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(14) Computation of child support.  (a) Except in cases of shared physical care or splity physical care as defined in subsection ( and (9) of this section, a total child support obligation is determined by adding each parent's respective obligations for the basic child support obligation, work-related net child care costs, extraordinary medical expenses, and extraordinary adjustement to the schedule.  The parent receiving a child support payment shall be presumed to spend his or her total child support obligation directly on the children.  The parent paying child support to the other parent shall owe his or her total child support obligation as child support to the other parent, minus any ordered payments included in the calculations made directly on behalf of the children for work related net child care costs, extraordinary medical expenses, or extraordinary adjustments to the schedule.

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(III) Upon request of the noncustodial parent, the court may order the custodial parent to submit an annual update of financial information using the approved standardized child support guideline forms, including information on the the actual expenses relating to the children of the marriage for whome support has been ordered.  The court shall not order the custodial parent to update such financial inforamation pursuant to thie subparagraph (III) in circumstances where the noncustodial parent ahas failed to exercise parenting rights or when child support payments are in arrears or where there is documneted evidence of domeistic viloence, child abuse, or a violoation of a protection order on part of teh noncustodical parent.  The court may order teh noncustodial parent to pay teh costs involved in preparing an update to teh financial information.  Ift he noncustodial prent claims, based upon the information in the updated form, that the custodical parent is not spending the child support for the benefit of the childrent, the court may refer the parties to a mediator to resolve the differences.  Ift here are coss for such mediation, the court shallo rder that the party requestion ght mediation pay such costs.

I spent a lot of time compiling this list, hopefully others might find it helpful!

Guy, the name of the forms may differ in your state, but you should file an Emergency Motion for Modification of Parenting Time.  Cite the current situation:  why was your child taken put into foster care?  Regardless of the reasons you got screwed in the divorce/custody, surely your son is better off with you.  Might mean a visit from child services or something to check out you.....

This shit really pisses me off.  Drug addicted hooking mothers can retain custody but for us men its an up-hill struggle.....

An update.  Secured services of Cordell and Cordell, new father's rights lawyer firm now serving C. Springs and Denver.  Going to approach ex- with temporary modification to custody, but fully expect to wind up in court as usual.  Will let the boards know how it goes and what my perception is of Cordell and Cordell.

Someone standing up to a biased system!  Now this should be something that the Obama administration is all about....equality under the law.  Thanks for posting this.  We dad's should all watch this one closely.  Unfortunately here in Colorado, seems the court is reluctant to actually 'judge or rule'.  Barring any substantiated claims, 50/50 is the way to go.  But this combined with sometimes strangling child support can mean a lower quality of life for the child(ren) involved. 

Take my case.  I have 50/50 arranged custody.  I have to pay my ex- over $700 month in child support.  Do the kids get any benefit from this money, not really.  No extra curricular activities, only half time in the things we can enroll them in when they're with us (dance, karate, etc.).  Child support goes to paying mortgage and car payments.  If resources were allocated more fairly, what a different life my kids could have.  College fund, full time participation in things like dance, martial arts or scouts....

Blows...

Hope this guy goes to the mattresses on this!

What are the circumstances?  You can do some things yourself, others can go better with a lawyer of course.....

does the other half live in PA?

What can you do?

Get smart on your rights by reading the laws and anything you can find on the internet.

Then react.

Don't sit on it, or snooze, you may loose out.

Yup...good advice.  Court where papers filed has jurisdiction....

Any feed back on how this went?

You might want to try (I've not had any luck with it) Motion for Court Ordered Mediation...something like that.  Have a mediator sit down with you and the ex.  15 is a VERY critical age.  The needs of the child should be considered in determining custody.  Perhaps encourage him the ability to have BOTH doors remain open and try to get his needs put in front of both yours and the ex-s. 

Saying he will just run away should be a signal.  Might be also worth while to find a good counselor (not necessarily a shrink) who can work on behalf of your kid, courts listen to the impartial assessments more than the bickering between mom and dad.

Check with your insurance provider because they may be able to give you a list of names that take your insurance, then make some phone calls to assess.

Ex- can't really say NO to counseling without looking like the bad-guy.   Probably will have a say in 'who' the counselor is.  But I think your best angle is to come at this as worried about your kid and wanting to help him.