'I talked with my lawyer and their are no grounds to deny my parenting time. CPS (http://deltabravo.net/cms/plugins/content/content.php?content.366) has told me that they have no issues with me exercising my parenting time as the court order (http://deltabravo.net/cms/search.php?q=court+order&s=Search&r=0) trumps all. Mom says she can still use these allegations to deny my parenting time because that's what cps and her lawyer told her. So apparently CPS has told mom one thing, and told me the exact opposite.
I sent mom a text yesterday stating if I lose any parenting time will she allow make-up parenting time? she did not respond all day. they she called, saying she wasn't sure. then it was her only weekend of the month and how I have every weekend. I also responded by saying it has been 10 days since I have seen or heard from the child.
I also came up with a plan to have child spend the weekend at her friends house. The parents are close friends of mine and mom has never had an issue with them before. I could visit and have all safeguards in place so mom would feel at ease. CPS agreed this would be a good idea. mom then said she would leave it up to the child which child is claiming to not want to go. The last thing I really want to do is make a bad situation worse by having a already upset child start kicking and screaming to avoid leaving to go have fun with her friends.'
Sounds like scare tactics on BM's part. DH's ex did the same thing the first Christmas we had SS after DH and I got together. She threatened to call the cops if we didn't return SS by X-mas evening, when we were supposed to have him until 2 days after. Thank goodness for SPARC, because I KNEW that the cops wouldn't get involved. She sure had DH completely stressed out.....he was certain that the cops would come to our door and take SS away if we didn't take him back that night. We kept him and, after BM called the sheriff's office, the deputy told her she needed to contact her atty.
As for the kicking and screaming part.....if you've NEVER seen this kind of behavior in your child previous to this, and you saw her 9 days ago and she was fine then, I think that's another scare tactic BM is using. She would have to be doing some SERIOUS brainwashing in a short amount of time with some pretty horrific stories to cause the child to refuse to go. Either that or she's promising Disneyland (or some other event that the child would be really excited to go to). Otherwise, IMO I think she's blowing smoke on that one....
I sent mom a text yesterday stating if I lose any parenting time will she allow make-up parenting time? she did not respond all day. they she called, saying she wasn't sure. then it was her only weekend of the month and how I have every weekend. I also responded by saying it has been 10 days since I have seen or heard from the child.
I also came up with a plan to have child spend the weekend at her friends house. The parents are close friends of mine and mom has never had an issue with them before. I could visit and have all safeguards in place so mom would feel at ease. CPS agreed this would be a good idea. mom then said she would leave it up to the child which child is claiming to not want to go. The last thing I really want to do is make a bad situation worse by having a already upset child start kicking and screaming to avoid leaving to go have fun with her friends.'
Sounds like scare tactics on BM's part. DH's ex did the same thing the first Christmas we had SS after DH and I got together. She threatened to call the cops if we didn't return SS by X-mas evening, when we were supposed to have him until 2 days after. Thank goodness for SPARC, because I KNEW that the cops wouldn't get involved. She sure had DH completely stressed out.....he was certain that the cops would come to our door and take SS away if we didn't take him back that night. We kept him and, after BM called the sheriff's office, the deputy told her she needed to contact her atty.
As for the kicking and screaming part.....if you've NEVER seen this kind of behavior in your child previous to this, and you saw her 9 days ago and she was fine then, I think that's another scare tactic BM is using. She would have to be doing some SERIOUS brainwashing in a short amount of time with some pretty horrific stories to cause the child to refuse to go. Either that or she's promising Disneyland (or some other event that the child would be really excited to go to). Otherwise, IMO I think she's blowing smoke on that one....
