How to get started as a custodial father??

[mistoffolees]

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>No judge will enforce the right of first refusal for a 12 year
>old against a stepparent for 8 hours of classes. Especially
>not against the explicit wishes of the 12 year old child.

I don't believe your statement is factually correct, particularly the 'no judge' part. I would encourage talking with an attorney.

Will some judges go by the kids' wishes at age 12? Sure. Will ALL judges do so? No way.