Consider the fact that perhaps this ADAM knows that for a father to try to fight for custody is a loosing scenario. A ton of peopl etold me that I would not win custody when I fought for it back in 1997 but I did not listen I was under the assumption that the courts were fair that they really had the best interests of our child at heart. Certainly they would not give our child to an adulterer, especially one that 3 affairs in teh last year of our 3 year marriage.
Fact of the matter is that the court system is biased. They are biased because the state makes money off the federal government for collecting child support. The MORE child support they collect the more money the get. Therefore since typically men make more then women, they award women custody and make men pay child support. Only in extreme cases will ajudge grant a father custody. Usually that is if the mother is a proven druf userm, abuser, or alcholic or has abandoned the child in any way.
I will not be very popular here with what I am about to tell you but this is the absolute best advice I can give you at this point. Focus more on getting a shared parenting arrangement ( JOINT PHYSICAL AND LEGAL ) custody as opposed to trying to take the custodial parents role. You would have a much greater chance at winning something like that then becoming the custodial parent. Also in the long run, regardless of your opinions of your ex, it is better for the mental health and well being of your kids to share parenting...there are numerous studies online which support my claims as well.
I do not envy the road before you, but I have faith that in the end thigns will work themselves out one way or another. Get yourself a good lawyer that will really fight for you. Most lawyers are more interested in the money they will make off you, so be aware.
Best wishes
Fact of the matter is that the court system is biased. They are biased because the state makes money off the federal government for collecting child support. The MORE child support they collect the more money the get. Therefore since typically men make more then women, they award women custody and make men pay child support. Only in extreme cases will ajudge grant a father custody. Usually that is if the mother is a proven druf userm, abuser, or alcholic or has abandoned the child in any way.
I will not be very popular here with what I am about to tell you but this is the absolute best advice I can give you at this point. Focus more on getting a shared parenting arrangement ( JOINT PHYSICAL AND LEGAL ) custody as opposed to trying to take the custodial parents role. You would have a much greater chance at winning something like that then becoming the custodial parent. Also in the long run, regardless of your opinions of your ex, it is better for the mental health and well being of your kids to share parenting...there are numerous studies online which support my claims as well.
I do not envy the road before you, but I have faith that in the end thigns will work themselves out one way or another. Get yourself a good lawyer that will really fight for you. Most lawyers are more interested in the money they will make off you, so be aware.
Best wishes