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I kinda agree with sunshine, just pull a name from the phone book :)

you can maybe follow her home at kids parenting time exchange?
that's what I did with mine.

I also drove my kid in front of daycares to find his daycare: "look papa this is my new daycare" oh really ??!?! :)


This is not very legal but some peoples in the past have called the post office pretending to look for a miss delivered package, ...

if she has a cell phone then you could try to look that up or call her on it then pretend for a bad connection. call her back, again bad connection, .. you are so sorry, .. then ask if she can call you from a landline or you call her to a landline, .... maybe that is listed and you can have the address, ...

if you have the BF's name you can search on that

hi Lucky,
wanted to ask you too.
When I filed the motion and my ex replied through the expedited process, the CS services sent a note to both of us stating the reported income that the "deed" had on file.

my ex is wrong (the deed claims she makes only 250$ a month) and she admit making more like 2000 in her affidavit but then mine is wrong as well on the deed but overstated (says I make more than I am actually making)

did you receive this notice from the CS office stating the amount from the deed and were they accurate?
does the magistrate will go with them or will rather go with the pay stub we both provided ?

give us some news on your case

Hi,
I never been through the expedite process for a motion to modify CS, ... beside the legal part about it , I am looking for hints as to what will happen.

do we testify?
does the magistrate wants to simply listen to nothing and "expedite" the deal with : your pay check, other paycheck and done deal, ... ???

I am assuming since it is the "expedite process" that it is a little different ,... the magistrate only rule on the child support part, ...

any hints on some of you that went through the process that can describe it (not the motion and all, all of that is done, I am looking for hearing day tips)

thanks

No actually he doesn't want to sign nor do we really know if he would or not. he has dropped off the face of hearth for the past 3 years. he is not a US citizen and reside in Asia

So no CS, he pays nothing

I'll go downtown to the self help center, they might know the process

Hi sunshine,
Are you sure that I'd file a "voluntary Termination" motion rather than an "involuntary Termiantion" ?
If my wife file the Motion for Involuntary Termination" based on the abandon and failing support reason, ... ?!?!? this sounds more appropriate.

Furthermore I read that the Juvenile Court is to rule on this but so then we file my motion with the Juvenile court not the family court ?

Even More I read that this goes better if you file the Motion to Adopt at the same time so that the court can see that there will not be a single burden, ...


do you file motion to adopt with juvenile court as well ?

Anyone has samples of this process?

My wife's daughter has been with only one father for a long time now: me.
Her father lives in another far away country and has not had any contact with us for over 3 years. We do not know where he lives. He has no more family, ....

Bottom line is I would like to adopt my daughter and I understad that before I can do that we need to terminate her birth father's rights.

Anyone can give me clues as to the process?

I posted on soc's forum as well



you will have many advises.
I am myself going through custody battles and issues with ex-wife and oh boy do I wish she was getting eviceted like yours. Not that I wish it for the kids but if a little hurt can bring them 15 years of a better life then so be it.

Let's just say without being a lawyer that the fact that she is in a bad situation is to your advantage. As others said, it's a price to be won and no one in the court system will give much weight to your kid.

However I am from MN and there are a few things that count here especially in the Hennepin county.

1- where the kids go to school and school stability. GET KIDS REGISTERED IN YOUR SCHOOL DISTRICT. pawn your life if you have to. I am kidding on the life part but this is the MOST IMPORTANT thing.
Judges and evaluators look at school stability as a bonnus x10 for the side that has the kids in their school. bad mom or not. where the kids go to school is the key.

2- do whatever you can to make the temporary situation last 6 month.
kids 6month with you plus school with you is a x50 bonnus, .....

If you can have the kids over 6 months and your school in september then wait the summer and wait the 6 month then file for a motion for custody change and ask for a custody evaluation. if you have the above, pro-se or not it's a winner.

3- never, never, NEVER bring the issue of child support. bite the bullet. be willing to pay it to her even though kids are with you. The court will examin you to see if the reason for custody change is child support and if it is or they believe it, the other barty just got all your points and you will loose.
However, try to never put on paper that you will pay her for ever. the trick is to make it a non issue then after you have custody for a month then go file for a hearing. sure you'll have paid 1 year more than you should but you'll be getting the CS for the 10 years to come after the fact.


Pro-se or not? Lawyers are better however they are not necessary. the court will see to lost soles in court and will not want to decide. They will order an evaluator to do their job and do an evaluation. If you have 1 and 2 and don't care for 3, ... 95% of the times the court will side for what the evaluator recommed.

There are great tips here on evaluation: do not bad mouth the other party, .... and stuff like that, ....

Hope thi s helps, keep us posted in the MN forum

now that's a great news for you.
Say nothing and let the temporary go into effect.
how long is the temporary?

wait for 1 month (appeal time) after the order or stipulation or what ever they do is filed into court.

Then after 6 month, file a motion for change of custody. you will most likely win it

Let us know exactly what they filed into the court? a stipulation or an order or what

yes on the new system they will look at gross income and health cost, not that you or he is spending it