pretend like you're front the state of Missouri and say SHOW ME. I come from a family of cops so I'm acquainted with quite a few personally. I am amazed at how many of them do not know the law. Don't take their word for it. Go visit with your local DA, bring your TRO and make them aware of what she's doing.
Also don't take your attorney at his word. Tell him SHOW ME. My DH's first atty made so many mistakes and misrepresentations and totally screwed up his divorce and custody settlement. We're paying thousands to get it fixed.
Remember, you hire your atty. Make him take action to cover your butt. That's why you're paying him the big bucks.
OH AND....if you do file a family court motion against her, make sure you ask for your attorney fees.