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#91
Father's Issues / can you believe this!
Oct 05, 2006, 02:38:51 PM
So...we sent a letter to my fiance's daughters school asking for her records, etc. Today my fiance' calls the school to find out what was going on...were they going to give him access to her school stuff and whatnot. So the guy he talked to says

"Your daughter only comes here for music and P.E. The rest of the time she is homeschooled. I called *mom* to ask her about all this when I got your letter. She got really upset and said that 'Maybe *daughter* won't be going to those classes anymore."

This call happened yesterday(the 4th).

And guess what? His daughter didn't go to school today(the 5th)! His ex is doing everything possible to keep him from getting any info about his daughter. This is rediculous. How is taking his daughter out of school, in the best interest of the child?
#92
Father's Issues / Thank you all
Oct 05, 2006, 12:52:50 PM
Thank all of you so much for your help! We really appreciate it. Sorry I ask so many questions! But thank you all very much and I hope the best for all of you. It's nice to have a place like this to talk to people going through the same things...
#93
Thank you! We'll see what happens tomorrow! Wish us luck!
#94
We tried writing the school to request my fiance's daughters records, etc. but have heard nothing back. We were thinking we would go into the school in person tomorrow morning and ask about it. He doesn't have her birth certificate so what else should we bring with us to be prepared?
#95
Yes he has joint custody and there is NO CO that bars him from ANYTHING. We haven't agreed to any of the therapists "recommendations" and aren't going to. It sucks because going by her recommendations is the only way he could have seen his daughter. But he hasn't done anything wrong and he wasn't about to act like he had. there is no reason he should have to sit in a visitation center with people watching him like he's a bad guy. Now the mother wouldn't even let him see his daughter at a visitation center even if he wanted to. (which he doesn't) We sent a letter to the school requesting all the records, etc about his daughter but so far have heard nothing. I think we might try going to the school in person tomorrow morning. Of course when his ex finds out we did this, she's going to go into a fit of rage saying he doesn't have the right to any of it.
#96
We of course wouldn't bad mouth the mom  but I really think, for the therapist to be making these recommendations on how my fiance's daughter should be raised, she needs to know who my fiance' really is. For example, the custody order states that I need to supervise all visits (don't know why. She hadn't ever even talked to me when she put that in the visitation order) So the last time we got to see his daughter, he took her on the 4-wheeler. I of course couldn't sit on the 4 wheeler with him. I was watching him and his daughter from our deck or from inside the house, looking out the window. He stayed on our property (we have 20 acres) or close to it where me and both my parents could always see him. Anyway, his ex emailed him and said that "It came to her attention, that he was not supervised during this visit and that we were both in contempt." She said that she talked to the therapist and the therapist said that in order for us to see his daughter, we should go to a Visitation Center or his ex would also allow us to sit in her home for a period of 4 hours. She said that her therapists agreed that this was the only SAFE alternative. My fiance' has never put his daughter in danger and never would. He has never done anything wrong to this child but his ex has these therapists obviously thinking he is going to hurt his daughter. Now that we're going to go to court over this, I don't want her getting her therapist up there to testify against him without ever meeting him and finding out what is REALLY going on. I have found the therapist and will have my fiance' call her. I hope we can work something out with her. His ex previously had told us that she wanted all of us to meet with the therapist once we moved here, but now his ex won't talk to us. We seem to be hitting all brick walls.
#97
Thanks for your help!
#98
we will probably do that then. He would jsut really like to talk to the therapist and show her that he's not the bad guy that his ex is making him out to be. His ex and his daughter see the same therapist. Is it okay for his to schedule a meeting with the therapist just for him to talk to? Not ask what his ex and his daughter are saying...but just be able to talk to the therapist so maybe the therapist can make better "recommendations" when she hopefully realizes that his ex is full of crap? (haha)
#99
That seems wrong to me. It's his daughter too and they share joint custody. His ex would never give permission for him to find out what is being said. I just don't understand why she gets to have all the power. Not fair!
#100
My fiance's daughter is seeing a therapist. Is it legal for him to talk to his daughters therapist about what she's saying to her and what his daughter is saying to the therapist? If so, how can we go about this? The mother has said that the therapist is giving her all these "recommendations" all which work against my fiance's relationship with his daughter. He would like to tell this therapist his side since we know the mother is not being truthful to the therapist. What can he do?