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#11
General Issues / Temp.orders
Last post by Guidance2020 - Mar 20, 2021, 04:15:52 PMHow to prepare for A temp.orders hearing
#12
Father's Issues / Temp.orders
Last post by Guidance2020 - Mar 20, 2021, 04:12:51 PMHow to prepare for A temp.orders hearing.
#13
Custody Issues / Re: Not sure where to turn...
Last post by ocean - Mar 11, 2021, 02:02:10 PMThe courts only care about the child. Call the local school district and see what has to be turned in as far as home schooling. Right now there are also kids on remote learning (not the same as home schooling) where the district does online lessons and child stays home. Which one is child doing? If it is remote, the child has a teacher you can contact.
The courts will not care about what you think or what you have seen. CPS would need to be called and open a file against mom with any charges. They rarely pull a child and change custody.
Once she puts you down as father or the state finds out , she will probably not receive any of the child support and any money will be given back to state to "repay" them.
If you ever feel child is in danger or no food, you can call the local police to do a welfare check.
The courts will not care about what you think or what you have seen. CPS would need to be called and open a file against mom with any charges. They rarely pull a child and change custody.
Once she puts you down as father or the state finds out , she will probably not receive any of the child support and any money will be given back to state to "repay" them.
If you ever feel child is in danger or no food, you can call the local police to do a welfare check.
#14
Custody Issues / Re: Not sure where to turn...
Last post by desperateFather - Mar 10, 2021, 07:41:53 PMThe child is eight years old. He was pulled out of school by his mother to be home schooled, however there has been no real record showing that. I am not out of the states, I just travel from state to state. There was no issue as far as visitation until very recently when I landed a better job. We communicated, dates and times, and there was video calling when I was away at work. She has declined child support for years. As far as reason goes to remove the child, I would state that I can provide a better life. One where they do not go hunger, and have clothes that fit. She has a history of violence, even being arrested for DV against me. She is on medications for her mental state but has stopped taking them. There is an excess of alcohol present, and while I cant confirm, I suspect possible drug use. The state of the home is deplorable whenever I would pick the child up.
#15
Custody Issues / Re: need attorney advice
Last post by ocean - Mar 10, 2021, 07:05:21 PMSome states have child support until 18 and others til 21. Look into this before you change.
#16
Custody Issues / Re: Not sure where to turn...
Last post by ocean - Mar 10, 2021, 07:02:26 PMHow old is child(ren)? You really can not just go for custody without a really good reason. If you are able to stay in same school district, you can fight for 50/50 time. They will not move child from home/school/activities/Friends especially when you are not even in the US. Once you are in court, they will make a child support order and a visitation order. You can put in there ways they will contact you while you are away (facetime? Put the exact days/times per week so there is no argument). You can mail them letters/packages. You can contact their school and ask for the parent portal so you can see their attendance and grades. If/when child is old enough for a phone, you can start to contact them directly. Good luck!
#17
Custody Issues / need attorney advice
Last post by looking for help - Mar 10, 2021, 12:46:28 PMHi,
I am looking to move my case from PA to DE since we all have moved here now. I need a Delaware attorney that specializes in Father's Rights and custody issues.
Can anyone steer me in the right direction?
Thank you
I am looking to move my case from PA to DE since we all have moved here now. I need a Delaware attorney that specializes in Father's Rights and custody issues.
Can anyone steer me in the right direction?
Thank you
#18
Custody Issues / Not sure where to turn...
Last post by desperateFather - Mar 10, 2021, 11:53:22 AMA bit of back ground is in order I suppose. My child's mother who my child stays with, declined child support years ago. My understanding is she has been collecting benefits by stating she doesn't know where I am, however I have proof where she has brought my child to me over the course of years. My work has me travel and I am away for months at a time. Recently, things have been much better for me as I landed a job that is above what I normally make. I made a post showing how my life had improved over the previous year and now she has refused contact between my child and I until child support is paid, and a visitation order in place. She is telling my child that the reason I am not contacting them is because I refuse to do as she wants. She lives in KY and I am currently working abroad. I wish to file for custody because I can provide a better life, both mentally and physically for my child. Please help!!! The average percent of fathers with custody is less then 20%, so I fear that unless I come fully prepared, I have a snowballs chance of being able to provide my child with the life they deserve. I just don't know where to turn.
#19
Colorado State Forum / Re: Parental alienation
Last post by maybenut - Feb 13, 2021, 12:52:34 PMIm going through it right now in WA. I cant tell you what has definitely worked, because in in the middle of it, but here are some common sense things to get you started:
Here's some advice.
-Educate yourself about PA. There are resources on this site. Read books
-Get yourself into therapy to learn to deal with it and realize that you're in for a long battle
-Tell as many people as possible involved in your case. Make sure you don't sound like a crazy person. Just the facts
-Get your kids into therapy ASAP
-Instead of accusing the other parent of PA, describe their behavior and how it interferes with your relationship with your kids
-Get a GAL or a parental evaluation. It would help if they were trained for PA specifically, but those are hard to find
-You will need evidence and/or witnesses to prove your case to the evaluators and in court. You need to prove a pattern of behavior, because everyone gets the benefit of a doubt for a single incident, and we all make mistakes
Here's some advice.
-Educate yourself about PA. There are resources on this site. Read books
-Get yourself into therapy to learn to deal with it and realize that you're in for a long battle
-Tell as many people as possible involved in your case. Make sure you don't sound like a crazy person. Just the facts
-Get your kids into therapy ASAP
-Instead of accusing the other parent of PA, describe their behavior and how it interferes with your relationship with your kids
-Get a GAL or a parental evaluation. It would help if they were trained for PA specifically, but those are hard to find
-You will need evidence and/or witnesses to prove your case to the evaluators and in court. You need to prove a pattern of behavior, because everyone gets the benefit of a doubt for a single incident, and we all make mistakes
#20
Colorado State Forum / Re: Parental alienation
Last post by Guidance2020 - Feb 07, 2021, 03:24:34 PMCorrection-advice