Hi Marsha,
Thanks for writing, and no offence taken. I respect a person that can say what they mean, and mean what they say. You know...no BS!...LOL (That's how I am). I agree, I'm a woman with a very strong personality (take it like a man so to speak), and the man in my life needs to be just as strong, if not stronger b/c sometimes I need to be told "no" or " please be quiet - you talk too much"...LOL This man is definately NOT that! No self confidence, no self esteem, questions every action he does, and what he says. I like a sensitive man, but oversensitive is hard. Don't get me wrong - this man has so many good qualities, but sometimes I'm not sure that's enough glue.
I do more often than not feel like a mother to him. I've said a few times that if I wanted a third child, I would have had one...LOL
Like I told kitty, only time will tell. Right now my life is so busy (with my daycare, and I'm going to be moving this weekend, and just "life" in general), that I don't have time to dwell on his problems - so I don't. I have a rule I live by, and I tell him this all the time! "Worry about the things you can control, and the things you can't control..just go with the flow, b/c everythinghappens for a reason".