Kitten -- I'll ask my question again. . . .

[tigger]

Did you post the e-mail of Will's ex-wife on this board down below?  Is that fair to her?  Was that your right to do so?

[kitten]

>Did you post the e-mail of Will's ex-wife on this board down
>below?  Is that fair to her?  Was that your right to do so?

No, it is not my right to do so and today I regret it.  Yesterday was very stressful and I was very angry.  Now that I can think a little more rationally, I realize that was not a good thing to do.  

[joni]

we've all been there Kitten and have done stupid things we regret when in a highly emotionally charged situation.....like your kids moving 3000 miles away.

[wendl]

we all do and say stupid things when we are stressed.

You and Will will get thru this crap.

**These are my opinions, they are not legal advice**

[MYSONSDAD]

You both have been thru a lot. Stress effects everyone differently and you are really standing by your man. I can not imagine what you are all going thru.

Having any kids move so far would be devasting to anyone. Let's hope the court sees it that way too.

Before folks jump the gun, they should walk a step in your shoes.

When you are over this situation and have a year to listen, I will tell you about MY stupid mistakes. Some are real winners, but I am only human. Just like you!

"Children Learn What they Live"

[kitten]

Thanks again.  We just want this all to end.  We go through each day wondering what the next phone call from his oldest son will bring.  What she will do the next time he picks them up for visitation.  When he will be served with more rediculous accusations.  When nothing happens for a couple of days, I know it's because she is plotting something.  

[MYSONSDAD]

Everyday is like a soap opera. Never knowing what to expect. All I can do is take the high road, pick up my son for my visitation, aweful word ,  walk away.

Stress can be overpowering at times. We all have been thru it more times then not...

She is probably lurking here and checking on what is being said. I hope she shows herself. Would love to ask her what the feelings would be if the situation were reversed.

If she takes those kids, they will end up hating her. Their opinion will someday matter. And she will pay an awfully high price.

Some parents just don't get it.

What goes around, comes around. Her day will come.
 
"Children learn what they live"

[catherine]

I tried, but I can't let this go...

"Before folks jump the gun, they should walk a step in your shoes."

Do you think we haven't?  Why the heck are we on this site then?

[kitten]

He was just trying to make me feel better after I allowed myself to sink to "her" level.

[MYSONSDAD]

"Before folks jump the gun, they should walk a step in your shoes."

I am sure a few here would not agree that this was a good idea to post the ex's e-mail address. I personally, do not like passing judgement if I am not in the same situation and under the stress factors involved. Kitten also apoligized for doing this. It took a bigger person to do that.

Maybe you missed her story. Her boyfriend's ex is trying to relocate their 3 minor children to Alaska. I forget the ages, but I think the youngest is only 3.

The distance does not bother me as much as what is best for those kids.
Many children live out of State of the NCP. Travel back and forth and it works out fine.

What does bother me are the reasons behind it.

I would be concerned for daily basic necessities, like medical, educational, running water, electricity and heat. I beleive it was mentioned the nearest hospital was 149 miles away. The average winter temp is -11.

An ex who just remarried. And to a man who has been married 3 times prior. He wants to move back there because of his two daughters, who are actually adults. It would be easier for them to travel then those 3 minor children. This move would also affect the family unit the children feel secure with where they are now. What about their friends and school?

There are many CP's that use moving away as punishment. In this case, the ex is thinking of herself and her needs and that is not what it is all about.

"Do you think we haven't? Why the heck are we on this site then?"

Are you a CP or NCP? You are not familiar to me. Do your children also live far from you?

[kitten]

what I just posted in Father's Issues.

Thank you, MYSONSDAD

[MYSONSDAD]

"Children learn what they live"

[kitten]

Bawling my eyes out right now.  She is doing irreperable damage to the children.  I love my babies and as a mother cannot understand why she would hurt her own this way.  My bf feels helpless, he is being prevented from protecting his own children!  That is a man's right!

[Erika]

Children learn what they live"

Let's hope not in this case or they will end up cheating on their spouses, or alienating them from their parent.

Either way those kids lose.

[kitten]

Gee, I wish everyone could be so enlightened and seem to know the parties involved so well as you Erika.  Shall they go to a foster home instead?

[joni]

Erika, does it make you feel good to kick people when they're down?  do you enjoy rubbing salt in wounds?  

this online community is about supporting one another....

[SLYarnell]

It isnt about agreeing with someone just to make them feel better.

Kitten put herself out here for all to see and on NATIONAL television as well.

I have always said there are two sides to a story and we heard things on the Dr. Phil show that we hadnt been privy to before.

I dont agree that the children should be moved that distance from their father but BOTH sides have some issues that need to be worked on!

[kitten]

You are absolutely right, SLY.  We went on national television to air our "dirt" to try to save the kids.  One of the parents is willing to work on these issues with the other and the other wants to run.  There is alot more to the story than what you all saw on the show.  There was also alot edited out.  I don't expect everyone to just agree with me.

[kitten]

that my ex and I have managed to put aside our loathing for one another for the sake of our two young daughters and things are going quite well.  Neither he nor I would EVER consider taking the other out of our daughters lives no matter what happened between us.  

[wendl]

Erika
I think that was a little harsh, we ALL make mistakes and hopefully we learn from them and teach our children NOT to make the mistakes we have made.

I am in no way saying people should lie and cheat etc but everyone does make mistakes.

We don't know all the staory, both parents have made mistakes and both parents need to work on fixing them for the kids, if both parents agreed and go to the counseling that Dr. Phil recommended it may help, but both parents need to be willing to go in order to do what is right for the kids.

We are parents need to put aside out feeling of hate/betrayle aside and look at what it is doing to our children, many people can't seem to put that aside and are blinded by their feelings to detroy the other person.

**These are my opinions, they are not legal advice**