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Been looking into renting a room which woul dbe cheaper...but amazingly not by very much. I received a few offers for couches to stay on for up to about a week, but thats about all. There were a few people online that wanted to rent to me but either they had cats (which can cause me to go into shock due to sever allergies) or did not want kids around. So far not much luck, but I am struggling on. I had hopes maybe someone here had something or knew someone who did. It is much easier to relate to what i am doing when it's someone who has been there.

I have been given a deadline by my parents that I have to be out of their house by July 29th. My dad is taking his vacation then in order to help with the move, but is adament that I be out by the end of July. To be honest I am scared that I still don't have enough to make it out there. When I was 18 years old I moved to Florida with about $600 in my puch and all i owned in my car...ended up I was almost homeless, gave myself food poisoning 4 times because it was either eat bad food or go hungry, and in general destroyed my credit rating. Older and much wiser now I am at a point where I wish to move past my divorce and get my life back in order. I hope to meet someone, get married, and raise a family as I had intented the first time. Most of all I want to be able to spend as much time as I can with my daughter once I get there. I don't want this thing to turn into another Florida thing where I ended up having to move back to Indiana because I was flat broke and practically homeless. It is exciting the move and all, but so very scarey too.

I will alaways keep in touch with the boards. I have been unable as of late because of all the thing I am trying to get done before I move...like savings, ribbon sales, my parenting time agreement with my ex, child support, etc, etc. It's all such a mess right now and so much left to do before I go. Ugh i really ahte moving lol.

Thanks.

Not much luck so far. The people with rooms for rent all either have cats, which I an deathly allergic too, or don't want children around. I have been using craiglist and roommates.com so far.

Hey all, its been a while since I have been on here, but I hope you
all have not forgotten me...I'm the guy with the Parents Rights
ribbons...the guy stuck in Indiana while his daughter is in Colorado.
I wanted to update everyone on my situation and ask for any help,
advice or what have you that anyone could offer. I am kind of at a
loss at the moment...here we go.

I am looking for a place to live basically until i can get on my feet
out there. I have placed a few ads online, but have not gotten great
responses. I have been trying to find a place to stay, room for rent
for my daughter and I while I establish myself. I will have enough
money to cover living expenses for 2 months...maybe longer if I really
watch it and depending on what someone might charge me for rent. I am
quiet, considerate and clean. I don't drink, smoke, or do drugs of any
kind. I pretty much keep to myself. As for the place I am looking for
I am not asking for much, but there are a few things I have to have.

1. No cats...I have severe allergies
2. Some kind of high speed interenet access for job hunting and
maintaining my ribbon site
3. A good roommate that is understanding of my situation and is good
with children...ie no drugs, partying, etc.
4. Something within 20 mins of the intersection of East Orchard Rd and
Sotuh Tower Rd. see map link

http://mq-mapgend.websys.aol.com:80/mqmapgend?MQMa
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%3aHOEvq%3ba10uf1%3a%29u750zb0%26%40%24%3a%26%40%2
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Other then that I am willing to sleep on the floor if I have to. I
don't have much maybe 10-15 medium sized moving boxes and my computer here. I just am not going to have what I wanted to have move so  I need to do this as cheaply as possible.

What I was wondering is if anyone here might have, or know of a good
place or if anyone had any advice. You can e-mail me at
[email protected]

Thanks
Chris Alexander

Yes I have 70 ribbons on hand and another 500 order coming from my supplier. I offer very good discounts on order of 100 ribbons or more, as well as discounts on shipping for orders of 20 or more. All orders are shipped out usually same day. You can order through my website at the address below. All of my contact information is also available at my website if anyone needs to contact me. Thanks

I don't know if anyone has heard about or is attending the Family and Fathers conference at the Metro Detriot Marriott June 16th - 18th or not but I wanted everyone to know that everyone in attendence is going to be recieving a free Parents Rights Ribbon courtesy of Myself  and the Family Rights Coalition. You can visit: http://www.fathers05.org/ for more information or to register for the conference.

Well I can't say that I believe in a God so my prays would not be of much use, but I can wish you the best to you and yours during your troubles.  Take care and be well.

You are asking the right person here. For most of the time I was going through my divorce, and for years after for that matter, I barely made enough to survive off of, but I wanted to make the times I had with my daughter..now  9, the best that they could be...little did I know that in the process my very inexpensive, often free, outtings meant more to her then the expensive ones. Bottom line is that kids are usually jsut happy to have someone willing to spend as much time as possible with them doing the thing sthat THEY like to do.

Some great examples of things we would to together included picnics at the park....parks are almost always free...throw together so sandwiches at home, chips and drinks and take them along aand make a day of it. Don't be afraid to play tag with her while you are there, or hide and seek, jump on a swing and see who can swing the highest...sounds corny i know but kids love it. We also used to go fly kites...you can pick them up at Wal-mart for as little as 88 cents. You can also take her on a bike ride jsut through the neighborhood. Camping is awesome if you are an outdoors person and have already invested in some of the supplies. (Over the years I have gather together my camping gear, and for several years in a row we celebrated my daughters birthday on a weekend camping trip.)  Depending on your location a decent campground can run you less then a hotel for one night. Swimming is a big one....kids love swimming and a lot of cities have pools where you can swim all day for as little as $1.00.

These are jsut some of the things I have done with my daughter and as cheap as these outtings where, to this day my daughter still talks about many of them.  The bottom line however is your willingness to spend as much "quality" time with your daughter as possible is the thing that will stand out most in her mind. Often it doesn't really matter WHAT you are doing, but rather that you ARE doing that counts.

Hello all,

You may not have seen much of me on the boards lately and for that I do apologize. I have been working like a mad man (60 or more hours per week) at my new job, getting everything ready for my move to Colorado coming up the first of August, AND filling all my ribbon orders.

To fill anyone who is new in on what I am doing here I'll try to sum it all up. I live in Indiana and have been divorced since 1997. As is standard (although HIGHLY discriminatory) with the courts my ex wife was awarded as custodial parent. Everything was going all right until 2 years ago when she divorced husband #3 and met a guy out in Colorado. I fought valiantly to prevent this move due to the fact that ALL of our then 7 year old daughters family lived here, however the judge felt differently about it and my ex was allowed to move our daughter 1000 miles away from all of her family and friends.

Since then my daughter has adapted well to her new environment. She is doing excellent in school, has many new friends, and is an active 9, almost 10-year-old girl. About the only thing she has any difficulty with is the distance between us.  As the case with many divorced dads I am a man of somewhat limited means, but my daughter needs me, so I have sold everything I owe, saved every penny I can, and have been selling my Parents Rights Awareness Ribbons through my website at: http://ncpribbon.blogspot.com/
All to help save the money needed to move, and to help raise awareness in the community about the flaws of the current Family Law system on ALL levels and the need for reform. This includes a movement towards shared parenting situations whenever possible, a reduction or elimination of child support payments for shared parenting families, an end to Federal revenue to states for the collection of child support, and most importantly for the courts to HONESTLY put the best interests of the children above and beyond ALL else.

My ribbons are not much I admit. There is a lot of work that is going to have to be done for us to realize these dreams. There is a good possibility that it may not even happen in our lifetime, however for our children and grandchildren it is so very important. None should ever have to face the pain and torment so many of us have had to face in the current family law system.

Anyway, for those who have not yet done so, please drop by my website and take a look. To date I have sold 526 ribbons. I just ordered another 500 ribbons from my supplier last week which should arrive shortly before Fathers Day, and I currently have about 70 ribbons still on hand for anyone that needs them sooner.

I want to thank you all again for your support and to those of you who have take the time to call or write. Since I began doing this in February I have had the opportunity to speak to a lot of great people out there. To all of you I wish you the best in your struggle. Although it pains me to see so many hurting because of the cruelty of the courts, I admire the people who are going through so much for their children. I hope that in the very least these Children grow up knowing just much they were loved.

The school district has a lawyer/attorney to protect them in cases liek this. My advice is to contact this person and tell them the trouble you are having getting copies of your own childs school records even though you have provided the school with ALL of the proper information. (divorce decree, formal written letter requesting information, etc) The schools attorney is most likely the ONLY person in the school districxt who knows just how serious failure to comply with this law can be for the school and if they do, they will get on this right away. Might be worth your while to consider a civil suit against this school also.

Naw Tom is not competition. He actually called me long before producing the wristbands to ask permission. He is organizing and working on a support group in Indianapolis and I am very much in support of what he is doing. He was even cool enough to send me a wristband which my daughter is going to LOVE...my ex perhaps not so much haha.

Yes I am working hard, but it feels good. everyday more and more people call about the website, or place orders. It is fantastic that this thing is taking off like it is.

My plans for the big move are for end of July beginning of August at the latest. Sooner if I can swing it. As I mentioned earlier there have been several people contacting me about rooms to rent. The strangest one I recieved jsut the other day. Apparently if anyone is familiar with Kansas City Radioshock jock  DJ Johnny Dare ??? Well his ex-co host Murphy Wells contacted me about renting spacce in her house. She recently moved to Colorado so her son could be clsoer to his father. I was amazed that a cyustodial mother would actually make a sacrifice like she has to leave her job in Kansas City behind so her son could spend more time with his non custodial father. I really respect that.

Anyway thanks to recent order we are down to 89 ribbons left. So if you haven't gotten them yet better get them now. I will be placing an order shortly for another 500, but there may be some delay between when I sell the last of these and when the next order comes in.

Hang in there all....and thanks again for all your support. =)