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Child Support Issues / A story to rip your heart out and inform...
« on: Oct 29, 2007, 02:46:39 PM »
THis is also an update of what I've posted on the second families board but here goes...

My husband was just hit with 8K in arrears (although bm thinks she's getting more...) when the state of California did an audit, at her request, and figured in interest dating back to 1995. Interest taken right off the top of previous payments so now he's back in arrears.

His current and arrears were paid off Sept 21 this year but it didnt matter. Court was Oct 12 and he got socked a good one.
In California, no matter when you pay off, they can go back at any time and figure in interest. My husband talked to 3 lawyers and two are of the paralegals working for them went through the same thing. One person had everything paid off and 6 years later, they came back at her for interest. Yep, a "her".

This man served his country, tried to do the right thing and bam--here we are. Sure he's been umemployed but that happens. BM on the other hand, has never soley supported herself or her children. She has done everything short of accusing sexual abuse (although she has mentioned this before) to keep the kids away from their dad. THey are both 19 now and stationed in Iraq and she still continues---she pretends to be the kids on the net, still.

BM has been on this board too---stalking--she pretended to be me on here several times. In chat. Other boards too.

This is all just so wrong. He married her, she got pregnant while he was in service and she took off. She tried everything she could to keep him away from those kids. He still paid support. He even paid for a child she got pregnant with while  they were still married that was not his. ONce she found out that biodad had money though, she changed all that. This kid even had his last name at one time..nice, eh?

He gets out of service, hard to find work-never files for a reduction. He always let cse know what was going on. She filed for an increase AFTER we got married, thinking she'd get her hands on my money and they backdated to the date of filing--a year later. Interest on that as well.

CA "child" support just never ends. I could see if she solely supported those kids but its either been welfare, some guy, cash payments, family, payments for, how shall we say? "favors"....

We'll get through this---as always. But be forwarned, if you have a CA order, you'll be paying for a long time.

Child Support Issues / You have new email :)
« on: Nov 12, 2004, 09:40:58 PM »

Child Support Issues / You have a PM~
« on: Oct 30, 2004, 08:46:20 AM »

Child Support Issues / RE: has anyone seen speciallady?.....m
« on: Oct 29, 2004, 02:45:32 PM »
Im here Jola---just didnt see this right away..
am I in trouble or something? lol
will check PM's right now case you went that route...

Dear Socrateaser / OT--my friend VG
« on: Aug 12, 2006, 08:56:00 PM »
18 soon? where has the time gone and when do we party?lol
Just and FYI since we had similar situations...and both Ca orders...
When dh's twins turned 18, she had to prove they were still in school as we got a letter stating she had NOT done this and current support was going to stop..
evidently, she notified CSE at the last minute the the kids were indeed in school still (18 in March--not graduating til June).
THEN, in June, as soon as they graduated, CA CSE sent dh another letter letting him know the current obligation had ended and all monies were going toward arrears.
So, in refence to your situation, hopefully, CA CSE will ask her for confirmation that the child is still in school and if not, support ends..the way I understand it.
email me for more info if ya's want to :)

Soc--causing trouble again, eh? Kidding!

I agree with MixedBag--understand the posters frustrations but family law is not a fun place for sure.
YOU do a wonderful thing here Soc and really, there is no board like this on the net!

Dear Socrateaser / Update~
« on: Jan 31, 2006, 09:00:43 PM »
CA let NV know THEY are not ordering insurance (again), so NV can't request it or order it. All done.

Dear Socrateaser / gotcha!
« on: Jan 29, 2006, 11:43:12 AM »
Have a wonderful day and thanks again :)

Dear Socrateaser / thanks
« on: Jan 28, 2006, 10:59:30 PM »
yep-I did know about if the child becomes disabled (have a disabled brother myself~)...and support going on....

CA is still a party to the case-welfare arrears.

question though (and this was asked of the attorney in December)--
1) terminating support? where? NV? CA?
(atty said contacting NV CSE at graduation via a phone call should do it?)

*I believe it was back in November, NV cse did this exact same thing--sent employer notice to enroll children in insurance program. CA stepped in and stopped the order since THEY did not order it. And are not now.*

Dear Socrateaser / OY vey--worth retaining attorney again?
« on: Jan 28, 2006, 08:46:20 PM »
CA controls order, BF in Nevada, BM and children in Oregon.
Children (twins) will be 18 in March, graduating, ending current support order in June.
Last court hearing was in December in Nevada and nothing was changed to order.
However, Nevada has sent BF's employer notice to enroll children in insurance.
This was already attempted previously and CA sent employer notice that THEY are not requesting this and to discontinue enrollment. It was.
(CA determined NV insurance is very costly and stopped enrollment--not before getting a couple of payments, though.)

1) How can this be handled? Am I understanding this correctly that CA still controls the order (they do) so NV has no authority to order this?
2) Is this something an attorney should be handling (the current order is ending soon, realistically, by the time insurance goes into effect, there will be no legal bounds to provide this...) or can BF just make some calls (again) to let NV CSE know CA still controls the order and insurance has NOT been ordered by them?
3) Isnt the time factor here important? Like the fact they will be legal adults soon, graduating soon, therefore, enrollment will be pointless?


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