I have told my boy, on several occasions, 'don't plan or ask to spend the night at friends houses on my weekends'. He just recently got busted at a school pep assembly for 'blowing up condoms and throwing them'(October 30, 2009). He was allowed, by BM to go to football game on that Friday, and then spend the night after the Homecoming dance on Saturday. I have yet to implement a punishment as this is the first weekend to do so. He text me on his desire to spend the night at a friends. Here is the dialog with me:
November 5, 2009 11:26:48 AM
Adopted Son: Tomorrow night my friend is having a party it is a sleep over i was wondering if i could go please
November 5, 2009 6:01:05 PM
AS: Tomorrow night my friend is having a party it is a sleep over i was wondering if i could go please
November 5, 2009 6:46:52 PM
ME: No.
November 5, 2009 6:47:17 PM
AS: Why
November 5, 2009 6:49:42 PM
ME: AS. You know why. No more discussion.
November 5, 2009 6:52:18 PM
AS: I actually dont so could you please explain it to me
November 5, 2009 7:25:35 PM
AS: Just to let you know i have seen the parenting plan and as i quote "the parties are encouraged to implement the residential schedule flexibly and adapt to it as the childrens needs change" well as i get older i have more friends and more parties my needs have changed and i am not saying that i wont be there saturday it is just one night with friends
November 5, 2009 8:45:50 PM
AS: i take from your non response that it is cool for me to go through with my plans see you saturday
November 5, 2009 8:56:12 PM
ME: I said no more discussion. I will see you Friday at 6.
November 5, 2009 9:03:52
AS: Well if you think you are being the good parent for punishing me for what i did last week then your wrong that has been taking care of and it is not your responsibility to punish me for something that you have nothing to do with
HUH?
I have not responded and I will not. He is expected to be here, Friday at 6PM. That has never changed. BUT, what happens if he does not? Then BM is in the hot seat, right?
November 5, 2009 11:26:48 AM
Adopted Son: Tomorrow night my friend is having a party it is a sleep over i was wondering if i could go please
November 5, 2009 6:01:05 PM
AS: Tomorrow night my friend is having a party it is a sleep over i was wondering if i could go please
November 5, 2009 6:46:52 PM
ME: No.
November 5, 2009 6:47:17 PM
AS: Why
November 5, 2009 6:49:42 PM
ME: AS. You know why. No more discussion.
November 5, 2009 6:52:18 PM
AS: I actually dont so could you please explain it to me
November 5, 2009 7:25:35 PM
AS: Just to let you know i have seen the parenting plan and as i quote "the parties are encouraged to implement the residential schedule flexibly and adapt to it as the childrens needs change" well as i get older i have more friends and more parties my needs have changed and i am not saying that i wont be there saturday it is just one night with friends
November 5, 2009 8:45:50 PM
AS: i take from your non response that it is cool for me to go through with my plans see you saturday
November 5, 2009 8:56:12 PM
ME: I said no more discussion. I will see you Friday at 6.
November 5, 2009 9:03:52
AS: Well if you think you are being the good parent for punishing me for what i did last week then your wrong that has been taking care of and it is not your responsibility to punish me for something that you have nothing to do with
HUH?
I have not responded and I will not. He is expected to be here, Friday at 6PM. That has never changed. BUT, what happens if he does not? Then BM is in the hot seat, right?