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Messages - Kitty C.

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Father's Issues / Re: No idea where my kids are living!
« on: Dec 10, 2015, 11:14:28 AM »
Whether she owns or rents a trailer, she still has to pay lot rent.  The court management may or may not be able to give out any identifying info.  But you won't know unless you ask.   :)

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Dear Socrateaser / Re: Advice about lawyer issues?
« on: Dec 03, 2015, 04:02:03 PM »
Either that or contact your state bar association. If she's working for you and hasn't done the proper filings, she may get sanctioned by the state bar.  And if they find her at fault, I would be asking the state bar to assign another atty. pro bono.  Never hurts to ask!

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Visitation Issues / Re: my ex wife changes my daughter in public
« on: Nov 03, 2015, 01:05:09 PM »
I agree with tigger and that 's exactly what we did when DH's ex refused to send SS's Cub Scout shirt with him.  I found a very nice used one and was able to duplicate almost everything on it.  Pissed the ex off when she realized she couldn't get the upper hand.  After that, she gave up.
Try to duplicate as much as you can.  As for next and future Halloweens, take your daughter out shopping for a costume and tell her she can either get the same thing her mom gets her or she can get something completely different.  And that you're doing your best to make things smoother and less stressful for her.
 

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Child Support Issues / Re: Question about CS modification
« on: Oct 30, 2015, 10:19:50 AM »
Something else to consider.....by the time this issue would make it thru the court system, the youngest probably will be graduated.  Depends on the court whether they would want to address increasing CS when it would only be valid for a very short time.

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Father's Issues / Re: Visit from CPS & other misc goodies.
« on: Oct 16, 2015, 12:34:33 PM »
'I talked with my lawyer and their are no grounds to deny my parenting time. CPS has told me that they have no issues with me exercising my parenting time as the court order trumps all.  Mom says she can still use these allegations to deny my parenting time because that's what cps and her lawyer told her. So apparently CPS has told mom one thing, and told me the exact opposite.

I sent mom a text yesterday stating if I lose any parenting time will she allow make-up parenting time? she did not respond all day. they she called, saying she wasn't sure. then it was her only weekend of the month and how I have every weekend. I also responded by saying it has been 10 days since I have seen or heard from the child.

I also came up with a plan to have child spend the weekend at her friends house. The parents are close friends of mine and mom has never had an issue with them before. I could visit and have all safeguards in place so mom would feel at ease. CPS agreed this would be a good idea. mom then said she would leave it up to the child which child is claiming to not want to go. The last thing I really want to do is make a bad situation worse by having a already upset child  start kicking and screaming to avoid leaving to go have fun with her friends.'
 
Sounds like scare tactics on BM's part.  DH's ex did the same thing the first Christmas we had SS after DH and I got together.  She threatened to call the cops if we didn't return SS by X-mas evening, when we were supposed to have him until 2 days after.  Thank goodness for SPARC, because I KNEW that the cops wouldn't get involved.  She sure had DH completely stressed out.....he was certain that the cops would come to our door and take SS away if we didn't take him back that night.  We kept him and, after BM called the sheriff's office, the deputy told her she needed to contact her atty.
 
As for the kicking and screaming part.....if you've NEVER seen this kind of behavior in your child previous to this, and you saw her 9 days ago and she was fine then, I think that's another scare tactic BM is using.  She would have to be doing some SERIOUS brainwashing in a short amount of time with some pretty horrific stories to cause the child to refuse to go.  Either that or she's promising Disneyland (or some other event that the child would be really excited to go to).  Otherwise, IMO I think she's blowing smoke on that one....

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Visitation Issues / Re: Recording during exchange
« on: Aug 27, 2015, 01:58:18 PM »
I like that, MB!  Kill 'em with kindness! ;D

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Custody Issues / Re: Guidelines for leaving kids alone...
« on: Jun 29, 2015, 02:12:07 PM »
That's weird....from the link, I'm able to print.  If I can find it again, I'll share it with you on FB.....   :)

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Custody Issues / Guidelines for leaving kids alone...
« on: Jun 26, 2015, 04:01:58 PM »
Found this on Facebook...thought it might be valuable here....

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Moms Without Custody / Re: What Mothers Must Do to Get Custody
« on: Jun 09, 2015, 01:24:27 PM »
I would consider this advice of what NOT to do regarding child custody. :P

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Custody Issues / Re: React or not?
« on: Jun 03, 2015, 08:27:57 AM »
And if she continues to push issues at exchanges (regardless of recording or not), you can ask local law enforcement for a stand-by at the exchange point.  I gather you live in a very small community (so do I) and local LE, whether it be a deputy or town cop, are more likely to do a stand-by than more urban agencies.  Usually a cop parked in the same parking lot, even if it's 50 yards away, can be a huge deterrent for bad behavior.   ;)

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