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I would hope not! Don't get me started on my feelings for the family court system and it's associated beneficiary agencies.

I agree. i do believe the registry was created with good intentions but how is anyone supposed to know about it? I do think that the mother should have to name a father or possible father(s) and the state should have the responsibilty of at least notifying them that they may possibly have a child out there. It definitely wouldn't work for those women on Maury though. I just hate that the father was basically pushed out of his child's life but I know that if she wanted it the mother could get child support, unbelievable.

Actually in this episode he was standing up for the father who had his child basically taken away from him by the child's mother (they were not married) and her family. They gave the baby up for adoption without his consent, the didn't tell him when the child was born and they didn't put his name on the birth certificate. He was not informed until later that she had had the beby and then her family wouldn't allow him to see the child. apparently there is an obscure law that requires the father of a baby born to an unwed couple to file some sort of paperwork in order to have any "rights" to the baby. The law is so obscure that the mothers lawyer didn't even know about it until she did research for her client. Dr. phil said if you are a layer and din't even know about this law then how do you expect him to know?

I believe the SSRI applies if she files while he is dep[loyed. I don't believe it will help him any with the custody. It will help if for example he is deployed on the court date, it will prevent them from issuing a default judgement for her since he is not present in court.

Did anyone see Dr. Phil on friday? It had a family that had put a baby up for adoption without the consent of the father and due to some loophole they legally did it! They had the director for the National Institute for Men on talkig about how the government didn't care to find out if he wanted to care for the child but they will sure come after him for child support if the adoptive parents want it! Unbelievable!

As a father going through a custody battle right now I can tell you this much: Your readily deployable status and your currently deployed status will not help you. Unless your daughter is in danger by living with your wife or her family, I mean drugs, abuse etc.. it will be very difficult for you to retain custody. If you still want to fight for custody, and I mean it will be a fight, I suggest getting a lawyer that specializes in custody disputes and start documenting any adverse behavior on your spouses part that neagtively impacts your daughter. You must have proof that you are the more responsible and caring parent and that it is in your daughter's best interest to be in your custody. I'll tell you this brother, the deck is severey stacked against you even without the military aspect. The U.S. court system ers to the maternal side in almost every case barring severe msconduct on the part of the mother. Fathers have no rights and you must prove that you are  A: The greatest father the world has ever known, above and beyond what anyone woud consider a great dad. B: that she is the lowest dirtbag on the planet. You must have both of these, as A without B is not enough, especially with how young your daughter is. I have learned all this the hard way yet I continue o fight, that is my choice. This will cost you alot of money,and will be the hardest thing you ever go through. Stay strong.
         

Congatulations. That definitely gives me some hope.

I'm going to wait until after my interview and then go from there, I will ask for an eval if I feel like I am being discriminated against solely because I am a man. I have a large amount of evidence as to why I should be the primary caretaker of my daughter, plus witnesses etc., you get the picture. But the GAL is a woman as is the judge and sad to say but I do look at the situation as being a loss going in due to that. It is hard because I fell like I have to go above and beyond just to even have a chance, seems all she has to do is show up and have a cup of coffee. I just have to keep fighting for her.

He did, I also have done the e-mail thing as well as text messaging. Thanks for the advice though.

That is a good idea.