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I'm with everyone else in saying congratulations and can we give you our ex's number to call her and tell her what our $1700.00 a month can go for.............. YEP you heard me right, $1700.00 and she couldn't even make enought money to pay a stinking water, cable, and (old) jeep payment.  Our money paid for the morgage and  had enough left over for gorceries... She sold the house and now lives in a ratty 3 bdrm apartment in a crappy part of town.  She doesn't even buy the kids new school clothes, yet she is wearing all the brand name stuff and has $300.00 sun glasses.  AMAZING isn't it.  

Well, any ways way to go on getting cs.... YIPPEE

Thanks for the response!   Not only has my DH been paying her, he has been over paying her for the past 3 years by $200.00 and when he and he's lawyer told her that he wasn't going to be paying it any more that is when she said she is taking him back to court because she just needs more money.  And what gets me is becasue they did this themselves, actually she wrote it all up, instead of a lawyer, she made some mistakes and he actually paid her for 9 months that he didn't have to pay her.  
I guess what pisses me off SO bad is she doesn't use the money for the kids.  She pays her credit card bills, takes her unemployed low-life boyfriend out to expensive dinners, buys herself nice clothes, and lets the children stay at a babysitters and they get to wear clothes that don't fit, and that are always dirt and full of holes.  
I would love to prove that she is a unfit mothers, but WA state is practacly impossable for doing that.  Does anyone know if we would have a chance on getting 50/50 custody?
Thanks again

It's been awhile since I posted, but nothing has changed in our situation.  Let me recap- My SO has 2 kids (D-9 S-10) that live with their mother.  Due to he's job we only get them every 6 weeks for 2 weekends in a row.  He pays her child support and alimony and if you ask me, WAY TO MUCH!  She has always been "crazy" and very careless with her mo, she only works 30 hours a week because she knows that if she works more then that she wouldn't be able to get as much cs from her ex.  
Recently we found a few BIG flaws in the do-it-yourself divorce and child support papers that she wrote up when the got a divorce.  She is asking for more money because she just can't seem to make ends meet now days, and that's because she is supporting her no-good cheating boyfriend without a job.  So she is at my SO throat telling him that he is going to have to pay, pay, pay more money.  
He tried to sit down with her and talk to her about this and all the other crap she is trying to pull on him, but we just got a call today and she is taking him back to court.....
I guess I need to know 2 things.  One, who do I write to in the world of goverment to tell them to pull their heads out and re-write the child support laws and TWO, How do you get a court/judge to see that just because he makes good money and she decides not to get a good job, not to make the current and very up to date and overpaid child support amout to increase.
I have all kinds of legal questions, but it would take forever in a day to write.

Was wondering what kind of proof you provided and how long did it take to have this done?  My SO's ex is Bi-polar and I think it affects the kids a lot.  They are scared of her and have been told that they are not to tell us ANYTHING that goes on in her home.  They live with her and we only get them 3 weekends in a row then 3 without.  Every time they come to our house it is so hard to re-train them to think like normal kids.

It's been awhile since I've posted, but am in DESPRITE need of some advice.  My 9 yro SD is having major issues with me (SM) and I just don't know how to handle it.  When coming to our house, she will be very cold to me for the first couple of hours, won't talk to me, look at me, or responde to anything  I say.  Then if she does she will only say things about her mom and what she gets and does with her mom.  Recently on Christmas we had a BIG blow out with her.  I called her out on her attitude and the way she was treating me.  I asked her if she knew that I loved her, she said no.  Yet I tell her every time I see her, every night when I tuck her into bed and she still thinks this.  I told her that I would NEVER treat someone I loved or anyone for that matter the way she treats me.  She just looked at me and walked off.  We then wrote her mother a letter explaining the problems we have been having with her.  Her mother writes back to only my SO and states that I am the problem with why their daughter acts out and this is not the first time that they have expressed that to him and if he eliminates the problem, me, then their daughter would stop acting out.  To my knowledge the only time they have had a problem with me (both he's kids) was when they decided they didn't like OUR rules of the house.  (brush your teeth, make your bed, clean up your messes, etc...) And the SD acts out towards her father also.  She has been VERY unappreciative lately, as been lying to us, and just being plain rude to us and our family.  What on earth do we do?  I am at the end of my ropes and I have to pick them up from school tomorrow.  HELP!

HI there...

Washington state
Pierce County

1. SO and I are getting married in September.  Both children (b-12, g-11) are suppose to be in our wedding.  There mother is refusing to let them come because it is not our weekend to have them.  We would like them from Friday to Sunday.  Is there any kind of injunction/paper work that we can file to make sure that they are there?

2. When filing a modification of parenting plan, without a lawyer, what forms must be filled out?

Thanks.

Our lawyer did this for us and no we have had no hearing or heard anything from the courts?  I will call both the lawyer and the court clerk and see why this hasn't been taken care of.
Thanks

We did get notice of her saying she was going to move.  That's when we put the stop move petition in place.  Doesn't she still have to go back to court, married or not, to get an order saying she can move after the judge hears both sides.  She failed to do that!

Hi Soc,
  In WA state and emailed you about putting a stop move on my FI's ex wife.  We wanted to keep her from moving due to the fact that SS didn't want to move into her fiancee's (now husband) house.  He wanted to live with us.
 She went ahead and moved, but never went back to court to file for a petition from the court to allow it.  So my question is,

 1. What do we do now?  Do we file something with our lawyer or directly with the courts?

2.  What will happen to her?  Is there any penlty for doing what she has or because she got married before she moved does that make it ok?

Thanks for your help!
almostastepmom

Hi Soc...

  Here in WA State and heading off to court this afternoon.  I have a couple of questions that I need answered before I go. Just a refresher for you about our situation... FI's ex has taken him back to court for more cs.  The judge, dispite current pay stubs, set his monthly income way to high.  We go to court today to figure out what the cs increase is going to be.  Both lawyers were suppose to use the circule E program to get the 3 amounts that cs could be.  Her lawyer's #'s are way higher then ours.... Here is what I'm having problems with.

1.  The judge has already set an amount for my FI's monthly income.  It is way above what he currently is making.  How can a judge make him pay an amount that is going to leave him in the black each month?  Isn't there anything that we can do about this?

2. At the first hearing judge ruled NO extra money for child care.  She then signs the children up for all kinds of summer camps (which they have never been to before) and wants FI to pay for them now.  What is the likelyhood of the judge saying he has to pay for them?

Hope I made sense. Thanks for helping!