You have had custody of your son for two years, mom has been out of teh picture, and unless there is something you are not telling us about yourself, (dwi's, criminal charges, etc.) there hasn't been a change in circumstances that would indicate that it would be in your son's best interest to have teh custoy as it now stands to change.
My first perference is joint legal custody with a 50/50 spilt, however, your case is different, no contact, distance, and instabilty. All of those things will come out. I do advise you against saying anything negative to your son about his mother, all children have the right to believe that they are loved and supported by both of their parents, and no child has ever thanked their parent for trashing the other. Always take the higher road, and you will be able to live with both yourself and your son without unneccesary bitternes.
The biggest concern is always what is best for the child, and that is the job of the courts, if the parents cannot agree, you mostly likely will prevail, and won't require additional "dirt" on the mother.
Important things to remember and feel good about is that your son is happy and loved not only by you but also your extended family and friends. He has a sense of community and that is important to health and well being.
If mom wants to be involved that is great, and also good for your son, this should not be veiwed as a win lose situation, just what is good for the boy. If mom is not stable, i.e no place to live, no job, and unbalanced it will all be scene for what it is, not in his best interest.
Any court activity is stressful, and can consume you, If both attorneys have told you that this is a slam dunk, relax, until you have cause to be concerned, otherwise it is a waste of effort and energy that would be better spent enjoying your son. ( It is hard to play a board game if your obsessed with what might happen.)
Kids are smart, and hear alot more than they should so be extra careful not to discuss the pending case around your son, or even where he might hear it.
Good Luck, and chin up. Have Faith!
My first perference is joint legal custody with a 50/50 spilt, however, your case is different, no contact, distance, and instabilty. All of those things will come out. I do advise you against saying anything negative to your son about his mother, all children have the right to believe that they are loved and supported by both of their parents, and no child has ever thanked their parent for trashing the other. Always take the higher road, and you will be able to live with both yourself and your son without unneccesary bitternes.
The biggest concern is always what is best for the child, and that is the job of the courts, if the parents cannot agree, you mostly likely will prevail, and won't require additional "dirt" on the mother.
Important things to remember and feel good about is that your son is happy and loved not only by you but also your extended family and friends. He has a sense of community and that is important to health and well being.
If mom wants to be involved that is great, and also good for your son, this should not be veiwed as a win lose situation, just what is good for the boy. If mom is not stable, i.e no place to live, no job, and unbalanced it will all be scene for what it is, not in his best interest.
Any court activity is stressful, and can consume you, If both attorneys have told you that this is a slam dunk, relax, until you have cause to be concerned, otherwise it is a waste of effort and energy that would be better spent enjoying your son. ( It is hard to play a board game if your obsessed with what might happen.)
Kids are smart, and hear alot more than they should so be extra careful not to discuss the pending case around your son, or even where he might hear it.
Good Luck, and chin up. Have Faith!