Davy, I have to ask............who in the heck was that comment directed to?? The OP or shaden? Either way, it was completely uncalled for. Unless and until you know more of the situation, jumping to conclusions is a waste of time and detrimental to the purpose of this thread. There may be extenuating circumstances that prevent the father from stepping to the forefront on this issue. Heaven forbid he's serving overseas and would be prohibited from taking care of this himself, at least immediately. Whatever the reason if the father is immediately unavailable to take care of the situation, thank God this child at least has a grandparent willing to step up to the plate and take care of her.....and keep her OUT of the system.