I haven't been here in a long time. It was getting too depressing for me, and I've been really busy because I started college. But something happened today, and I needed to check in here. It's so nice to know that you are still thinking me and my family. Here's an update:
The kids are doing great in school! SS
is still in therapy, but sd quit going because the couselor couldn't get her to talk about what happened with her bm
, and other than that situation she is doing great in everything.
BM still isn't doing drug testing so she can see the kids. The few times she has seen them over the past year have been bad. The kids miss her, and want her to get it together, but ss is really frightened of her, and they are both angry about the way she keeps jerking them around. They are supposed to talk to on the phone every day, but a lot of times they don't want to, and dh doesn't push them to, since she hasn't done any of the stuff she's supposed to be doing.
BM said she was moving to AK because she lost her driver's license, and can't work, so she can't pay her rent, but last week in cs court she said there was no way she would even consider moving to AK. She told the kids over the past month that she was definitely doing this, so there's one more lie they've heard from her.
We are going back to family court in a few weeks, and bm had told dh that she was going to ask the court to force him to send the kids up to AK for the whole summer. She's not even doing what she has to do to exercise her supervised visitation now, why would he send them thousands of miles away to spend the summer there?
We got the papers she filed today. She is motioning for unsupervised visitation, make-up parenting time, and that the divorce decree be amended to state that if she is non compliant he can only withhold the visitation immediately following the incident, not indefinitely. Her affidavit was completely rambling with accusations dating back over the past four years, which were either lies or half truths. I was accused of physically assaulting her.
Seeing all those lies made us both really mad today. But most of the time, it just makes me sad. I don't want the kids to have to go through this anymore. BM knows what she has to do to be a mom, and she won't do it. I wish she would just go away, but mostly I wish she would give this garbage up and straighten her life. Her kids are going to forgive her, and I want to forgive her, but how can we get on with it until she will sober up and start being honest about it? The papers she submitted to the cs magistrate state that according to her doctor, she has no problem with chemical dependency, even though that has already been proven and admitted.