google ads generally don't earn any revenue unless they're clicked on, so it's possible that they just may not be a good match for this site. We'll see how it goes.

5) Some ads with what we consider to be "objectionable content" are also being screened out.

6) Ads that play music or voice clips are being locked out.

7) Ads that redirect the "focus" of the page are being screened out, but unfortunately this can only be done on an "ad-by-ad" basis.


Your comments are welcome- please let us know what you think of the changes.

SPARC Admin

Fixed. :)

Edited to correct the name- Maury D. Beaulier, not Socrateaser.

Two new articles, compliments of Maury:

[a href=http://deltabravo.net/custody/relocation.php]Fighting Relocation with Children[/a]
http://deltabravo.net/custody/relocation.php


[a href=http://deltabravo.net/custody/falseallegations.php]False Allegations Of Domestic Abuse[/a]
http://deltabravo.net/custody/falseallegations.php

[The SPARC - FatherLove Hospitality Exchange ver. 2.0]

Please take a moment and check out the updated Hospitality Exchange ver. 2.0.

[a href=http://www.deltabravo.net/exchange/]Hospitality Exchange ver. 2.0.[/a]

The SPARC - FatherLove Hospitality Exchange ver. 2.0
A collaborative project from SPARC and FatherLove

What Is The Hospitality Exchange?
The Hospitality Exchange is a program where, in exchange for work or service(s), a parent visiting the locale where their child lives is provided a place to stay for a short amount of time. The Hospitality Exchange service allows you to make an offer of hospitality, and/or request one for the area that you'll be traveling to.


Why Is This Needed?
When children live far away from a parent, traveling expenses for the parent to visit their children are often prohibitive. Motel rooms aren't conducive to sharing quality family time! Without the important personal connection of a homelike environment, visiting one's children in an unfamiliar place is often difficult. The opportunity to spend quality time together renews the parent - child bond. Visiting a town without knowing another person is a serious challenge to almost anyone. Too often, this prevents the parent from visiting with their children. The Hospitality Exchange is a potential win for parents, hosts, communities and most importantly, the children of visiting parents.


Exchanging Services
If you are a parent in this situation and would like to be able to stay with your children in a welcoming, homelike environment when you visit, please post your request related to your needs and exchange of your (negotiated) services. (For example, services might include carpentry, cooking, or car repair.)

For those of you who sympathize with the plight of a parent wanting to stay connected to their children, and who would be willing to offer a guest room, hide-away bed, or other accommodation, please post your hospitality offer.


Initiating Contact
It is the responsibility of the individual hosts' and visitors' to initiate contact with each other. SPARC and FatherLove only provide the hospitality offers and requests. We recommend that you work out clear terms of exchange (e.g. a room for a night in exchange for some carpentry work). Please be clear whether you are offering or expecting to receive breakfast, rides, information or other hospitality services.

[a href=http://www.deltabravo.net/exchange/]Hospitality Exchange ver. 2.0.[/a]

[If you really want to foster a good relationship with both parents, tell the guy to keep his dick in his pants and his fists of the woman]

Received in email, 07-24-2005.

Your web site is not the appropriate approach to helping dads fight for visitation and I am offended by what I have read. If you want to help foster the parent – child contact you should avoid words such as -bogus argument, her duty to the child and any other negative connotations. You should emphasize the best interest of the child. I am a breastfeeding mother with no objections to letting a dead beat dad have his day in court but I don't agree with the bogus argument of breastfeeding and did not use it as an excuse. If you really want to foster a good relationship with both parents, tell the guy to keep his dick in his pants and his fists of the woman and for Christ's sake, love and adore the child, not foster the hate relationship.

Regards,

Appalled Mother
[email protected]

Once again, it's all the man's fault, and mothers apparently have no responsibility in the making of a baby. Only "dead beat dads". The depth of this woman's hypocracy is breathtaking.

Feel free to write her and express your opinion. (But don't expect an intelligent response from anyone whose email address is an abbreviation of "go f*ck a monkey".)