Hello & thank you to all that take time to read this.. I am unsure of the proper board to post on & apologize if I have chosen poorly. I am seeking some honest input & apologize if this turns lengthy.. Please take note that although I am Female (& MOM) everything that I write is factual & accurate.
I am seeking input in regards to terminating the rights of my childs father. Here is my story.........
I am a Mom of a "Pre-teen" (I prefer not to disclose the gender & age of child at this time for the sake of protection) I will now refer to the child as "K"...
K has not had any contact with father in 9 or so yrs, We were never married & the relationship was one of physical abuse directed at me. The abuse was extreme & I was not his 1st, 2nd, but his third documented victim of abuse. We were together for 3yrs, 2 ½ were spent with my trying to get away. During out time together father was arrested at least 4times for DV. Although RO were ordered I am ashamed to admit that he was never convicted. Once due to my stupidity believing he would change........ The rest dropped because of his threats & my fears for the life of my children & myself...
(Being stalked & forced into your abusers car while he holds up his newly acquired handgun ((357)) ( his relative traded for something) will do wonders!!! In fact, my sudden "amnesia" caused the Judge to threaten me with contempt. I found out that day that the person that claimed to love me & would do anything to keep me, was on probation for beating his ex-wife & faced 5yrs Prison time... Sadly.... That was only the First time I attempted to leave him............
I will now ""Fast Forward"" in order to keep this brief.... I finally was able to get away from K's father while he was still in diapers.... This man did continue to stalk me for almost a year after I left, traveling 100 mi to do so.... He attempted to run me off the road by car, (documented by Sherrif Dept) Kidnaped me several times from work, (Also documented & witnessed by LE & employers) Planned to take my life in a manner that someone in his circle of friends got away with. This hinged upon a camping trip that I refused to participate in & once again I hid from him.. "too long & complicated to post"
During the time I was running from K's Father, I was blessed to find an incredible man who not only loved my children but was able to Telerate my situation & help shield me from the abuse of K's father. He took us in knowing that every day with us during that time needed to be on the lookout & fear of K's father showing up with deadly intent...
The states attorney was involved, & I was actually told that my hesitation to prosecute K's father because of fear would hurt everyone.. I understand now that he was right.... Because of my fear, I live in fear of the possibility of K's Father showing up at my door...
The last contact K had with father was around 9yrs ago. That contact could be considered some type of kidnaping case. K's father took my child & hid.... back then the laws were diffent & DV & RO's were not taken as seriously as they are today.. LE would not help me get K back as no "official Court doc was in place & never married meant no legal custody" the Legal hands were tied.... I was lucky enough to find that my child was left with the fathers Mother & I left work to go get K with my SO. That was the last contact..... 9yrs ago.......
I must add that K's father has more children.... 2 of one gender which he has contact with & supports.... (they are of high school age & 1 has graduated) His first is if the same gender as K & I the oldest, (not a child of 2nd wife) & has never had any contact with during childs life...
My question is this............ Is there any reason K's fathers rights should Not be terminated????
I am seeking input in regards to terminating the rights of my childs father. Here is my story.........
I am a Mom of a "Pre-teen" (I prefer not to disclose the gender & age of child at this time for the sake of protection) I will now refer to the child as "K"...
K has not had any contact with father in 9 or so yrs, We were never married & the relationship was one of physical abuse directed at me. The abuse was extreme & I was not his 1st, 2nd, but his third documented victim of abuse. We were together for 3yrs, 2 ½ were spent with my trying to get away. During out time together father was arrested at least 4times for DV. Although RO were ordered I am ashamed to admit that he was never convicted. Once due to my stupidity believing he would change........ The rest dropped because of his threats & my fears for the life of my children & myself...
(Being stalked & forced into your abusers car while he holds up his newly acquired handgun ((357)) ( his relative traded for something) will do wonders!!! In fact, my sudden "amnesia" caused the Judge to threaten me with contempt. I found out that day that the person that claimed to love me & would do anything to keep me, was on probation for beating his ex-wife & faced 5yrs Prison time... Sadly.... That was only the First time I attempted to leave him............
I will now ""Fast Forward"" in order to keep this brief.... I finally was able to get away from K's father while he was still in diapers.... This man did continue to stalk me for almost a year after I left, traveling 100 mi to do so.... He attempted to run me off the road by car, (documented by Sherrif Dept) Kidnaped me several times from work, (Also documented & witnessed by LE & employers) Planned to take my life in a manner that someone in his circle of friends got away with. This hinged upon a camping trip that I refused to participate in & once again I hid from him.. "too long & complicated to post"
During the time I was running from K's Father, I was blessed to find an incredible man who not only loved my children but was able to Telerate my situation & help shield me from the abuse of K's father. He took us in knowing that every day with us during that time needed to be on the lookout & fear of K's father showing up with deadly intent...
The states attorney was involved, & I was actually told that my hesitation to prosecute K's father because of fear would hurt everyone.. I understand now that he was right.... Because of my fear, I live in fear of the possibility of K's Father showing up at my door...
The last contact K had with father was around 9yrs ago. That contact could be considered some type of kidnaping case. K's father took my child & hid.... back then the laws were diffent & DV & RO's were not taken as seriously as they are today.. LE would not help me get K back as no "official Court doc was in place & never married meant no legal custody" the Legal hands were tied.... I was lucky enough to find that my child was left with the fathers Mother & I left work to go get K with my SO. That was the last contact..... 9yrs ago.......
I must add that K's father has more children.... 2 of one gender which he has contact with & supports.... (they are of high school age & 1 has graduated) His first is if the same gender as K & I the oldest, (not a child of 2nd wife) & has never had any contact with during childs life...
My question is this............ Is there any reason K's fathers rights should Not be terminated????