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Hi,

First off, cut the caps, it makes your post nearly impossible to read.

Unless you can proof that the DA changed your TPO it is a waste of your time. And with proof I mean you have a signed copy in your possession.
Why are you writing a TPO? You need to have an attorney assist you with these issues.

Kent!

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Father's Issues / Re: Father's Day uninterrupted - Finally
« on: Jun 04, 2011, 07:16:31 AM »
4H!

I know it has been a very long road, but it is so good to see that SS is finally coming around and can find out what really happened.
I know you will enjoy this Father's Day, it was a long time coming!

Kent!

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And this is a situation where I would keep a camcorder rolling.

But to avoid it altogether; arrange for the exchanges in a public place (preferably one with security cameras), or have the separating parent bring the child to the other household. This also prevents the separating parent from promising or starting a fun activity just before the other parent shows up, and then blame the other parent for ruining their fun.
I used this schedule later on with my son, and it reduced conflict quite a bit.

Kent!

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Father's Issues / Re: Parent Coordinator is eating out of BM's hand
« on: May 05, 2011, 04:56:30 PM »
Also consider becoming licensed as a foster parent.
If the state certifies that you are capable of taking care of a (foster) child, then what grounds can a judge have to say you are not capable?

Good luck!

Kent!

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Father's Issues / Re: mediation failed...
« on: Apr 22, 2011, 07:29:20 PM »
Don't confuse a GAL with a custody evaluator!

A GAL in many states is just another attorney without any formal training to determine "the best interest of the children". It is just another attorney who may like your attorney better or still owes a favor to your ex's attorney.

An experienced custody evaluator however is usually an educated and licensed psychologist with at least a Master's or a PhD and required annual training to keep their license. They have very sensitive BS detectors and can recognize symptoms of mental abuse and PAS.
On the flipside, there are some bad custody evaluators as well.
A good attorney will know who the impartial custody evaluators are. If you can go that route, there is a lot of info on this site on how to deal with custody evaluators.

Good luck!

Kent!

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Father's Issues / Re: mediation failed...
« on: Apr 01, 2011, 02:34:01 PM »
Don't worry too much about mediation.
My mediation lasted only 30 seconds. We walked in, the ex stated she would not agree to anything but her getting full custody, I replied that was not an option, and mediation was over.

Your attorney should not be surprised that they asked for "the standard", they always will.

How did you get to see her psych report?

Discuss with your attorney to ask for a custody evaluation. Do your research and make sure you can get a good and unbiased evaluator BEFORE you ask the judge for this. If you ask and already have a name, there is a good chance the judge will order that evaluator to be used. It will cost approx. $ 3 - 4k (usually to be split between both parents), but a good evaluator will write a recommendation based on what he/she thinks is best for the child. In most cases, a judge will take the custody recommendation from an evaluator and make it to an order. So if the ex is having all the issues you wrote, and you don't, and you show the evaluator that you are more supportive of a relationship between the child and the other parent, you may end up with primary custody. Just show you are the better parent, and don't B.S. the evaluator, they have very sensitive bs detectors.

Kent!

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Isn't it great to see light at the end of the tunnel?

Since we moved 700 miles away, BM has made no efforts of contact whatsoever. And our live has become so much more peaceful!

Good luck!

Kent!

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Father's Issues / Re: BM Harassment
« on: Mar 29, 2011, 12:37:24 PM »
Gemini,

Sorry, GA is a one-party state. Recording is legal.

Kent!

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Father's Issues / Re: BM Harassment
« on: Mar 26, 2011, 09:17:03 AM »
Also, GA is a 2-party state i.e. you can record voice and video without her knowing, so get a small voice recorder (I use the Olympus WS-300M, $ 15 on ebay) and record all your conversations with her. If you talk to her on speakerphone it will record that too, or you can get an adapter for that (Olympus TP-7, also on ebay).

If you know how you will park your car, use a camcorder or a dashboard cam to record video of all exchanges.
Anytime she makes false allegations again, you have proof otherwise right there with you.

Kent!

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Father's Issues / Re: When evaluation becomes a fishing trip?
« on: Mar 26, 2011, 09:08:21 AM »
If you know that "someone" is entering your home while you are not there and takes your personal property, get a home CCTV system and use hidden cameras. An adequate system with 4 cameras and 10 days recording time will cost you around $ 500.

Of course you wouldn't make efforts to find a way to somehow let the x know that you have replaced the file, and in addition have added some very damaging evidence to the file...... 

Recorded evidence of someone entering your home without your permission and stealing your personal property will get them arrested.

Kent!

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