Here's what really stopped the BS In My situation , , Bring a video camera , . My theory was to make no bones about it and have it in hand , They seem to behave
On the other hand the legal aid at My atty's office told me to do it covertly let them make the allegations and then Use the tape , I'm not sure how that would really work because , I was told that the judges use discretion because they suspect that you could bait them into something . Then tape it ! , And My tapes never went to court , But I did show the guardian ad Litem the tape when she had made up an allegation , it didn't make much difference ,
Another thing I did was set the recorder up in the car for when I drive up and stay in front of the camera , I really think the best effect of the video tape is it keeps every one honest ,
I think what kept her honest was her knowledge of me hiding the camera in the car ,
She would frequently be looking 'peering into the car when I came up and this seemed to keep her honest ,
The allegations About the transfer times stopped and she thought of some other crap to pull . but it didn't work ,
Picking up at the police station is pretty good ; My pick up is at Mcdonalds , The reason is Mcdonalds has a time and adress on their reciept , And My atty told me to but a coke at the transfer to show I was there , However she hasn't tried any crap since the transfer is at mcdonalds , , Its hard to make the change to a neutral transfer point , But As My atty said " Every one likes it when they do it "
As far as vacation I have a similar problem . I sent it to her atty of record and asked for a .. recieved stamp to be put on it . And My atty said If there is no objection take him on vacation " , I'm thinking of changing the parenting plan to have my dates in permanantly , That way I don't have to go through it , Keep asking !!! and posting . You will get a variety of Ideas .
On the other hand the legal aid at My atty's office told me to do it covertly let them make the allegations and then Use the tape , I'm not sure how that would really work because , I was told that the judges use discretion because they suspect that you could bait them into something . Then tape it ! , And My tapes never went to court , But I did show the guardian ad Litem the tape when she had made up an allegation , it didn't make much difference ,
Another thing I did was set the recorder up in the car for when I drive up and stay in front of the camera , I really think the best effect of the video tape is it keeps every one honest ,
I think what kept her honest was her knowledge of me hiding the camera in the car ,
She would frequently be looking 'peering into the car when I came up and this seemed to keep her honest ,
The allegations About the transfer times stopped and she thought of some other crap to pull . but it didn't work ,
Picking up at the police station is pretty good ; My pick up is at Mcdonalds , The reason is Mcdonalds has a time and adress on their reciept , And My atty told me to but a coke at the transfer to show I was there , However she hasn't tried any crap since the transfer is at mcdonalds , , Its hard to make the change to a neutral transfer point , But As My atty said " Every one likes it when they do it "
As far as vacation I have a similar problem . I sent it to her atty of record and asked for a .. recieved stamp to be put on it . And My atty said If there is no objection take him on vacation " , I'm thinking of changing the parenting plan to have my dates in permanantly , That way I don't have to go through it , Keep asking !!! and posting . You will get a variety of Ideas .