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DH and I will be forced to proceed Pro Se on the issue of increasing parening time.

The original order was from 2002.  Our attorney was paid in Full at that time and we even received a refund of part of the retainer.

1) How do we go about requesting this file?

I think the attorneys did some negotiating that DH didn't know about,
letter between attorneys were mentioned in some letters sent to us.

2) Are there portions of the file we might not/or won't  be privvy to?

3) could there be a charge for this?

on the general issues board so as not to start a thread here.

Dh and  I have eow standard visits with his 2 boys 8 and 10.  The middle of september the ex moved for the 5th time in 4 years.

The last 3 visits with the boys, they have been caught stealing from my sons room and the 10 yr old was caught on the computer visiting playboy.com.

2 weeks ago the 8 yr old snapped the neck of one of our cats kittens.  He insisted it was an accident and it may have been, but then last weekend I caught him with another kitten, had ot trapped under a box and was laying on the box crushing it.  Up until then I did beleive it had been an accident, now I have my doubts.

As punishment the boys were grounded off the computer and are no longer allowed into my sons room at all.

On wednesday the ex went to ss's school with a story that my son had written, mafia/murder/justice kind of story.  10 yr old stepson stole ot off my sons computer after he was grounded from the room.

School reported that the ex felt my son was a danger to stepsons.  By thursday afternoon social services had decided that there was no concern it was just a story.

However, after they reported to social services the stepsons school then faxed the report they made to social services and a copy of the story to my sons school, and requested that my sons school have the school psychologist deal with my son.

1) what kind of legal authority did the stepsons school have on contacting my sons school?

My son has cerebral palsy and is highly emotional.  He was VERY distressed, and embarrassed when the school psychologist pulled him out of class. He was crying uncontrollable in the psych's office.

2) Once the report was made to social services shouoldn't the other schools part been done?  
3) Can we file something against the ex or the school for violating sons privacy that way?

We're in wisconsin and are looking at filing for full custody before the boys get any worse.

Sorry its soo long I'm very upset that she used my son in her game.

we haven't had any problem with ours. So maybe, yes try a different phone.

recorded call that "ALL FUTURE CALLS TO OR FROM ME WILL BE RECORDED".  

Then if they don't object they are agreeing to the recording of calls.

Then simply record ALL calls from then on.  Eventually the other party will forget that they're being recorded and do something stupid!

I don't know what to tell you about the contempt, but as far as the letters,

We sent the ex a certified return receipt letter stating that ALL corresondence in the future must be sent to DH certified return receipt as she was claiming to have mailed medical bills that we never received.

We also sent a copy to the court to be placed in the court file with a cover letter that stated  Because of the claims that these letters have mailed but we have no proof of mailing we are now requesting that all letters be sent certified return receipt.  If letters are claimed to have been mailed and we do not receive them we will view them as not having been mailed.

It is our feeling that "ex-wife" is purposely not sending letters and medical bills she claims to have sent simply to set "DH" up for further contempt charges.

This was 2 years ago.  We haven't had any problems since then.

We also have a phonecorder, purchased at radio shack, and record all calls. Of course we live in a "one-party state" so we can do this without her permission or knowledge.  DH's court order specifies  phone contact on tues and thurs from 7-8 p.m.

Try these and good luck to you.

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I am very sure about the answer to ? #1, however, DH isn't so could you clarify this for him please?

DH is working out of state, about 50 miles from our home. During our full week of placement I took the children where he's working, and we stayed at a hotel for 2 days.
Ex-wife found out.  She called saying HER children cannot leave the state without HER permission. (actually screamed a message to voice mail)

Court order specifically says, under    
         CONCLUSIONS OF LAW

         #9.   The minor children shall not be removed from the state of wisconsin EXCEPT for short vacation periods not to exceed 90 days per year, without the prior order of the court, or the prior written permission of the other parent.

   1. Was what we did wrong?  Can she file contmept for this?

Next question is this...DH and I have the opportunity to purchase a 10 yr old mobile home, on 20 acres with 2 ponds, a12 x 20 addition, and a 30 x 40 pole building for  $55,000.  

However this is also out of state, the area he's working in.

Again under Conclusions of Law

                  #10.  Physical placement rights have been granted to a party herein,the custodial shall provide tothe other party 60 days written notice of the custodians intention to establish legal residence outside the of this state or to remove the child from this state for a period of 90 days or more, or establish legal residence and remove the child  within the state at a distance of 150 miles or more from the other parent.  Notice shall be sent certified mail, with a copy to the court.

1.   Can DH and I move out of state, or do we need her or the courts permission? Or does this only apply to the CP?

We would, of course be filing a new parenting plan with the court to adjust placement to the distance we'd be moving from the ex.

Thanks for the help,  we'd hate to lose out on this opportunity!!

by the clerk of courts office, bu accident I'm sure.

I simply went in with the case # and asked to review the file.  I was given the entire file.   Which included reports from a psychologist about ex's new husbands drug use and charges pending for possesion of THC and drug paraphenalia.

I just asked for 1 copy of everything in the file and they copied everything for me.

He was also on a deferred prosecution agreement.  I felt it was my civic duty to report to the DA's office that he had not fullfilled certain portions of the agreement, at which time the DA recinded the agreement and he was charged and found guilty of the charges.  There were no major victories for DH and I, they simply gave him a suspended sentence and all the conditions of the DPA remained in effect but he was placed on probation until they were completed.

The big thing for us  is that now we have a record of his drug use.  And when we file for full physical next year we'll have that, along with all the ex's contempts and LONG list of other things.


Just ask for the file, you might be surprised, I was!!

Dad is filing for full custody, partially based on neglect, at 6 months old child has had several visits to hospital ER and been admitted over night at least once, that he knows of.

Dad went to hospital today and they refused to give him any medical information on the child. They stated they couldn't release info to NCP.
He HAD to have Moms signature to get any info.

We are in Wisconsin.

WI Statute 767.24 (7)   access to records.  (a) Except under par. (b) or unless ordered by the court, access to a childs, medical, dental and school records is available to a parent regardless of whether that parent has legal custody of the child.

Paragraph (b) is domestic violence.

We are drafting a letter to the hospital tonite. But before he sends it we need to know

             1) Can they deny him the records based on the new federal privacy laws? Or should we base letter on WI statute?

             2)  Should he name the person in records who denied him the information?   He did take down her name.

Thanks Soc.  He just doesn't know where to turn.