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Update on circumstances:

My ex has children one more night than me in custody arrangement.

Also I am limited to EOW and a weeknight eow.

Change of circumstances:

We went to court in January 2004 and child support was decided
on a calculation.  She worked from October 1, 2004 until she
received her first child support check February 1, '04.
She was making 40,000 a year and they credited this in the
amount of $100 a week less child support because she was
employed.  Now I want to know is......






Now my ex has been "fired" from her job...(all too convenient if you
ask me), nontheless, that is the fact.

1.  Will the fact that my ex has been fired from her job, constitute a
"change of circumstance"?

2.  If so, will this change the calculation that they did a month ago?

3.  Is there any way I could find out if she was fired or quit,,or does
this matter..?  (Really curious)  

4. Will they recalculate the formula, because she now will not have
that income.?

5.  Is there such a thing as imputing that salary she made, into
a calculation that she is able to make this amount of money?

6.  Will this change my support payments..I was credited with a
$100 a week because she worked...now what?

MY God, you just quoted my life.....

I don't believe there truely is joint custody...the one with
custodial in front of the name, gets to decide all the rules, even
if they are stated differently in a court order because if
you challenge them, then you will look as if you are whinning, and
judges do not want to be bothered with whinners...

I guess you have to (as was quoted to me) pick your battles,
and hope that in the end your child or children will see you for
who you are...a parent who really loves their child

>We have 50/50 plan "joint equal rights custody"for 10 year
>old SD, but BM is residential "for school placement only".
>That is it. However, THAT gives her a ton of pull too. Final
>say, etc etc. (seems to anyway)
>
>She enrolls SD in music lessons (no discussions with dad),
>activities, and good ol dad has to comply to all (take her to
>the lessons, and pay for half). We are in court now over a "7
>day a week" swim club (very demanding). That is nearly
>impossible for our family to drive 35 minutes to and from etc.
>daily with a family of 5 (2 other kids of our own under age 4
>and one on the way). (Swim club is in BM neignborhood).
>
>We are fighting that one tooth and nail. Dad should have some
>say of his 50%. Not a slave to whatever mom wants to put her
>in to inconvenience dad and his entire family 7 days per week.
>(ok I'm ranting now.....)
>
>The stuff now is tough enough: BM never calls to inform us
>when stuff is cancelled, so we drive there and discover that
>instructors had called BM, but BM didn't bother to let us
>know. Wastes our time.
>
>Boy was that a mistake on our part. And the school alone
>treats us as outsiders. We have to jump through hoops for an
>order form for school pictures etc etc.
>
>I doubt changing your order would help. Seems someone has to
>be the "superior parent". (even if they are unworthy...)
>
>My opinion.

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jUST WANTED TO LET EVERYONE WHO GAVE ADVISE AND COUNSEL....
MY EX HAS FILED 'CONTEMPT' PAPERS, AND I FILED FOR PHYSICAL
CUSTODY OF MY SON....WE WILL SEE ON JUNE 28 THE RESULTS OF
BOTH OF THESE FILINGS......

I AM JUST GOING TO TELL THE JUDGE TO TALK TO MY SON....HE
WILL TELL YOU WHY HE WANTS TO LEAVE AND WANTS TO LIVE WITH ME......AND I AM GOING TO BE THERE FOR HIM.....

HE SAID IF THEY MAKE HIM GO BACK, HE WILL COME BACK TO MY
DOOR AGAIN.....AND AGAIN.....

WISH ME LUCK......FOR THE FIRST TIME IN A VERY LONG TIME, I FEEL     MY SON IS ON THE RIGHT TRACK.....EMOTIONALLY, AND
ACADEMICALLY,......I ONLY HOPE THE COURT FEELS THE SAME.

THANK YOU EVERYONE FOR ADVISE.....I AM NOT LOOKING FORWARD
TO ANOTHER 'COURT' SESSION.....BUT THIS TIME IT IS A DIFFERENT
....NOT FIGHTING FOR JOINT CUSTODY....BUT HAVING MY SON
WANTING TO LIVE WITH ME....

ALSO, KNOWING THAT PERHAPS THIS MIGHT BE A TEMPORARY
SITUATION,,,,BUT TRUELY HOPE THAT HE CAN STAY WITH ME
AND GET OUT OF THE HOSTILE ENVIRONMENT.

HIS MOTHER IS GOING TO COURT TOMORROW MORNING, SO WE WILL
SEE WHAT THIS HOLDS.....JUST WANT MY SON TO BE IN A
CALM AND LOVING ENVIRONMENT.

THANKS AGAIN...I'M SURE YOU WILL HEAR FROM ME AGAIN AFTER
COURT.....

Does anyone know my chances of the court allowing my seventeen year old son to change his residence to mine from his mother?

He and his mother have continually been at each other and emotionally,
he is a wreck....His marks have plumitted and yesterday he came to
my door with his clothes and said he is not going back......

I welcome him with open arms, but I am wondering the legalities of
this....the police came to my door, (assuming that his mother sent
them to get him)....just asked if he was here, and asked if we had
joint custody, and I said we do,,,,,and they left without my son.....

What are my next steps,,,,,He definately wants to be here,,,but also
know the complexes of the court system....

His mother said she is going to court Monday......

Could someone give me some examples of
"Substantial Change of Circumstance" that would
warrent a 'change of custody' from joint to sole?

I would appreciate as many cenarios as you can think of.....

what about visitation?

mostly