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The vaccines were recalled due to the vaccine had lost strength, NOT due to safety.

The poster already said the person who registered the child is Mom.

Regarding ocean, "AFAIK this forum is about helping people with their doubts about issues that have to deal with parenting and family issues.  my question it's plain simple should school listen at both parents?  you give your point of view but please do not take this to other areas there is nothing to be confused about it. "


Whether you like what was told to you or not, Ocean is correct.  What you fail to understand is that legally, you are NOT recgonized in the US as having parental rights, therefore, you do not have a say about what is best or permissible for your child. The school does not have to listen to "both parents" because you are not legally considered having legal rights to that decision making for the child.   Period. 

What you fail to understand is that in the United States, in many states, an unmarried father of a child born does not automatically have rights or say regarding the upbringing of the child.  The "father" has to be given those rights through court, which is what you are doing.  The mother of the child is presumed to have sole custody and decision making until a court says otherwise.   You may not like it, but  that's the way it is.  You are in the process of trying to obtain rights but until a court says you do, you don't and the school nor anyone has to consult with you or get your permission regarding the child.   Additionally, with you being out of the country, don't be surprised to not be given shared legal custody.  Decision making regarding a child is difficult when people reside in the same area, but particularly difficult when out of the country.

Regarding the very original post, regarding H1N1, if this type of decision would go the courts because you do not agree with Mom, you have to provide a whole lot  more for your argument then I just don't agree with it.  The pros and cons would be evaluated and if that is your only arguement weighed against the benefits, you lose that arguement.

You may not like what someone has offered you, but there are people on this board who have extensive knowledge in dealing with these very issues in the US.  You don't have to listen or even post, but you don't get to be rude about it either.

What do you mean you consulted psychologists and therapist about her ?  Was she present? Was she fully evaluated by any of these professionals who gave you this advice?  Was she evaluated by a  psychiatrist?  If she was not fully evaluated by the therapist and psychologist, their professional opinions will mean nothing and if they did evaluate her and then told you what their findings were, they were in severe breach of confidentiality.  I find it very difficult to believe you got all of these opinions regarding her without her being evaluated, and being a former healthcare professional, I find it very difficult that any professional would say schizophrenia is the AIDS Of mental health disorders. AIDS is a treatable disease these days and so is mental illness. It's not her fault she is ill, and that's what she is - it is an illness. Again, her being diagnosed with those illnesses may be a factor for custody, but not unless she has posed a threat to her children with her illnesses, it may or may not have a bearing. Just be ready for that.   

I completely agree with Ocean.  You are wrong saying they haven't taken away your rights, you haven't been legally given any.  You haven't said if you were married, I am guessing no.  An unmarried woman is presumed to have sole custody until a court says otherwise.  The school does not need to respond to you or respect your wishes. A birth certificate and last name is not a guarantee of rights in many states. 

FL's standard is shared parenting.   Shared parenting in FL does not equate to 50/50.  It is highly unlikely either parent would be granted sole custody. The standard is shared legal custody and shared physical.  Anything other than that, you can be guaranteed a long drawn out expensive battle.   The problem with everything you said (her mental history) is that you knew it and you yet  chose to have sex and bring a baby into this world with her anyway, knowing all of those things.  I am not being mean, but you should have thought about that before you chose to have sex.  FL courts are very funny about that.  Things you knew and ignored tend to not be deciding issues in court, unless she put one of her children in direct harm by her actions.  You would have to show she has had children removed from her, child endangerment records, her being found by a professional to be incompetent to provide and take care of children, your word is not good enough.  They don't take away children due to a mental history alone.   

Here is the link to the FL Department of Health. http://www.doh.state.fl.us/planning_eval/vital_statistics/putative.htm (http://www.doh.state.fl.us/planning_eval/vital_statistics/putative.htm)

You will need to hire an attorney in FL.  I know you want to assume the child is yours, but don't.  You have no rights until the baby is born and paternity testing establishes you as the father.

You can offer to help her (financially)  now, but you are not required, nor is she obligated to include you in anything (dr visits, updates, etc..)

You will need to file for paternity testing once the baby is born, and once that confirms you are the father, file for what you will file for.   Her being admitted to a mental institution is not a reason to give you custody and the FL courts will not be likely to relinquish jurisdiction to you since you are out of state.   If the child is yours,  and you want to establish a relationship and fight for shared custody, you may want to consider moving back.

And this is the other step parent complaining about the other step parent.  This is not the NCP having an issue.

But it was also a snow day.  How can you know for sure that the child was kept home due to not being responsible?

I think you pick your battles and this is not a battle worth fighting for the parents.

What is the exact wording regarding transportation and transportation costs? If it does not say Mom has to pay half for Christmas, etc...then she probably doesn't have to pay half.  You need to file for clarification before you file for contempt.  If the orders are ambiguous about all transportation costs, or if it does not say Mom has to pay half for all trips, then contempt is not very likely to happen.

I agree with Ocean and BM..(sorry)... if the CO states to alternate holidays and specifically designates Thanskgiving as "which shall commence at 6:00 p.m the Wednesday before Thanksgiving, and conclude at 6:00 p.m. the Sunday following Thanksgiving...." then whoever has Thanksgiving that year has those designated days for that holiday.   The CO is setting the Thanksgiving holiday for whoever's year it is as specifically those days. Next year for Thanksgiving, he gets Wednesday @ 6pm through Sunday at 6pm.