Hi Soc,
All parties in PA. I am NCP mom. There are two children involved: Son 15 and daughter12. I have the children only EOW and half of all Summer and hoildays. This is by Court Order. All of my attempts to gain more parenting time have been strenuously blocked by CP.
Both children are involved in scouting. CP is on the board of the boyscouts. SM is the girl scout leader. Many activites are scheduled for my weekends. Normally I would participate with the children; however, I have a physical disability which now prohibits me from hiking and camping.
I dislike continually loosing parenting time for camp outs etc. when I know that the children often do not attend when CP has custody of them. I have requested that he allow me make up time if I am going to loose an entire weekend due to a scouting activity but he has refused.
Our judge is very pro scouts. Time had been taken from me for girl scout camp with out make up in the past. This was effected during a custody confrence. There was no hearing on the issue.
This ended when I volunteered to be the camp nurse and the CP suddenly had a prepaid "family" vacation that my daughter had to go on. To get her out of camp with me the ex brought evidence that the girl scouts have many different opportunites for camp and so I should just take her to one on one of my weeks.
We, of course, stated that then they could just take her on one of their weeks and then I would not have to miss my parentng time. Unfortunately, the Boy Scouts do not have as much flexibility.
Questions:
1. If I do not allow my son to go to a scouting activity on my time can the judge make me let him go without make up time?
2. Is it relevant that the CP does not take the son to all boy scouting activites during his parenting time?
3. Is it proper for the CP to make the decision on whether or not son goes to an activity without consulting me but I must either yeild to what the CP wants or end up in court?
4. If #3 is No then what is my legal remedy?
All parties in PA. I am NCP mom. There are two children involved: Son 15 and daughter12. I have the children only EOW and half of all Summer and hoildays. This is by Court Order. All of my attempts to gain more parenting time have been strenuously blocked by CP.
Both children are involved in scouting. CP is on the board of the boyscouts. SM is the girl scout leader. Many activites are scheduled for my weekends. Normally I would participate with the children; however, I have a physical disability which now prohibits me from hiking and camping.
I dislike continually loosing parenting time for camp outs etc. when I know that the children often do not attend when CP has custody of them. I have requested that he allow me make up time if I am going to loose an entire weekend due to a scouting activity but he has refused.
Our judge is very pro scouts. Time had been taken from me for girl scout camp with out make up in the past. This was effected during a custody confrence. There was no hearing on the issue.
This ended when I volunteered to be the camp nurse and the CP suddenly had a prepaid "family" vacation that my daughter had to go on. To get her out of camp with me the ex brought evidence that the girl scouts have many different opportunites for camp and so I should just take her to one on one of my weeks.
We, of course, stated that then they could just take her on one of their weeks and then I would not have to miss my parentng time. Unfortunately, the Boy Scouts do not have as much flexibility.
Questions:
1. If I do not allow my son to go to a scouting activity on my time can the judge make me let him go without make up time?
2. Is it relevant that the CP does not take the son to all boy scouting activites during his parenting time?
3. Is it proper for the CP to make the decision on whether or not son goes to an activity without consulting me but I must either yeild to what the CP wants or end up in court?
4. If #3 is No then what is my legal remedy?