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They are out of Indiana I think.  
I'm in northern Wisconsin and listen as often as I can.

First, does your custody order say anything about phone contact?

If it doesn't then be resonable about phone calls.  Twice or three times a week is enough.

Our order reads that  respondent shall have phone contact every Tues. and Thurs from 7-8 PM.

Sadly, for DH's ex, the order says NOTHING about  her phone contact at all.  We do allow the children to call her, but we don't have to.  Just something for you to think about.

What we had to do was, as I am cp, was go to probation officer, you could do this by phone, and request a travel permit.  You will be required to tell them where the child will be, with who he'll be staying and the exact dates that the child will be leaving and returning to the state.  I did this for my ex due tohis being out of state, however if your ex isn't so cooperative maybe you could speak to the probation officer on your own. It is up to the probation officer whether or not to issue a travel permit.  Good Luck.  Sorry I didn't see this sooner, i've been working 2 jobs and don't get here as often as I'd like.

going to happen.  Psychomommy has convinced the school that DH is violent, she says he beat her while they were married.  

I'm a drug addict, and both DH and I are raging alcoholics.  Conferences are toward the middle of the month and WE WILL BE THER!!

Hopefully to counter some of these accusations.

Counseling starts saturday morning.  We'll see what happens.

we don 't need psychomommys consent to treat, they have joint legal, and she refuses to acknowledge the problem so we've set up and appointment with a family psychologist who specializes in children of divorce.

Unfortunately, DH was denied visit this weekend so we don't have skids for 3 more weeks as the 5th isn't defined in order as his weekend. He gets 1st and 3rd only. 5th if the ex agrees.

Our first appointment is the 1st saturday of november.

If you were to talk to DH about how I feel about this He'd make you think I'm nuts for suggesting it!!

I too think something needs to be done!!  Because we're so rural, our nearest Wal-Mart is 40 miles away,  I'm having a hard time finding any therapist!!  But I'll keep looking because clearly there are serious issues here.

First and foremost, if DH and I bring this up to either social services or psychomommy its going to look like we're angry with her for her stunt last week.

However, I've been mulling this over for 3 weeks now and simply don't know what to think about it.

3 weekends ago 8 yr old stepson "accidently" broke the neck on a 3 week old kitten.  No one else was in the room and he said he closed the recliner on it.  I absolutely believed it was accident until last week when they were here.

I found stepson had the only kitten we have left from the litter, under the lid for a shoebox.  I watched for about a half minute before I intervened.  He was shoving the box pretty roughly over the bed, could hear kitten crying.  Then he leand down, full force on the box, I didn't let it get any farther, but he clearly would have crushed the box on top of the kitten if I hadn't seen it.

DH thinks I'm overreacting.  I told stepson that he is NOT ALLOWED to have any contact with any animal in our house.  NOT EVEN THE FISH!!

What would you guys make of this?

for EVERY other weekend visit.  We pick up on friday night and theskids have a 2 1/2 hour ride.  Thats not to long for a visit.

My SS's are here eow.  At our house with my 12 yr old son the rule is,
he is not allowed to play th PS2.  He has a N64 and a super nintendo.
The PS2 belongs to DH and myself.  We also have DVD's that are kept
in our room because they are innapropiate for the kids, Pink Floyd The Wall, Road to Perdition, Phonebooth.  

I also work 2 jobs on weekends. 1-from 7am-noon and  2-from 1:30-7.

These are my problems right now, the skids have NO respect for whats in our room.  If DH is outside and I'm working they play the PS2 and watch DVD's in our room.  He doesn't tell them they can't be in there and when I have my 1 hr break between jobs my room is full of kids!!

The games for playstation are Crazy Taxi and Max Paine, they should NOT be playing Max Paine or 007, EVER!!  Thats why I put it in our room!!

How do I deal with this?  Its just so many little things,  There are things that I buy for everyone like Ben & Jerry's.  If they finish theirs then they eat whoevers is in the freezer.

I have had it with DH not doing anything about this.  If I have to, I may start locking the door while I'm at work.  I shouldn't do that to DH but if he won't do anything then I'm going to.

So, any suggestions would be GREAT!!  Thanks everybody!

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