Ok...as much as I would like to keep this post short and sweet, I'm not so sure I can.

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So here's the story. I'm involved with a man that makes me feel like I'm the only woman alive. He treats me the way all women want to be treated. Great right? Yes! Wonderful. Here's the issue. He has a daughter from a previous relationship. She is as cute as a button. Shy as can be, and did I mention cute as a button?!...LOL Her father loves her to death, and dotes on her in a way that I've never seen before.
This is where the problems start. If she's rude to someone, it's "oh she's just tired", or he'll use humour to cover it up. I've spoken to him about it, but I get " I only see her every second weekend..I have to spoil her to a certain extend". He thinks she's not getting what she needs from her mother (I know she is). He goes on about how she never eats right at her mothers, however I know she doesn't eat right at her father's either "oh, we had a late lunch and she didn't feel like eating much". (so junk food and chocolate cuts it right?)
He's in court battles with the ex, and asks my advice (as I've been through it so much with my ex, I could be a lawyer (paralegal background count?) however won't take it. I could go on and on, I think both he and his ex could benefit from parenting classes, and he's already made an appointment to go to private councelling to deal with other issues.
For ex; here's one recent situation. Last weekend was his mother's b-day. Whole family is home (BIG family). All grandkids there but one. His ex said " this isn't your weekend". This coming weekend (tomorrow) is his daughter's brother's birthday (confused yet?). The ex said "I'd like her to be here for it" Yet this weekend is his weekend with his daughter. So he says " how about if you drop her off Friday night, I'll have a b-day cake here for him, and she can share his b-day". He told me this and I said "Are you serious?!" He asked me why...I clued him in to the fact that if all his friends are going to be there, she's going to want to be there too. He says "well, it's my weekend with her, I want her, why can't I have my cake and eat it too?" I replied" so you want to make her miss her brother's (whom she lives with) birthday party for your selfishness???" "Well...." was all I got. So I suggested that he make arrangements to pick her up immediately after the party and keep her for the remainder of the weekend. "Hmmmm...I didn't think of that" he says. He's so intent on having a pissing match with his ex, that he can't see what's is really happening.
I've been frank with him and told him that the whole situation makes me very uncomfie. He asks me if I'll ever get over it. I told him when he's able to get a better grip on the situation, maybe. I've backed off significantly. It's the only way I know to deal with it right now. Any other suggestions??