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#21
Colorado State Forum / Parental alienation
Last post by Guidance2020 - Feb 07, 2021, 03:03:48 PMLooking for some advise on how to deal with parental alienation
#22
Father's Issues / Re: Travelling outside the cou...
Last post by Waylon - Dec 26, 2020, 08:28:25 AMQuote from: lozano on Dec 25, 2020, 04:12:57 AMHe gave you a URL, go visit that page and it'll probably have his contact information.
Hello, how can I get in touch with you?
#23
General Issues / Re: Mom trying to push me out
Last post by lozano - Dec 25, 2020, 04:14:47 AMWhatever you do, you need to do it on record. You need to show some proofs during the court.
#24
Father's Issues / Re: Travelling outside the cou...
Last post by lozano - Dec 25, 2020, 04:12:57 AMQuote from: russelldknight on Feb 16, 2020, 04:27:50 AM
I'm a divorce lawyer and I wrote an article about this exact issue.
rdklegal.com/travel-outside-of-the-country-with-your-children-after-a-chicago-illinois-divorce
Hello, how can I get in touch with you?
#25
Virginia State Forum / Re: Being punished for being m...
Last post by lozano - Dec 25, 2020, 04:03:38 AMThat's really a frustrating issue, hope it will be okay soon 
#26
Visitation Issues / Re: how do you learn to deal w...
Last post by ocean - Oct 26, 2020, 04:55:22 PMThen maybe just email him "As you know, your parenting time is every Sunday, but you continually do not show up each week. Please let me know which Sundays you will be available this month and next so I can plan around them. Also, you said you would tutor xx in xx. If you can not commit to a weekly time, I will have to find alternate tutor as xx needs immediate help now as per the CSE meeting on XX."
If he does not respond, second email "I have not heard from you, until I hear from you , I will assume you are not exercising your parenting time. Children need consistency and I do not want to keep telling xx you are coming and then do not show up each week."
Use email or certified letter so you can prove you tried on your end. As we say on this page for many years...you can not force a parent to parent.....
If he does not respond, second email "I have not heard from you, until I hear from you , I will assume you are not exercising your parenting time. Children need consistency and I do not want to keep telling xx you are coming and then do not show up each week."
Use email or certified letter so you can prove you tried on your end. As we say on this page for many years...you can not force a parent to parent.....
#27
Visitation Issues / Re: how do you learn to deal w...
Last post by balleros - Oct 24, 2020, 08:23:12 AMCancel? cancel what? he never commits to anything...
he has had the same job and although his 2 days off may vary, he always has Sunday off which is his visitation day and if he doesn't have Sunday, he has Saturday.
He has no other kids he needs to spend time with
he just is not quite there I guess
I told him that we had an IEP meeting. He said "I work at that time". i work too but I attended. I said "I can't spend any more money on a Math tutor. he said "I will work with him". he said tat on a Thursday and he was talking about meeting on Saturday or Sunday. Then he changed it to possibly the following week or the week after. C'mon....kids has a need NOW...not whenever he wants
he has had the same job and although his 2 days off may vary, he always has Sunday off which is his visitation day and if he doesn't have Sunday, he has Saturday.
He has no other kids he needs to spend time with
he just is not quite there I guess
I told him that we had an IEP meeting. He said "I work at that time". i work too but I attended. I said "I can't spend any more money on a Math tutor. he said "I will work with him". he said tat on a Thursday and he was talking about meeting on Saturday or Sunday. Then he changed it to possibly the following week or the week after. C'mon....kids has a need NOW...not whenever he wants
#28
Visitation Issues / Re: how do you learn to deal w...
Last post by ocean - Oct 20, 2020, 03:06:54 PMWhat does the NCP say when you ask if he is coming to get child lately? Maybe offer once a month schedule? First Saturday of each month....can he commit to that? Really have to find out the reasons, back to work? Do not tell child he will be coming each visit so his hopes are not up that he will show up. Tell NCP that if he needs to cancel any visit , you need xx hours unless emergency so you are not talking up the vist, only for him not to show.
#29
Visitation Issues / how do you learn to deal with ...
Last post by balleros - Oct 18, 2020, 01:12:33 PMMy son is 9 and his biological father was 100% absent until he was 8. Then with Covid 19, he started to see him on frequent basis. he was seeing him weekly which is what our visitation agreement say. From March to September, they had started to connect.There was a dead in his family at the end of September and that's when his father stopped visits and contact. I respected his need for space at the beginning. Then I started to get pissed. Anyway, besides therapy, has anyone found a solution to not caring about inconsistent visits?
I mean this is not good for my son but I am in two minds between closing the door and allowing these inconsitencies
tips? ideas?
thanks
I mean this is not good for my son but I am in two minds between closing the door and allowing these inconsitencies
tips? ideas?
thanks
#30
Virginia State Forum / Being punished for being menta...
Last post by babydiamond1 - Sep 27, 2020, 06:15:28 PMI am new to VA from NJ. I have been driving over 350 miles each way for the past 3 years on supervised visits because I was hospitalized 3 times within that timeframe. I have never abused nor neglected my children but my sister now claims that she is afraid of me so the children can't come to my apt in VA. I have never done anything to her since we had an altercation that she started 4 years ago and reported it as domestic violence in order to relocate my children 1 year after the event. She dropped the restraining order after she was awarded the relocation but I am wondering now will I ever get unsupervised parenting time especially since I was just hospitalized in late July- August 10, 2020.