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#21
Dear Socrateaser / RE: Update on RO
Sep 02, 2004, 11:53:46 AM
1.  Could you tell me if I am able to ask for a "no contact order" when
the RO was filed in the Probate or Family Court?

State...MA
#22
Dear Socrateaser / RE: Update on RO
Aug 30, 2004, 04:56:41 PM


You have given me great advise so many times, and I truely
appreciate it.

Thanks again, and will keep in touch
Probably in September...another court date
Want her to pay for 1/2 of things that will be left
in the house that I had to replace or fix over 200
and will be left in the house after the sale of the house.

Pllus 1/2 of the taxes on the 401 we had to split
AND had to default on two loans taken against it,
and need her to pay half of the penalties and taxes.

SO...are ya ready????

Along with a charge for two tickets on my frequent-flyer
miles discount..she took a trip with her lover to Bermuda.
She has NO money though for school clothes for the kids...
She got half of my 401 which was quite a bit.

No questions tonight, but you know I'll be back with a bunch.
Thanks again

#23
Dear Socrateaser / RE: Update on RO
Aug 30, 2004, 04:56:41 PM


You have given me great advise so many times, and I truely
appreciate it.

Thanks again, and will keep in touch
Probably in September...another court date
Want her to pay for 1/2 of things that will be left
in the house that I had to replace or fix over 200
and will be left in the house after the sale of the house.

Pllus 1/2 of the taxes on the 401 we had to split
AND had to default on two loans taken against it,
and need her to pay half of the penalties and taxes.

SO...are ya ready????

Along with a charge for two tickets on my frequent-flyer
miles discount..she took a trip with her lover to Bermuda.
She has NO money though for school clothes for the kids...
She got half of my 401 which was quite a bit.

No questions tonight, but you know I'll be back with a bunch.
Thanks again

#24
Dear Socrateaser / RE: Update on RO
Aug 30, 2004, 06:55:25 AM
I put that offer in writing to my lawyer..that I was willing to take a
polygraph, and my lawyer didn't seem to make this offer to the
judge....

I am truely so disillusioned because I am TRUELY not guilty of anything
and my lawyer thought she was Covering her a** just on the outside
of it that I Was guilty of anything.  

My lawyer told me that she could have put it up to a year, but she thinks
she also has doubts about it, so she put a reappear in 3 mo.

I am going to suggest to my lawyer about the 'no contact' order instead of a RO.  This would be reasonable to me because I do not want any
contact with her either...the only thing is delivering children to and from
her house...The judge told me I could go get the children, but could
not get out of the car....

Also to show you how dangerous I am...my ex asked for me to
take the children because she was going to be gone all day,on her
weekend, ....NOT 48 Hrs AFTER SHE SAID I WAS GOING TO KILL HER
I sent the e-mail to my lawyer...
#25
Dear Socrateaser / Update on RO
Aug 29, 2004, 08:47:37 AM
Thanks for advise...on RO

What actually happened was she told a BIG lie at the hearing,
and my lawyer said it was a big lie, but in the end she (the judge)
kept the RO on me for 3 more months, and then revisit.

She claimed I was in her house at 1:00 in the morning and she
saw me there...the judge asked...weren't your doors locked, she
said yes, but I didn't push it tight...

With that "new" lie she was able to keep this thing going for another
3 months,,,and my only hope is that this does not prevent me from
getting a new job that has very good prospectives...

1.  Do employers usually check to see if there is a RO on you?

2.  Is this considered a criminal offense?
#26
Thanks Soc and Kitty....we go to court AGAIN for me to prove that
this is not true...I am taking your advise and ask for polygraph

I'm so concerned about this because my children are in sprorts at school and this would mean I am unable to be at their games????

Right now, I will have to figure out some way of dropping the kids
off to her after my vacation (ha) with them.  I really don't want the
children even associated with the 'police'...I think that would harm
them in itself....Police...Dad must be bad...why do we have to do;
this...????
#27
Dear Socrateaser / restraining order
Aug 19, 2004, 03:32:34 PM
history...divorced 1/04

have children eow and Tuesdays

My ex has just served me with a restraining order saying
I want to 'kill' her...(absolutely rediculous).

This is a 'payback" for me taking her to court to get
reimbursement for her half of things that will be left
at the home when the home is sold...(replaced pool filter
and had to put in a new dishwasher)which stays in the home... had to take her
to court for her to sign the purchase agreement.

Well, trying to brief, so in the meantime of getting the purchase
offer signed, tring to get reimbursement, the people who made
the offer had the home inspected, and now because of repairs
to it are offering less, and my ex says she will not sign again...
and now she put a restraining order on me because she said I
made threatening accusations to her on the phone...ABSOLUTELY
NOT TRUE.

I pay the mortgage and she is very vindictive (wants me to
suffer financially with the mortgage, so we will be on the
same field...both in apartments...AND SHE WAS THE ONE LEFT
AND LEFT THE KIDS WITH ME...somethng is wrong here....

If this doesn't end soon...I'm going to lose the house

I live in the marital home...

Questions:
1. How can I fight this restraining order?

2.  How can I drop off the children without going 100ft from
her house?
#28
Dear Socrateaser / Am I able to do this
Aug 18, 2004, 05:24:07 AM
History:---divorced 1/04--MA State
Pay child support , health insurance and have eow and Tuesday nights.

I am getting a new job that will take me out of town 4 days a
week...so I am going have to miss my Tuesday nights with
the children.

1. Do you believe that I would be able to switch my Tuesday
nights to Friday night so I don't miss any time with children?

2. What would I have to do to request this?

3.  Is this reasonable, and what do you think are my chances?
#29
Dear Socrateaser / RE: What proof do I need.
Jul 08, 2004, 07:58:52 AM
Even though I can show documentation of Each contempt, will she still
be able to say 'they are lies like she did when I listed them and went to court only to be told the paper work was not in order and the Judge just
ruled on reduced child support (temporarily)

1.  Will this be just a conclusion of the judge on which one of us she
believes, even if I can show in documentation where each one of
these things were violated and point directly to the order.
#30
Thanks Patton...

All the contempts have been written in the parenting agreement
which she is not complying to, but how do I show proof of the
laptop not coming back and forth between houses...I think she
pawned it.

Also she left messages on the phone calling me names and I could
hear the kids in the background...and no I didn't save it

I am sooooo frustrated...what is this parenting agreement and court
order stand for if she can do what she pleases to the detriment of
the childrens' father....

There are 11 contempts and each one of them are in the parenting
agreement court order.