Messages

What ever happened to Aussie. I have been out for a while so I wondered if he got custody of his daughter yet.

I can tell you what the BM filed on us:

3 motions total:

1.) Termination of rights:
Motion of defendant for reallocation of parental rights and responsibilities.

Now comes Defendant XX and moves the court for an Order reallocating parental rights and responsibilities for the minor child of the parties, and specifically for an Order terminating Shared Parenting and granting sole custody to Ms. X for reasons set forth below:

Memorandum
It is no longer in the best interest of the child for the parties to exercise Shared Parenting. Contrary to the best interests of the child as well as the child's expressed desire, XXXXXXXXX.

Further evidence will be adduced at hearing.


2.) Interview in Chambers
Motion for defendant to interview the minor child in chambers.
Now comes Defendant and requests pursuant to R.C. 3109.04)(B)(1) that the court interview the minor child, XX, in the chambers regarding her wishes and concerns with respect to the allocation of parental rights and responsibilities.

3.) A motion for a guardian:
Then there is a motion for a Guardian ad litem:
Memorandum
The needs of the minor child are not being met due to XXXXX. It is necessary that a Guardian ad litem be appointed immediately to safeguard the best interests of the minor child. Further, Defendant has requested that the court interview the child in the chambers. Therefore persuant to R.C. 3109.04)(B)(2)(a), the court must appoint a Guardian ad litem for the child.

The GAL did say she wanted us ALL to  get counseling. But I think the BM will object.

Hopefully the GAL will write a motion for it. Not sure how that works.

I asked if we could have someone inparticular that (I know could detect PAS). She said she would write in for this counselor.

I am praying that it all works, and gets detected.

The BM is clever and is having SD state that she "loves us", so it doesn't seem like PAS. But she says she doesn't want to see us, doesn't jive.

Our insurance covers couseling. The only problem I see is getting the BM to allow it. The parenting order states that "both parents" need to consent to medical decisons. So if she objects it could be tricky.

The good part is that we are coming into the summer, and the BF gets the first half of summer and BM gets the second, so if we get her full-time, and get couseling, we might be able to turn it around in a few months. Get her back to wanting to see us again.

What is the solution? I didn't get it. (?)

We have had 50/50 plan with SD, age 11. (Neither parent or family has history of abuse, drugs, neglect, mental illness, or police records.)
BM openly hates BF, and myself.

BM has always wanted sole custody and has been working/programming her daughter for years, and finally getting payoff.

BM court ordered a GAL to listen to childs wishes.

SD is now 11, and is saying she wants to live with mom. She said she only wants to see BF and family once every couple months. However she says she "loves" her dad, and her 3 (half) siblings and Bio-grandparents, and myself (step mom) etc, but does not want to visit very often anymore. She doesn't feel "special in our home, and feels like an outsider".

Probably a result of the mother putting in her head that we love the other kids more, etc. etc.

Sometimes as a family we can't always buy everything she can as she does at her BM as an only child. This is used against us.

However, if you see her with us, she has a ball with her siblings and can't wait to be with them. But when she speaks to her BM on the phone, she only tells bad things. Like I'm tired because, the kids woke me up early, etc" Mom of coarse, says poor thing, it must be so hard on you to put up with it over there....

You know the drill.

GAL came over and saw how bonded she is with family and took her out for ice cream and heard first hand her "desire" to live with only mom.

GAL tells us she said it with an emptiness, and thinks she does not understand what she is asking for. Suspects an outside source. She said she will not go to the extreme of changing the parenting order to sole custody, but says she must make some changes (reducing the time with BF) to make the child "feel" as if her wishes have been addressed.

So, that means reducing her time with dad, and siblings etc. Giving the programming parent MORE time to program and destroy the relationships totally.

It seems the GAL's do not have much experience in PAS. Would'nt it be  a HUGE red-flag that the child doesn't want to see her BF & siblings anymore? Would it be an insult to give her info on it?

We feel pretty helpless. We can't go to counseling because BM refuses it.

GAL said she might ask for family counseling before making her decision.

Anyone have any advice for us?

I would settle with him a plan and submitt it to court without an attorney.  Just sign it and go to courthouse and have them stamp it. It then becomes a legal agreement.

When you get attorneys involved it might get ugly.

Seems the most important thing that you have the kids, and  you already have that. That is worth so much. Especially if it's going well.

If in Columbus ohio, DO not got to Dr. Tannenbaum. He will side with the BM and doesn't not see PAS as a problem.

Stoneburner and Lilly Does recognize PAS.

Is the birthday rule written anyplace. I was told that by our attorney, but wondered if it was spelled out someplace.

I would think that she can cover the kids on the SD insurance, but it woudl be considered "secondary" insurance.

YOUR isuracne would be primary.

I would send a copy of your parenting plan to the HR department at her husbands work, and fax it to the insuracne company, he is covered  under. That way it would be written in as secondary.

Most forms have a spot where you list other insurance.

Otherwise Yes, she is definatley in contempt.

It seems to address access to paperwork, grades and stuff, but can the NCP sign up for ski-clubs and things?

The (school) paperwork/permission slips seem to be geared towards the custodial parent, and asks for the childs address. Even thought the child has two addresses would it be silly to list the address of the parent signing up for the activity or put the other parent address?

Can the other parent object to the activity if the activity only takes place on the NCP's parenting time?

It's a ski club and meets on dads time. Mother is not in favor I guess. But dad is. I think BM has daughter talked out of it now tho. SD was so excited about joining it too, now she is neatral. I think BM threatened her.