Quote from: gemini3 on Oct 08, 2009, 06:25:24 AM
I guess I'm not clear on what you consider step-parents "overstepping their boundaries". What exactly do you feel a step-parents boundaries are? Do you think that forming a close relationship with their step-child is overstepping boundaries? Or, maybe, maintaining that relationship while her husband is deployed is overstepping boundaries?
I'm also not clear on what you think the difference is between "visitation" and "parenting time". Because, legally, there is no difference. The only difference is in the terminology used.
Anyone who has a familial relationship with the child has a legal standing to request time with that child - be it grandparents, aunts and uncles, or step-parents.
And, the children have a right to have a relationship with their step-parent. What a weird situation it would be for a child to spend time every week, or every other week, with an adult and never form any kind of bond or relationship with them.
Overstepping their boundaries would be thinking that they are entitled to the deployed parent's parenting time.
Yes, children have a right to have a relationship with the stepparent. But that does not take precedence over the child's right to be with an actual parent when one parent is not able to care for the child for long periods of time. Such as when a parent is deployed to a war zone.
The difference between parenting time and visitation is that the parent gets parenting time. Anybody else, it's just visiting.
And, typically, judges leave it to the parents to allow visits to grandparents/aunts/uncles. And typically side with a child being with the parent over the stepparent when the other parent is deployed.