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You have given me plenty of places to start!

FTK

BM is acting really wierd... we want to do a background search on her and her new "friend"

Anyone have any opinions on a good web site?  I am looking for something that won't charge me by the name (since she has had multiple)

Thanks!
FTK

I don't think so.

She had 5 dogs at the time, and only brought 2 with her when she moved back to the area.  (She left the other dogs and all the other animals to die at her old house).   Some good citizen (me) called animal control in her old county and GLADLY gave them her new contact inforamtion, I often wonder if any charges were filed against her for animal neglect.

I have asked the kids about the dog bite incident and they didn't know anything about it, which makes sense.  From the court papers I saw it happened when they were home and not with her.

Thanks
FTK

Thanks for All the feedback Mixed.

Part of our offer was that the new schedule would not go in to effect until the order was signed by both parties.  (BM has a habit of agreeing to changes and then not singing the updated orders.)

So no, 50/50 has not been happening, it is still 60 (us) / 40 (her).  The judge pushed DH really hard for him to agree to the 60/40 back in August.

The kids have been doing okay with it, but they are struggling in school after her one night/ week during school.


The kids are concerned about their sister, they have not talked to her in more than 3 months, and they told me that BM has not talked to their sister or even about thier sister either.

Something fishy is going on.

BM is unemployed, living off of a rich married mans financial generosity, and about to get hit with a MAJOR civil judgement.

I guess we will just wait and see what happens, and definately NOT let the 50/50 happen after all.

Thanks again!
FTK

I swear this woman (or whatever she is) is at it again.

She moves back a year ago, takes us to court because she wan'ts 50/50.  We finally agree to settle in Dec and give in to the 50/50 since that is what the kids say they want.  (SD's are 13 and 11)

We still have no agreement, we are just waiting for her to ask when it will go in to effect.  How important was this to her?  She has basically surrendered her new time for the past 3 months!

Now we find out her oldest (not DH's) who is 15 has moved out of her moms house, in with friends and is not going to school.

I think we are going to withdraw the offer.

Anyone have any insight on how we can use that fact that the 15 year old left to our benefit?

PBFH is also about to get slapped with a $75K Civil judgement against her for one of her dogs attacking a child last year.  She did her usual ignore it and maybe it will go away routine.

I need suggestions, what should we do?

Thanks!
FTK

Makes sense.  SD's were too young to remember thier parents together and happy when PBFH abandoned them and DH.

DH thinks that SD's are the ones wanting to watch the videos constantly since they are homesick.  Makes them feel closer to DH.  (Even though they are right down the street)

Thanks for the response

FTK

Okay, that does make sense... and I would love to be able to put something together like that for the kids.

The PBFH still has pictures of my DH in her house.  That is just odd.  (They were only together for less than 2 years and she left him and the kids more than 10 years ago)

Dh thinks that the kids are the ones asking to see the videos... they miss us terribly and are bored out of their skulls this summer.

Thanks for the response

FTK

SD's are with the PBFH for the summer.  YSD's birthday is today, so I called.  Apparently for the past few days BM has been showing them all the old home movies from when she and DH were together.  Now, they were only together for about 2 years, and YSD was 3 months old when the PBFH left them and DH.  How many movies could they have?

And WHY is the PBFH dragging this stuff out?

It is just odd.

FTK

I will go with a recent one.

BM takes us to court to modify CS, and for us to pay her lawyer fees.  Says she has NO money since she got a divorce and is unemployed.

I take a drive to the local court house, get copies of her "new" divorce agreement and find out that she got a lump sum payment of $55,000 just the month before.  

Before we have a chance to share this information with our lawyer BM buys a brand new Volvo.

Needless to say, our lawyer is beside himself, and happily shares the information of her new found wealth with her lawyer.  Funny thing... NOW she wants to keep CS as it is and wants each party to pay their own legal fees.

FTK :)

Of course... not suprised, but we figured since she is trying to change custody that she would put on some sort of act.

The kids went to their Aunts house with their Grandma for all of Mothers day, the PBFH didn't want to go to the Aunts house.

I just don't get it!

This whole thing is stressing me out to no end.

On top of it all DH got laid off.  So now not only does PBFH want to end CS, she wants us to pay her lawyer fees... and now I am the only one financially supporting my step-kids.

FTK