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hi kitty,

let me reword, the crying is not done by our son its mom that does it which i think is unhealthy when you want to get re introduced to a 7 year old. and sombody that is supervising visitations really is not supposed to have any input in a case they know nothing about. Just to make sure the visit is a safe and healthy one. our son has a counselor as well as myself with credentials all i expect from a supervisor is a impartial supervisor keeping the visit a good one. my lawyer laughed when i told him she said her opinion holds weight in court. thanks again for the reply. and is sole physical custody hard to change?

well yes the mother is having reports made, i get a copies of everything. i guess to shopw that our child visits okay with her could be the best they could hope for. she tried getting into details, like i stated but when i talked to my lawyer they told me her job is just to supervise the visit. she has no recommendation or insight for the court. the counselor we are seeing does and that is confidential. I did tell her my concerns from the past and expressed ijust want our child safe and for it to be  ahappy time. when i told her crying just before a visit is over is not a happy time she tried to explain it's okay to do so. while the court triage agreed with me saying leaving out sad emotions on visits. that is a tactic in my opinion and the visits should be fun, safe and a happy time. the mother FAILED to call on one of her call nights which i documented and just as before there is our son right in the middle. the visitation lady did state there would be no way of her getting custody i', not sure why she said that, but then again i'm not sure why she told paying for a lawyer is a waste of money when i am trying to protect my child. also how can eye witness testimony be hearsay ot not allowed if by friends or a family memember? my lawyer disagreed again, and in fact sent all of the declarations to the mediator last week to give them plenty of time to read through them. She has yet to file any, while the only ones she could possible get would be a friend giving an opinion of what kind of mother she is, which if it's a good one is complete hogwash.

it's painful but i know there will be a visitation schedule set up, her responce to my filings were to give me sole physical custody with joint legal and a set visitation schedule. when i talked to her and she said she would take everyother weekend and half summmers nd then in a couple years try for 50/50. as my feelings are now i don't think 50/50 is a good option at all because we do not get along. if i get a judgement of sole physical how hard would it be for her to change it to say 50/50 later?

met with the person tht does the supervised visitations. she informed me what she documents holds a great deal of weight in court. good or bad. my thinking of supervised was just that supervised, to make sure your child is safe. my child is already in therapy, she also told me im wasting my money on a lawyer becase the outcome will be the same, and my 15 declarations of abuse the court will not consider since it came from family and friends alike. any advise to this?

thank you kitty, and everyone for your support,


i am driving myself nuts like my drea friend tells me everyday, the sky is blue stop worrying. we go to mediation in july and court aug 10. the supervisor needs me to fill out some paperwork and give her a breakdown of my concerns. like i have a myspace message talking of suicide for one instanced, she would like to have that. she said all her job is to do is stay and listen to make sure the visit is healthy and goes as planned by the courts. the mother keeps texting me hounding me to call but the court order says one two hour vist a week only, and like my lawyer said "you follow that order". I can promis you she will play mom of the year she is an extrememly good liar, but 15 declarations of eyey witnesss testimony already at the mediators office should prove she has abused not only myself, but this beautiful baby boy which i call my best friend. My sister told me on the telephone stop it!!! celebrate the fact she less in triage now means you have won the custody it's just not ruber stamped yet. hard to do with you precious little ones future on the line. please excuse me for driving some of you people nuts, believe it or not you give me great support and your advice is very very reasurring to our case.

i simply ignored her phone calls and her text messages. i have been contacted by the supervisor of the visitations. any advice here? if visits go well does that go against my custody? im sure the mother will play mother of the year during her two hour visits. i asked the lady if she reports to the court she said only if something bad happens but also reports the over all visitations. sorry for my nervous questions, i am just very concerned for our son.  as far as her calliing my lawyer called me and told me to not allow any and follow the court order which i have done and that is is my favor big time. according to my lawyer team i will will sole physical custody hands down but im sure you can understand my fears. thank you again.

just to add to what i said before. after court. i asked my lawyer "should i allow her to have phone cals like the previous triage lady set out 3 times a week"? he said no, not at this time. would anyone guess why he would say no to this? is this is my my sons best interest right now? the last triage lady only gave her two hrs supervised visitation one time a week anything more was at my discretion. i am just trying to figure out every agngle of my lawyers case i trust him he's good and i know he is not only looking out for his client me but his client our son. I am feeling pretty goood about our case now but of course until it's said and done im always on edge and court is very intemidating. thank you

my lawyer told me the two hrs one day a week is the bare minumum anything less is zero. this order is in effect until august. but we are fighting to keep it for alot longer than that. and NO over night visits what so ever. my lawyer said my chances of sole physical custody was extremely high. i trust him. he is also a sit in judge so im willing to bet he knows what he's doing, or at least i pray to god he does.

mom wants joint cutody all the way around. which myself as my lawyer disagree and as he put it she abandoed our child. she abused him and it has been witnessed and declared and filed.

oh by the way she got LESS than what they gave last time in triage, is there any meaning to this as well??

well today went down like this. we saw another triage person. the ex got one day a week supervised visitation for 2 hrs by a third party she has to pay for. no other contact allowed unless i agree to it. mediation is set for next month, in that time they will have all the eye witness abuse amd instability issues about the mom. i asked my lawyer flat out. : do i have a good chance at keeping custody"? his reply was extremely. then i asked him do i have a good chance at sole physical custody his response was extremely. do lawyers shoot you straight on this kind of info or woulkd they be more of, you could but it's uncertain. his responce led me to believe this case is all but over. the triage lady tried to say eye witness declarations are hersay, my lawyer laughed and said oh no they are not, they are eye witness of accounts and acts that have happened. it seems like triage people like to throw out doubt in hopes of lets make a deal right now which i did not unless it was what i thought was best for our son. any thoughts on this?