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I've been through the same thing.  We were always the bad guys torturing the kids by treating and scraping them everytime we saw them.  BD pulled live lice out of BM's head and she still didnt believe it came from her house.  She would sometimes treat them, but would not follow the directions on the package.  Sometimes she would use an alternate treatment like coating with mayo or even once died their hair.

It was a major problem for us because of my daughter that lives with us.  BD's kids would come over and immediately we would have to "do heads" to prevent it spreading through our whole house.  Sometimes it would take all weekend and then we would have to send them back to get it again.  Hardly seemed worth it.

Now for your question, there is really nothing you can do about it.  All she has to do is say she is working on the problem.  You cannot prove that she is not doing so, right?  It really sucks but technically they are not being "harmed".

Backgroun:

My husband has two daughters 12 & 9.  The live with us during the school months, and their mom during the summer.  Each has alternating weekends during the other's time.

We have been having a doozy of a summer this year.  The mother lost her job (she lives with her Mom).  She has lots of spare time on her hands now to make everyone misserable.  She is working overtime on the kids.

She constantly tells them she misses them soooo much and just dies when they are away.  They need to live with her because she can take care of them so much beter... etc etc.  She also encourgages bad behavior with us, and "older" behavior in general.  She has been through about 30 "serious" (not kidding) partners in the last 5 years and beleives that every woman needs a man to take care of her.

Question:
My husband just found out that both girls have MySpace pages.  The 12 yo is signed up as a 13 yo.  Which isnt that big of a deal (kind of upsetting to us, but ok).  The 9yo is signed up as a 19yo.  This is very troubling to us.  Husband called ex (Mom) and asked that all of this be taken down that it was unexceptable.  She refused saying it was fine, she was watching them.  I realize we can probably write to the site letting them know the children are underage.  But there is nothing to stop her from opening new pages for them (we assume).

Any suggestions on what we should do here, or should we just accept and move on?