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Chit Chat / Re: Help stop the NDAA
« on: Jan 05, 2012, 10:53:53 am »
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General Issues / Re: Blamed for Head lice
« on: Dec 31, 2011, 04:53:22 pm »
If head lice threatened custody of any sort, no one would have custody of their children. The best way to get rid of them is to actually pick nits out of the hair. Combs are not 100% effective. This takes several sessions and life cycles of lice to get rid of them, as nits are easily missed.
Go through her hair a very small section at a time. I would suggest putting on a favorite movie of hers so that she would have patience to endure this time-consuming procedure. Put any nits that you find into a glass of vinegar and flush it when you are done.
Lice are becoming more resistant to chemical treatments. I wouldn't recommend putting any more pesticide on her head to treat them.
This is the advice given by our school nurse, and I was a school nurse too. Lice just aren't that big a deal, except to ex-spouses. Kids share them all the time. I used to send DS to school with a plastic grocery bag. This was to be used for his coat. Hanging coats next to each other is a great way to get lice, too.
Good luck. Getting rid of lice is not easy. Sharing households makes it harder. She's probably getting them over there and mom checks when she returns from your home. Then she doesn't check before sending her back. Your ex is also a nurse, I remember. So of course, she knows more than you and the CDC....
Or I could be full of hot air about relationships. Wouldn't be the first time. You had the loser for a judge, I remember. So you might want to document all the things that you have done to treat them....have her prove what she has done to treat the lice. Save receipts, rent steam cleaners, etc....
Go through her hair a very small section at a time. I would suggest putting on a favorite movie of hers so that she would have patience to endure this time-consuming procedure. Put any nits that you find into a glass of vinegar and flush it when you are done.
Lice are becoming more resistant to chemical treatments. I wouldn't recommend putting any more pesticide on her head to treat them.
This is the advice given by our school nurse, and I was a school nurse too. Lice just aren't that big a deal, except to ex-spouses. Kids share them all the time. I used to send DS to school with a plastic grocery bag. This was to be used for his coat. Hanging coats next to each other is a great way to get lice, too.
Good luck. Getting rid of lice is not easy. Sharing households makes it harder. She's probably getting them over there and mom checks when she returns from your home. Then she doesn't check before sending her back. Your ex is also a nurse, I remember. So of course, she knows more than you and the CDC....
Or I could be full of hot air about relationships. Wouldn't be the first time. You had the loser for a judge, I remember. So you might want to document all the things that you have done to treat them....have her prove what she has done to treat the lice. Save receipts, rent steam cleaners, etc....
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Custody Issues / Re: So Confused — In Need of Help
« on: Dec 29, 2011, 10:20:26 pm »
If it's not a good enough plan for you to have your DS during the summers and/or one weekend a month, why should it be good enough for your STBX? When you are contemplating custody situations, ALWAYS ask yourself if you would accept what your are proposing for the other parent. If you say "no" to a plan, then don't expect the other parent to agree.
He may feel that he is the more stable parent. Where would you stay every month when you bring your DS to "visit" with his father? How will your financial status be improved in three years when he is old enough for school?
This site promotes access to both parents, equally. Be prepared to be boiled alive. Some will do it more kindly.
I hope that the questions that I ask will give you some things to think over.
He may feel that he is the more stable parent. Where would you stay every month when you bring your DS to "visit" with his father? How will your financial status be improved in three years when he is old enough for school?
This site promotes access to both parents, equally. Be prepared to be boiled alive. Some will do it more kindly.
I hope that the questions that I ask will give you some things to think over.
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New York State Forum / Re: How much visitation is he really allowed?
« on: Nov 26, 2011, 09:44:18 pm »
Is this really worth fighting over? Is there any chance that she could be reacting the way that she does, is because she sees him only 8 days a month. If you added the four days for his weekends, you are only talking about 4 days a month extra.
Now that DS is 20, I wish that I could do-over the arguments that DS's dad and I had.
JMHO. I do get your worry. Believe me.
It's just that now that I'm on the other side, I see things much differently. I don't KNOW that I would do things differently. I would have put more thought into the best interests of DS and not me or his father.
Now that DS is 20, I wish that I could do-over the arguments that DS's dad and I had.
JMHO. I do get your worry. Believe me.
It's just that now that I'm on the other side, I see things much differently. I don't KNOW that I would do things differently. I would have put more thought into the best interests of DS and not me or his father.
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Father's Issues / Re: Judges biased decision
« on: Nov 07, 2011, 02:49:48 pm »
Excellent logic, Tigger! I'm a farm girl and got it right away.
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Custody Issues / Re: so we left the country: advice on how to continue and raise a healthy son
« on: Nov 06, 2011, 10:42:56 am »
All I can say is "SHAME ON YOU" for leaving. Yes, you should have given contact info BEFORE you left so you should do so immediately give info to the aunt. If you wanted to raise a healthy son, you should have never left. Period.
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Father's Issues / Re: Judges biased decision
« on: Nov 06, 2011, 02:14:29 am »
It's late but you need a new attorney. Your lawyer is not fighting for you. There are ways to force the children back to MS until court is over. You're right about the courts there. I grew up there and know it's mommy biased. There are ways around that though, and some of our long- time members can steer you in the right direction.
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Father's Issues / Re: Judges biased decision
« on: Nov 06, 2011, 12:15:15 am »
There will be more people posting during the week, so don't lose heart if you don't hear a reply right away. I don't have experience with this, other than reading of others' experiences. You might want to go ahead and post how long ago this happened, which states are involved, and the ages of your children.
Because neither of the parents had a custody order, technically, either one can take them. Morally, NOT AT ALL.
Some of the other wiser parents here will be able to help you with the right paperwork to get an emergency custody order and to have this judge overturned. Hopefully.
Best of luck to you. While you wait, read some of the archived articles. They are fantastic and will give you a background on what you have to do to make things more right again.
Because neither of the parents had a custody order, technically, either one can take them. Morally, NOT AT ALL.
Some of the other wiser parents here will be able to help you with the right paperwork to get an emergency custody order and to have this judge overturned. Hopefully.
Best of luck to you. While you wait, read some of the archived articles. They are fantastic and will give you a background on what you have to do to make things more right again.
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Custody Issues / Re: do aunt and grandparents have any rights?
« on: Nov 01, 2011, 08:39:04 pm »
Also, we read all the boards so you don't have to post on three of them. Just one will catch people's eye. Many postings get confusing.
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Custody Issues / Re: do aunt and grandparents have any rights?
« on: Nov 01, 2011, 08:33:25 pm »
What is the reason for his dad not being on the birth certificate?
What is the reason for his dad only seeing him twice?
This is a site to help BOTH parents be involved with their children.
Your child's father might want to be more involved in the future. You may be blocking access to the father and child bond. You aren't giving any details about why the father hasn't been involved with his child. There is 50% of your child's family that will lose an important connection to this child.
Yes, you run a HUGE risk by leaving.
What is the reason for his dad only seeing him twice?
This is a site to help BOTH parents be involved with their children.
Your child's father might want to be more involved in the future. You may be blocking access to the father and child bond. You aren't giving any details about why the father hasn't been involved with his child. There is 50% of your child's family that will lose an important connection to this child.
Yes, you run a HUGE risk by leaving.