When you say "narcissist", "MAJOR issues" and "comes off as normal" I think of borderline personality disorder. Do a little research on this, find a listing of the criteria and see if she meets them and if she does it may help you learn how better to deal with her (though there is no easy way).
We are currently undergoing a custody eval and feel that it is going great (I can let you know for sure in a couple months). We had wanted to do it for awhile, but it is expensive ($10,000+) and our lawyer didn't feel the time was right (child was too young). Then, BM decided to accuse us of abuse and ask for a custody eval. Luckily, since she had NO proof and her accusations were clearly insane, she was forced to pay for the entire eval. Now we get the eval AND she gets to pay for it. I am sure that your BM won't be as brilliant as ours, but I think that you can always get one if you are willing to pay. But first, talk to your lawyer, or someone else who knows, if it is the right time for you.
If you are even considering this, start preparing now....keep immaculate records and logs, save evrything and be on your best behavior. Involve yourself in everything you can related to the kids, take parenting classes and do everything you can to be the best parent possible.
As far as GALs, I know nothing. Hope this helps.
We are currently undergoing a custody eval and feel that it is going great (I can let you know for sure in a couple months). We had wanted to do it for awhile, but it is expensive ($10,000+) and our lawyer didn't feel the time was right (child was too young). Then, BM decided to accuse us of abuse and ask for a custody eval. Luckily, since she had NO proof and her accusations were clearly insane, she was forced to pay for the entire eval. Now we get the eval AND she gets to pay for it. I am sure that your BM won't be as brilliant as ours, but I think that you can always get one if you are willing to pay. But first, talk to your lawyer, or someone else who knows, if it is the right time for you.
If you are even considering this, start preparing now....keep immaculate records and logs, save evrything and be on your best behavior. Involve yourself in everything you can related to the kids, take parenting classes and do everything you can to be the best parent possible.
As far as GALs, I know nothing. Hope this helps.