So we had court today and commissioner agreed to our update with the same parenting evaluator. Said BM's complains were not serious enough to warrant a change in evaluators and in fact, kind of praise the evaluator (it seems the court knows her and she has a really good reputation). that's good but now BM says she broke up with boyfriend and he's not in her life anymore. He actually wrote a letter on her behalf in her response and change immediately his facebook page (we used his faceboock page to prove there was a relationship between them) to show he was single and that he went back to his hometown. For me all this is clearly a ploy so that he is not evaluated but we have no proof their relationship continues. Yet I have the feeling that after a few months after evalution is over, they weill somehow reconcile. It's frustrating to be right and yet not have proof of it. DH is going to push for a thorough psych evaluation for BM (and if he has to do it, that will be fine). I'm convince she has serious issues so maybe with medication she will be better. One can only hope.