Hi. My boyfriend has been battling in court for a very long time now. Not over him, but over my 7 year old son at the time. When we became very serious, his ex wife totally lost it. She accused my 7 year old son of being a sexual aggressor towards her 5 year old daughter. She also claimed that this happened many times, and my boyfriend was aware of it, and cared more about us. In fact she said that he even had to use tools to get them out of the bathroom on separate occasions. This was such a painful experience in our lives. especially when we knew that his ex wife completely made everything up. I can not believe she did this to my son. I can not believe she did this to her daughter. Then the big fight began. My boyfriend immediately filed for
full custody. Then we got experts involved. I have to say....from my experience.....Not all experts are very professional. In fact some are very dangerous. Thank God we recorded every session. Of course the therapist was against this, and tried to convince the judge that what we did was illegal. She was so angry with us. Fortunately for us the judge thought our evidence was relevant. It is a very hard thing to go through. We are still going though it, and 4 years have passed. After 2 years the judge demanded that the kids see each other. After all the recording and evidence was provided. Part of us feel so terrible that we had to go to that extent, but we really didn't have a choice. Even after all this, I am so afraid of how my son will be affected by this as a man. How will my boyfriends daughter be affected by this. She is such a terrible person to do this to our kids, and what she did causes everyone to suffer forever. Now the kids act strange with each other. They love each other, but my boyfriends daughter is constantly trying to hug my son, and tell him things like" real brothers hug back" My son loves her but as soon as she comes to hug him he gets very upset with her and basically tells her to buzz off. The more he tells her to buzz off , the more she wants to hug him. Maybe this is just normal children s behavior, but because of this false allegation, I question every thing. Sometimes I don't know what is normal. Now because of all the experts, and the trial, the ex wife has really been acting on her best behavior. I don't think she realized to what extent , and how hard we would fight her. I mean lets face it. If we didn't fight her, and walked away from her, well her daughter would wonder her entire life if she was ever molested, and my son would have been accused or looked down on because of this. These kids did not deserve this. As I wrote already, the ex wife is acting on her best behavior, and she tries
not too manipulate as much. We do know that my boyfriends daughter is very scared of her though. So at this point, we know we will have
joint custody as of June. One expert says if we have joint custody, she will not be able to manipulate her daughter as easily. I hope this works. Honestly I am still afraid though because after all this woman put her daughter and us through, she pretty much got away with it. What I mean is....she didn't get punished. The judge didn't believe her, but she still didn't get punished. She got a slap on the wrist. I think I have no choice but to do a law suit against her, for what she did to my son. If I don't, she may be capable of doing something again. I really hate court, but I think in this situation, I have no choice.
I was reading some posts about false sexual allegations. I don't know who is honest and who isn't. I just know what I have experienced, and its very hard to detect. All I have to say is, if you are truly honest, and have been a victim of a false allegation. Don't think it will be fixed tomorrow. Be patient because you may be in a battle for years. Gather up your evidence, and don't lose hope. Don't lose hope no matter how tough things get.