meditation was today, mediator said joint legal custody, and sole physical custody to dad. with a step up visitation schedule, that in the end is rotating holidays and every other weekend order. and if she is serious about being involved i think this will be a fair order. she has to make 80% of all visits or she will get less time. The mediator already had her decision before we even got there to be honest, although BM declaration was full of lies and contradictions that if it was to go to trial would have been shredded apart. I didn't sign anything until after the lawyer looks the order over very well. but this is a good glimpse of what will be, and you all were right, noway she was getting Physical custody. i sure will sleep better now, and maybe i can have some money again.