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#1
Is anyone else going through this in MD?
#2
I have seen you give some advice to people so I figured I
would give it a try. We dont really have a messy case other
than, my fiance, the BF wants more time with his daughter, but
the BM will not agree to give it to him becasue her child
support will be cut in half.

(We have her 114 nights a year and
you have to have the child 128 nights a year for shared
physical custody). She makes $75000 a year he makes $50000,
but ours continues to go up as she makes more even though he
makes the same.
Thanks Sunshine

I am not sure who thought of the ssasi-calcwhich MD uses but they were a freakin idiot!! Every child isworth the same they shouldnt get more or less depending on if their parent is rich....for example my friend only receives$23 a week for her son yet we pay $709 a month that is crazy,
both children need the same thing.

Suggestion: even from a female perspective CP should have to prove where the money is sent. All I really want to know is we truly want to
see our girl more. We get 8 days a month with her and we live 10 miles
away, she is 18months old so she is not in school.

We dont have a lot of money but we will sell our house if we have to.

1)will a judge be likely to grant more visitation in our
situation?

2) Neither parent is bad they dont have records or
anything they just cant agree. Is it worth the risk?
#3
Second Families / Court next month...please help!
Mar 15, 2006, 08:20:53 AM
I am new to this forum thing so I will try to be brief...
I am the new stepmother (SM) of an 18month old little girl.

How it all began....
A one night stand, then I met my fiance two weeks later.
We found out together two months later she was pregnant, we knew her reputation so he told her that when the baby was born he would pay for a DNA test, which is exactly what we did. She was his so they tried to reach an agreement. I think the BM thought it was going to be easy b/c he has never gone through this before. She drew up these papers saying she had sole legal and primary physical custody and told him his CS would be $875 a month. Well we may not know much but I knwo that my fiance is only a construction worker and could never afford that. So we offered her free daycare (through his mom who did daycare) and $400 a month. She said no this went back and forth and finally around thanksgiving we told her after the holidays  we would get attorneys. She filed and we counter filed. We did the mediation thing and there is was no compromising we were asking for everyother weekend until MOnday morning and every Wednesday night. In MD that puts you over the # of days needed to have shared physical custody so she gave us everything but the everyother Sunday night. We had this lawyer who talked us into signing a pendnte lite agreement without the Sunday nights and he told us just to wait till the trial and we would get the Sunday nights (we signed this in late Oct. and the trial is next month so its about 5 1/2 months) Our lives have been completely governed she took the whole sole custody thing to a new level. We didnt even uderstand what it was until we started getting our "strikes". Anyway I would love to tell everything but I am sure everyone has heard it and been through it. I am trying to be supportive, but I feel like my feelings are being forgotten about. I stayed with my fiance through all this and I know he loves me, we are to be married in June. But I am 23 and I just finished college I dont know how to comfort him. In all honesty his daughter is his life and I come second. Which i was jealous about at first but now i feel really lucky to know that he will love our kids that much. I guess my question is what are our chances of getting more time with her???? we dont have records, we are pretty normal I guess we just dont want to fight anymore.  I am afraid to become to attached to her b/c if something ever happened to him I know I dont have any rights.  We just want more time what are our chances???We live in MD

PS Are there any support groups out there for step-parents, I am not good at expressing my self in person so are there any online groups?
#4
Does anyone know if their are any rules about daycare when it comes to the custody situation?
I am the SM to an 18month old SD, right now there is a temp. order giving mother full custody but we get visitation everyother weekend and Wednesday over night. We have wanted joint legal custody and four weeks vacation but mother has refused so our trial date is April 25. Other than her denying more visitation and joint custody our only issue has been daycare. Her BM has placed her with her boyfriends 75 year old parents every day. We pay $125 a week for them to watch her and have continuously tried to get her to change this. We know that the parents love the child and my SD loves them and we arent trying to break their bond. We just feel very uncomfortable with the age and physical abilities of these people. Nonetheless my SD is not in the presence of any other children at all. We have not really pushed the issue but as she approached 2 and becomes more active we are becoming increasingly nervouse about their ability to care for her. The BM opinion is that it is none of our business and that she has full custody. We dont argue with her on very much but this seems to be the major issue. Well now she has sent us letters saying how all DH does is argue with her and joint custody wouldnt be possible because they can never agree. None of this is tru but I guess that is how she expects to get the judge to deny joint.  We are also requesting four weeks unconsecutive vacation time because my husband change jobs at BM request and received more Vacation time. Does anyone know if this will likely be awarded or not? Three weeks seems so far away but yet I dont feel prepared. What should we ecpect at the trial?

PS - All of this stems from a one night stand there was never a relationship between them