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Gotta love how it comes back to bite these PBFH's in the butt!!!

My SD's came home from their moms house this past weekend, seems her current husband wasn't around and funny thing... his stuff is gone too.  (SD's had not seen her in almost a month)

Of course PBFH lied to the kids and told them that he was just out of town for the weekend.  Sheesh.

She told DH and I that our marriage wouldn't last 5 years....we just passed the 8 year mark...... hers is not even 2 years.

I feel sorry for the guy, he was nice, and I feel sorry for my SD's... they really liked him.

FTK

Love it!  Funny how it is the little things.

Our PBFH couldn't have the kids naturally.... seems she has Herpes and it was flaring up when it came time to deliver both of theirs... DH had only seen C-Sections.

The look on his face when we had our son...of course natuarally and without all the drugs she had pumped in to her during labor..... oh and BTW, she only gave him girls;)

FTK

Love it!  Funny how it is the little things.

Our PBFH couldn't have the kids naturally.... seems she has Herpes and it was flaring up when it came time to deliver both of theirs... DH had only seen C-Sections.

The look on his face when we had our son...of course natuarally and without all the drugs she had pumped in to her during labor..... oh and BTW, she only gave him girls;)

FTK

... you have always said that your SS would get to be too much for that PBFH.

He would probably LOVE being with you all the time instead of his mom :)

(BTW, Glad to hear that you and DH are working things out)

FTK

I completely understand how you feel!  

Our PBFH called DH just days before our wedding saying that his "second" marriage wouldn't last more than 5 years.... huh.. funny thing, we are celebrating our 8th anniversary next week.  AND her current husband of not even 2 years has been calling DH asking if she was "always" this crazy.... looks like her marriage won't last 5 years.

Gotta love Karma.

FTK

Wild horses couldn't keep me away!!

I would do as Kitty has suggested.  Call the local Police and ask them if they can provide an "escort" or ask them what they can do to protect themselves because they are going.

If she causes a scene, she is going to make herself look like an idiot.

Unbelievable how immature some people can be.   I keep debating on asking our PBFH when she is planning on getting out of High School :-).


FTK

NM

.... and you don't have to let anyone in if you don't want to.

She has no control over you or your home just as you don't over hers.  She has no "right" to go inside your home.

:-)

On the flip side though, you are taking the high road and being civil... that is a good thing.   You are proving to your SD who the real adults are in the situation.

Take Care
FTK

I really appreciate and respect your response.

I feel it is always good idea to get feedback from an outside party that can look at things objectively.


Take Care
FTK

Thanks for reading Mixed :-)

There was never a support order put in place way back when because with BM working min wage it would have been $25/ month.... and it was not worth the stress to drag that amount out of her.  (Original order was 65% DH / 35% BM)

When she moved in Sept 2003 it decreased to 75% DH/ 25% BM, BM was making more than 3 times min wage, but quit her job and refused the employers offer to telecommute from her new home.

Our issue is she is capable of working has an offer to work, but choosing not too.  DH tried to talk to her about child support after she moved, guideline is at least $500/ month based on DH's old salary and BM's old salary.  We don't want that, just something and tried to talk to her about that, she just didn't want to talk, so DH turned it over to DCSS to handle.

We suspect that DCSS has given her the preliminary amount and it trying to get her to stipulate to it, that is the only explanation for her sudden interest in DH dropping the CS.

As for her taking the kids more, I hate to say it, but she won't do that, she comes down here to see her parents and doesn't see the kids, she doesn't call them for weeks at a time, and SD's tell me that she complains about having to drive down here to pick them up when she does have them.   I just don't get how a parent can be so incredibly disinterested in their children.

Thanks for listening.  
I really appreciate and respect your feedback!!

FTK