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Visitation Issues / RE: Make sure when you set it up that
« on: Jul 25, 2006, 07:29:38 AM »
Thank you.  I think he's finally realizing now that his attorney isn't the best.  And I think he wants to hold off on an agreement that goes into school years, because then he's going to ask for full custody.  Our school district in MI by far is so much better than where she lives, and he's hoping to use that to help with full custody.   And I think they're going to ASK for full custody now, and hope they get 50/50.  The only reason they are where they are at now, is because BM refused to let him have any time, refused to let him have any time alone with him until he was over a year old, and is saying she's going to nurse him until he's 2.   His attorney didn't want to go to court, and convinced him that this 4 hours 4 on/4 off was the best he could get.  

Visitation Issues / RE: anyone have LD visitation with toddlers?
« on: Jul 24, 2006, 01:49:18 PM »
Hi, and thanks for the response.
No, my BF would go get him, bring him back, etc.  as he's only 18 mos. old.  We're lucky that he's in a good position financially so he can do that.  It's Lake Co., and he doesn't know anyone in the area to get any referrals, but he's got a brother in the LA area so he's going to see if he can refer him to someone just to see what kind of job his attorney is doing.  I think it's lousy - he's learning that she is.

Visitation Issues / anyone have LD visitation with toddlers?
« on: Jul 24, 2006, 05:58:36 AM »
Long story short (hopefully) bf's son is in CA with BM.  Son is almost 18 months and because of her claim that she is still nursing (doubtful that she still is) refuses to let him see son for more than 4 hours at a time (and it was a fight to get that).  4 days in a row - 4 hours, 4 days off, 4 days on, 3 days off.  That is how it has been all summer (with him renting a house out there).  Before that he was flying out 1 week/month and seeing him every day.  We live in MI.  No schedule set after August.  She refuses to give in to any extra time, and will schedule things or claim she has things going on so he cannot see him any time other than what is in the agreement.  Lawyers worked out schedule, not judge.  His attorney has had a lot of personal issues, and isn't doing the best for him that she can, but she is one of only a handful in the county that she lives in.  BM is borderline neglectful - working on proving that.  Only wants CS from him, and lots of it.  She refuses to work.  BF wants to be a part of son's life but she is making it VERY difficult, unfortunately.  He is going to file for full, and hope for 50/50 custody.  Has anyone come across this situation before?  He's hoping for 2 weeks here (with us), 2 weeks there (with BM) and has the means to get him every 2 weeks and then return him.
Any help is appreciated.

Visitation Issues / Interstate custody/visitation?
« on: Jan 13, 2006, 02:04:35 PM »
Hi - I'm new here - my bf has an 11 month old and they are both wanting full custody of the child.  She moved to CA when she was pg, and didn't tell him when she was due, etc.  He had to find out from someone else, and by chance happened to pick a good time to go - and he was there when his son was born.  He requested a DNA (family financial reasons - his family is well off).  DNA came back - he's still not on the BC, no orders in place yet - they've gone through discovery and now have mediation next week, no depositions yet, trial scheduled for end of April.  She receives a good amount of child support - without orders.  He flies to CA for 1 week/month and up until a couple of months, would see him each day at her house, with her there.  The past couple of months he's asked for time alone and she refuses, her excuse being that she is still nursing (he'll be 1 in Feb).  She is nasty to him, and constantly brings up things from the past - and he just doesn't want to deal with her - he wants to spend time with his son - PERIOD.   His lawyer is OK - but I think she needs a fire lit under her ass.  Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated...  It's SO frustrating.

Custody Issues / RE: Custody Eval - update of sorts
« on: May 11, 2007, 09:55:24 AM »
Thanks for your reply.
We can prove that she's been difficult, that's not a problem.  We can probably prove that she's hiding money in order to have DH pay her attorney fees.  We can prove that she's not following the judgment (from over a year ago) OR the custody evaluator's schedule.  Now it looks like we have to go to trial - she's still refusing overnights, despite the evaluator's recommending them to start over 2 weeks ago.  
It's just a nightmare.  If she were a reasonable person, this would be easy.  But she's not reasonable.  I think she's certifiable.  grrrrrr

Custody Issues / RE: Custody Eval - update of sorts
« on: May 02, 2007, 07:27:34 AM »
Thanks for your reply.
Most people would know that a custody evaluator isn't going to look at assets.  She is not most people, trust me.  
This is just the latest in a long string of battles that we've had with her.  She won't "allow" any more than 5 hours, refusing overnights, refusing visitation unless it suits her schedule - definitely a case of alienation.  And every time we get close to the court date, she does something else to push it back.  The latest was the custody evaluation.
It's ALL about the money, and we can prove that, too.  
Hopefully her latest will be the icing on the cake.  She's just ridiculous.

Custody Issues / Custody Eval - update of sorts
« on: May 02, 2007, 06:30:12 AM »
Custody Eval is done, report not in yet - not due until June.  Home visits were done, met with the evaluator to go over everything, BM is being VERY difficult to work with.  Evaluator has come up with numerous schedules, BM not giving much input at all, refusing to answer emails about schedules, etc. Still refusing to give overnights (which would start this week according to evaluator's recommendations).   She doesn't like that he gets overnights and it works towards 50/50 (that would affect her child support amount).

And yet more proof this is all about money?  She asked the evaluator to look into liquid assets of Dad.  Arrgh!

What happens if all of a sudden she completely refuses to cooperate with the evaluator that SHE insisted on having?  She's also being "very difficult" according to her attorney, too.  Is there a snowball's chance in hell of us being awarded primary custody of a 2 year old?

Custody Issues / RE: Custody Eval. ??
« on: Apr 09, 2007, 08:57:08 AM »
Well, it was interesting, that's for sure.  
For the person that wanted to know the cost - it was $7500 and then another $5000 for travel to the homes/time/etc.  
They met with her in her office, then she did home visits last week.  The night before the home visits Mom decided to pitch a fit because she was going to Dad's house first, and left quite a number of messages with the evaluator complaining about it.  Made a complete a$$ out of herself.  Evaluator is aware of all her games, etc. which is wonderful.  I think we'll end up with at least 50/50 and may avoid a trial alltogether.  I just don't see Mom agreeing to anything though - and she may not agree with recommendations of evaluator, and force it to go to trial.  If she does that, since SHE is the one that requested the evaluation - won't that make her look further like an idiot?

Custody Issues / RE: Custody Eval. ??
« on: Apr 03, 2007, 02:08:55 PM »
She finally got hers in - over 48 hours late, and they had to push back the meeting 24 hours.  The eval. has to be done by 4/13, and it's being done by a private evaluator.  They each had to fill out a 40+ page questionnaire on parenting ?'s and another one on psycho-social ?'s and have those into the dr. before the meeting.  They did psych evals last week in her office, but on the computer (I think?).  
She (BM) is starting to lose it, I think.  I guess she couldn't have picked a better week to unravel!

Custody Issues / Custody Eval. ??
« on: Apr 02, 2007, 06:44:46 PM »
OK - maybe this is a new one?  BM requested the custody eval day before the trial was supposed to start (yet another delay tactic).  Gets one.  Doesn't have the money to travel to evaluators.  BF provides that to her.  Has parenting ?? and psycho-social questionnaires due yesterday at 5.  His was late (but cleared by the Dr.) but in last night.  Hers?  STILL not in.  Why?  
Has anyone ever had an uncooperative other parent to deal with as far as a custody evaluation?  I just don't get it.  

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